Ah internet dating. Let me share a couple of stories. I won’t rave on because I’m sure it all sounds the same so I will try and compress just some of it.
When I was at my peak of internet dating about 10-15 years ago I would follow this pattern. Machine-gun just about every so-called woman with likes, kisses, pokes or whatever the stupid f~~~ the sites like to call their first contact thing that is free.
Generally I’d send hundreds over a few days. Sometimes got me a couple of bites each time (excluding the working prostitutes, f~~~-ugly fat girls, old bags and trannys) I would have my search settings set at slim-to-average and age range from about 10 years younger than me to my age.
I’m slim with good muscle definition for a person who only sporadically works-out. I would say I’m average looking. I’m 5 foot 8, so behind the 8 ball with height as the stupid c~~~s want tall men apparently.
So far I’m sure you are all on the same page.
Anyway when I got one on the communication hook, I’d message for a short while; maybe for a couple of days at the max. Any stupid bitch that just wanted to computer message I gave an ultimatum- talk on phone or meet for coffee or F~~~ OFF. This saved a lot of wasted time.
Some stupid bitches think that leaving you hanging on the computer was a good move. BULLS~~~! One stupid f~~~ actually said to me early on (messaging) ‘I’m not after anything, just a chat-all the guys just want one thing and I’m not like that’. Yeah right, so I f~~~ed her off and of course she pops right back wanting to ‘chat’. In the end, I drove to her place without even talking on phone, and sat in the bathroom in her house while she had a f~~~ing shower (at least she was clean) and then I f~~~ed her and f~~~ed right off. Surely anybody who would ask a stranger to their home, then invite them to come into the bathroom to watch them have a shower is actually a F~~~ING NUTCASE! Maybe I’m a nutcase for participating.
I started a game with myself- could I actually get them to come to my house and f~~~ me without even spending the money on gas, a coffee first or even talking on the phone? Yes!! And at least half a dozen of them invited me to their house without even doing the phone or coffee thing and f~~~ed me while their children slept!!!! I WOULD NEVER DO THAT!!!! Or is that just me? This was over ten years ago. Maybe it’s normal now. I still would not invite some stranger into my house where my children are sleeping and proceed to f~~~ them.
One bitch’s approach after a few drinks was to invite me back to her place and then suggest we share a bath. Wow, I thought, what a great way to break the ice and everything once again is ‘clean’. I used this approach a few times after that. “Hey babe, let’s have a bubble bath, we don’t have to f~~~”. HeHe yeah right!
Anyway I f~~~ed heaps before I settled down with a F~~~ING FREAKING SPATH!!! (who I didn’t meet on the internet but f~~~ me I should have).
So I f~~~ed my Spath off (actually impossible if you have children) and went and tried internet dating again. I’m older now. All the women my age and 10 years younger than me look like my grandma and she’s been dead for 30 years (I’m 49).
So after living with a C~~~ who smashed my personal boundaries on a daily basis, I meet this girl/woman/thing at my local liquor establishment. She was 44. She looked pretty hot in the calm light of night. She drove me home and we f~~~ed. She had a good job, owned her house. We spent a lovely weekend riding my bikes along the beach. We dined at restaurants. I’m thinking ‘yeah, this is nice-I want more of this companionship’.
Now let me show you the RED FLAGS. Firstly, anyone who is looking for a relationship is naturally vulnerable. This vulnerable state allows one to ignore red flags.
Red Flag # 1. – She had weird scars on her forearms and one on her face. (That’s OK maybe she has been in a car accident- I’ll ask her one day)
Red Flag # 2 – She spoke of her dogs as though they were the most important thing in her life. (That’s OK everybody loves their cat or dog if they have one)
Red Flag # 3- She said she was on anti-depressants and had been for 20 years (that’s ok, everybody who needs to take control of their mental health and has done so for 20 years with medication is allowed to) And f~~~ me I will now admit that I’ve recently gone on a drug that treats anxiety and insomnia. If you want to know why, then read my introduction.
Before I tell you about Red flag #4, I will say that she eventually divulged to me that the scars were self-inflicted. DING A F~~~ING LING LING LING!!
Red Flag #4 – I’m a great believer in personal boundaries. In fact I now have a steel-reinforced, 10 metre thick concrete personal boundary. I now know that if you let a bitch push one little personal boundary over, then all she sees is the next one to push over. And so it goes. With each boundary she smashes, she loses respect for you for being a pussy and YOU are BEING a PUSSY.
My boundary in this last case was that she had a dog. I do not dislike dogs. I love well-trained dogs. Her dog was welcome at my house. However, some people don’t mind dogs inside the house and some people feel that a dogs place is outside in the F~~~ING DOG KENNEL!! I don’t live in a dog kennel.
She knew this. So this night I invite her around for fresh oysters (I was shucking them when she arrived) and nice wine. She decides to bring her f~~~ing dog for f~~~ knows why.
She fusses about her dog because she feels it isn’t ‘settling’ and it wants to come inside because it thinks it’s a f~~~ing human. It’s a big hairy thing. She would often complain about the hair it left all over her house. Her car looked like a 1970’s hair coated pimped-out dog kennel.
I’ve got 2 small kids (who weren’t there that night). I have enough s~~~ to clean without adding her f~~~ing dog funk into the mix as well.
So picture this. She has to let the dog inside because it’s sad. I remained calm as she violated this boundary that I had explicitly stated many times. (Many times because she kept asking and pushing)
I’m sitting on my sofa with a glass of wine and all these freshly shucked oysters, soft lighting, music etc. and there she is, cuddling her f~~~ing dog on the floor in front of me. She was choosing her stinking hairy dog over me! Oh well.
Maybe she thought I would let this boundary fall, because after-all, she was going to let her pants fall to let me put my penis inside her vagina.
I calmly sat there and remained firm. She eventually got up and went to put her dog in the car. Apparently this was a better place than 500 square meters of secure front and back yard with a summer temperature of hot and soft grass everywhere.
So she suggested that she has to leave because her poor dog is sad or something. I calmly said ‘ ok then, bye.’ She then texted me saying ‘It’s not working out for me’. I said ‘OK’.
What I should have said was F~~~ OFF YOU BOUNDARY ABUSING C~~~!!!!!!
A few weeks later she started texting me again. Weird texts that were accusatory. I just reminded her that it was she who had ended the ‘relationship.’
What have I learnt? Maybe I should have actually abused the f~~~ out of her. But I didn’t. I remained dignified and firm. Maybe she would have learnt something about herself if I had been a bit more articulate. But that would have hurt her feelings and she might have cried.
Sometimes I feel a battle raging inside me. Do I tell the stupid C~~~S that they are being STUPID C~~~S. Or do I remain poised, calm and dignified?
I would appreciate MGTOW members opinion on this.
As a foot note I should say that in my introduction, down in the thread I apologise and say that I don’t usually use bad language. I still stand by this statement. One can often pepper their everyday speech with bad language. It sounds ridiculous to me. I used to do it. My best friend has a swear-count off the radar. Every sentence seems to have f~~~, s~~~, c~~~ in some form. To me it sounds F~~~ING STUPID to talk like this. The words lose their power. My opinion is that using swear words should be a spice used in moderation or when one is truly incensed.
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