Mangina Father..?

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

Hey MGTOW,

So my dad is the biggest mangina I know, married to the worst obese narcissist bitch you could possibly have the misfortune to have as your stepmum.

She looks through all his emails/texts/facebook messages and caused him to lose contact with his old friends. Nothing I’ve said to him has knocked any sense into him in regards to how she treats him. He realises she trapped him but would rather stay married with the kid she had by ‘accident’.

Due to being unemployed I was previously living with my dad and witnessed first hand how much she was emotionally abusing him and how much of a simp he is/was for taking it. Whilst I was there I needed to use their laptop to search for jobs as I don’t have one myself.

Now she would normally treat me like s~~~ and I would vent to my sister on facebook as she was in agreement at how messed up she was from how she treated my dad and me: there was one or two occasions I thought I had logged out when I hadn’t and she just happened to look through my messages with my sister (and who knows who else) and obviously confronted me as if I was the bad person despite her reading my PRIVATE messages.

When I found out she had read the messages about her and how much a mangina my dad is I returned home to my mum’s house. It turns out that upon being told about these messages my dad has pretty much sided with her despite me sending an email explaining why I had written these messages about the two and asking why she thought to look through my private messages.

They refused to give a definitive reply and due to this, I chose to cut contact with my dad on top of his bitch of a wife (this will mean no doubt losing contact with my stepbrother and 8 year old half sister who I have nothing against, just their mother).

Do you think I’ve made a good decision? I can’t stand knowing such a mangina of a father but I realise there are those who would say I’m being a naive 21 year old and that I should just accept him because he’s family.

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[DakotaParticipant 341]

Tough going, I know.  The older you get while still at “home”…it just gets worse and worse and worse.  A never-ending cycle of drama.

In your life, from this day forward (from this very f~~~ing second), make it your goal not to rely, trust, need, or in anyway count on anyone at anytime anywhere to provide for you except yourself.  Ever again.  Your trouble stems from that one thing alone.  If you do not learn this lesson, life will drag you around by your ball hairs.  A slave on a plantation has a roof and food to eat.  A free man may suffer.  I choose free.

It can be difficult to find work.  As a man, your life if full of difficult.  That’s what men do best.  There are rewards though.  Others at “home” will take those rewards from a man.  The most precious reward you can earn is the one they will absolutely never let you keep.  These are self esteem, self respect, pride, and self-worth.  AKA your value.  A man with value lacks for nothing.  Now go kick some ass.

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

Dakota wrote:

Tough going, I know. The older you get while still at “home”…it just gets worse and worse and worse. A never-ending cycle of drama.

In your life, from this day forward (from this very f~~~ing second), make it your goal not to rely, trust, need, or in anyway count on anyone at anytime anywhere to provide for you except yourself. Ever again. Your trouble stems from that one thing alone. If you do not learn this lesson, life will drag you around by your ball hairs. A slave on a plantation has a roof and food to eat. A free man may suffer. I choose free.

It can be difficult to find work. As a man, your life if full of difficult. That’s what men do best. There are rewards though. Others at “home” will take those rewards from a man. The most precious reward you can earn is the one they will absolutely never let you keep. These are self esteem, self respect, pride, and self-worth. AKA your value. A man with value lacks for nothing. Now go kick some ass.

Thanks for the reply, I feel I have made the better decision, especially considering you reply.

Life can suck and I hope to be a better person than my dad ever was. There’s plenty I’ve leared from him, such as never smoke and never get married before 30 (something I now know to avoid completely). I hope I learn from what you’ve said too.

In regards to what you’ve said about work, it’s very difficult, I know what I want to do but I don’t have the opportunities to do them. It’s incredibly frustrating. I’ll overcome them though, I’m sure I will 🙂

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[DakotaParticipant 341]

“Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.”

Roger Bannister- First man to run a mile in less than 4 minutes.

[RedHeadedStrangerParticipant 204]

just throw off the gloves when you are around the harpy.  tell your dad you love him and that someone has to put this bitch in check; since he won’t you will.  he will be proud of you, even if he doesn’t side with you.  just walk in, tell her to shut the f~~~ up and go make you and your dad a couple sandwiches, and let the s~~~ hit the fan.  the only way to lose this one is to not fight.  remember, don’t beef with your dad, even if he takes her side.  just focus on her.  if he asks you to leave, leave.  but tell her that you’ll be back and she better have that f~~~ing sandwich ready and waiting in the fridge.  let her know that your dad is more important to you than he can possibly be to her.  he is just the host on whom she feeds.  be f~~~ing brutal.  what do you have to lose that you won’t lose by not speaking?

might be bad advice for you, but I calls ’em likes I sees em’

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

RedHeadedStranger wrote:

just throw off the gloves when you are around the harpy. tell your dad you love him and that someone has to put this bitch in check; since he won’t you will. he will be proud of you, even if he doesn’t side with you. just walk in, tell her to shut the f~~~ up and go make you and your dad a couple sandwiches, and let the s~~~ hit the fan. the only way to lose this one is to not fight. remember, don’t beef with your dad, even if he takes her side. just focus on her. if he asks you to leave, leave. but tell her that you’ll be back and she better have that f~~~ing sandwich ready and waiting in the fridge. let her know that your dad is more important to you than he can possibly be to her. he is just the host on whom she feeds. be f~~~ing brutal. what do you have to lose that you won’t lose by not speaking?

might be bad advice for you, but I calls ’em likes I sees em’

I’m liking the bluntness of your reply but I’m not sure it would work with him, he seems too far gone, she could cheat in front of him and he’d probably accept it and let her, as I said, he’s the biggest mangina I know.

Whenever I told my stepmum what I thought of her she’d take it out on him rather than me as she knew I could stand up for myself. It sounds harsh but I have no sympathy for seeing him destroying himself.

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[Anonymous 11]

Everything is all we’ve got wrote:

She looks through all his emails/texts/facebook messages and caused him to lose contact with his old friends.

Man, I’m really sorry to hear that about your Dad. He’s in an abusive toxic relationship with that woman and well trapped by her. He’s lucky to have a 21 year old son who is wise enough to come here and learn even though he may not realize it yet. Abusers isolate the victim from friends and family in order to exercise control so she will use anything and everything to achieve that goal.

Frankly, there was no decision you could have made that would have been good so do not feel guilty as you at least tried to do the right thing. Try not to harbor any bad feelings towards him as he has been hijacked. I can’t tell you how this will end, but he may be able to turn this into a personal growth opportunity if he were ever to develop the stones to stand up to her. If he ever does, she will absolutely go apoplectic.

You mentioned she was narcissistic. I would look into Borderline Personality Disorder which is more common among women as well as Narcissistic Personality Disorder as the two PDs can intermingle to a degree. I am not a mental health professional so I am not qualified to make a diagnosis, but I once dated a Borderline so I know a little about it. I’d look into coping techniques of dealing with these freaks of nature and the chaos they spread.

Manginas make perfect victims for women with PDs.

[Helen be DamnedParticipant 480]

You can show a man the truth, but if he’s stuck inside a vagina he won’t be able to understand it.

"You can keep your soul, I don't want a cell-mate." - Them Crooked Vultures

[Great-OzParticipant 226]

I see guys everyday that worship the mystical golden vagina and refuse to believe that there is any reason for life beyond getting laid. They literally give away all of their money in an attempt to make some c~~~ happy long enough to get laid and then complain about how miserable. One of these guys that I know is a father of three, only two I’m sure are his, and he still worships at the MGV.

"Life is the future, not the past." Wizard's 7th rule, Terry Goodkind

[BryantParticipant 229]

you have made the right decision my man, it sucks losing touch with family, the road is tough when you uphold what you stand for and i support you and wish you the best brother.

"He who lives with honor dies with honor."

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