Loneliness

[ChangedParticipant 588]

I had some freaking thoughts before going to sleep, and those were about dying lonely. I imagined that by the time I’ll be 50 most of the people I know now will die one by one.

Under no way is a marriage contract an alternative, unless we want to add the word miserable to loneliness, so I’m not talking about romantic relationships.

So what are we going to do from that age on ?
We have no one to count on but ourselves, maybe that is the meaning of being a man.

But where did that kind of thought came from ? I don’t know.

Matriarchy taxes us. Patriarchy taxes us. No Fucks Given! If they give us pains, lets give them pains. Daily.

[KevinStylesParticipant 2580]

I suppose when you’re a senior you need to be less picky about friends since they die off on a regular basis.

[Mysterious ManParticipant 337]

Loneliness is something that we all have to accept within our lives. The world has gotten progressively worse in the past couple of decades; this video spells it out.

Marriage is by no means a solution to loneliness since you’re substituting one evil for another.

As men, we have to do what we can to survive. We can’t rely on anyone else to solve our problems and make us happy; only we can do so.

The best part about being introverted is that you get to see human nature for what it is and play the social game better than most people. Most people (especially Americans) are awful in some way; it’s hard to find very few people nowadays that are intelligent enough to talk about anything more intricate than sports or the latest gossip between friends. They’ll never amount to anything more than their 401k accounts and their 9-5 jobs.

It doesn’t matter if you die lonely; it only matters that you die happy. Focus on what makes you happy and free yourself from the Matrix. That’s how you can beat the elite.

"Our virtues and our failings are inseparable, like force and matter. When they separate, man is no more." -Nikola Tesla

[Anonymous 13]

Alone and loneliness are not the same things either.

You can be lonely in a crowded room. You can be alone walking a beach or a headland and feel complete well being and happiness.

I’m alone but I’m not lonely.

I will never go back to the empty loneliness I felt in my marriage.

Now THAT was lonely.

[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

In my younger days I was involved in Scooter clubs and the Soul music scene. I had a massive social circle and was quite well known in my small town. As the years went by, I started to realise that most of the friendships I had were pretty superficial.

Everything was good while the going was good but on the few occaisions I needed help myself people would be “too busy”. My Grandad used to say “You find out who your friends are when you ain’t got nowt”. Another one of his sayings was “Never tell anyone what ($),you got”.

I think you are lucky if you can count two or three real friends to be there for you. Everyone else is just a drinking buddy till they get hooked up with a woman.

Eventually I dropped the superficial friends entirely and started to become self reliant.

I used to get lonely for a while, but usually because I was missing some woman. Nowadays I’m happy to be my own master, and modern communications bring the world to your door so it’s not so bad.

Ultimately we all die alone whether we are in a relationship or not. You have to be at peace with yourself and not need constant validation from someone else.

It makes you stronger and more reflective on what matters in life.

That’s the way I look at it anyway.

It's Time to get Wise

[Anonymous 1]

There are times when I feel that way. Then I go out and see how people act and treat each other. How meaningless the conversations are. I go home and talk and spend time with my Dog. Mr Hemi..

Problem solved

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

I’m 56 and I enjoy solitude. The mindless prattle of weak-minded fools merely irritates me. BUT I do enjoy intelligent conversation from time to time.

I read somewhere that loneliness is like a lone flower dying in a desert but it is equally true that a Joshua tree can live alone in the desert for thousands of years. Be the tree.

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

It’s tough to be lonely on a planet with 7 billion people.

As already mentioned, alone and lonely are not the same thing.

Alone = getting the f~~~ away from other egos (a good thing 99% of the time)

Lonely = the state of needing a person or people and not having that need met, and the resultant unpleasant feeling.

If you want to get over being excessively lonely, then work on yourself, get a little philosophy in your life, determine why you are needy and feel incomplete without the company of other egos.

[TuneoutParticipant]

PistolPete wrote:

I’m 56 and I enjoy solitude. The mindless prattle of weak-minded fools merely irritates me. BUT I do enjoy intelligent conversation from time to time.

I read somewhere that loneliness is like a lone flower dying in a desert but it is equally true that a Joshua tree can live alone in the desert for thousands of years. Be the tree.

I hear ya brother,I’m 49 and have a few good friends – I don’t worry about them dying off and not having anymore because thats just ridiculous.

I’m also one of those people that doesn’t believe in the company of a tormentor is better than no company at all.

Just remember YOU choose your friends – don’t let THEM choose you.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[WallyParticipant]

I found This website when I felt lonely and at my lowest, I was surrounded by all the women in my family who were giving me s~~~ for breaking up with my gf at the time. Finding that like minded men existed gave me peace and I have never felt lonely since.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[FrederickTheGreatParticipant 235]

I have a friend in a miserable marriage. He said, “It’s better to be lonely while single than feel lonely while married.”

[ApexScorpionParticipant 602]

I say embrace the possibility of it happening. Let your thoughts flow. Thinking happy thoughts all the time is an impossibility. I’m sure we all have these deep scary thoughts from time to time. Don’t be afraid of your own questions about life.

[ChangedParticipant 588]

Guy you wrote fantastic replies, I don’t even know where do I start to reply to each.

@ Mysteryous man
” it’s hard to find very few people nowadays that are intelligent enough to talk about anything more intricate than sports or ”
– Believe it or not, I found out Sports it is intricate enough, it is not only muscles there. Especially these team sports are very complicated, there is a lot of theory there and there is not space enough to write everything here. But I get it, yeah, people talk about sports, I know what you mean.

@ SpiritRR
– as others have said, being lonely and married is the worst

@ Greg
“..till they get hooked up with a woman.”
And I even hear some guys sometimes making comparisons, saying that guys get married or spend money with them because they feel lonely but women have other reasons for marriage. But many guys agree about that.

@ Kovalsky
“Then I go out and see how people act and treat each other.”
Good point. I think we might forget how much misery other people can bring in our lives. It’s like Adam being thrown out of Garden of Paradise, because he does not know the alternative, its unknown to him. Adam needs a pair of binoculars sometimes.

@ Tuneout
“don’t worry about them dying off”
We worry about them dying, but people no longer want to die today and life expectancy increases.

Matriarchy taxes us. Patriarchy taxes us. No Fucks Given! If they give us pains, lets give them pains. Daily.

[AttonParticipant]

and those were about dying lonely

Dying alone or with friends it makes no difference. But if it is an issue go to Brazil you sure as hell won’t die alone.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[ResidentEvil7Participant 9550]

I don’t mind being alone. I lived about 90% of my 34 years alone. People treated me like dirt growing up, employers rejected every application or interview I ever submitted, and people online also talk s~~~ to me, and I’ve been treated unfair by most. I learned to live alone, and I really don’t mind it. All I need is my movies (HD video and audio), TV shows, Resident Evil games, my computer, my bike and I’m all set. I do have just one friend, and I talk to him on the phone every day, and drive out to see him about every month or so, despite that he lies about everything and lets me down with lame excuses.

So I can live my life like in Resident Evil Extinction, where it’s just me alone in a world of hardly anyone, if anyone. Like I said, all I need is my movies, my shows, my games and my bike and no one else. And if I won a big enough lottery, I literally would live a life as if just me and no one else in the world. I would literally drop off from the grid.

https://themanszone.webs.com/

[Anonymous 13]

FrederickTheGreat wrote:

I have a friend in a miserable marriage. He said, “It’s better to be lonely while single than feel lonely while married.”

Absolutely. The loneliness I’ve felt at times from being single and living alone, pales into insignificance compared to that loneliness I had in the latter years of my marriage.

Knowing the one I had taken vows with to live our lives together as best friends and companions doing nice things into old age, actually just never gave a crap if I lived or died. And nothing I could say or do changed anything. Hell I’d try so hard, suggest days out and holidays and do stuff together.

All my trying just got me frustrated and exhausted and in a terrible funk.

THAT was true loneliness.

Never. f~~~ing. again.

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

I am a very social guy, just need to talk with people. The only time I was lonely was when I was married. Had no one to talk too. So I started looking up old friends, and by and large it worked pretty well. Mostly all in compartments. Friends for courses. Now working on the D and dealing with being alone is a huge part of my lifestyle planning. Even now, just knowing that the D is imminent, has greatly reduced the feelings of loneliness. I count on the fact, that most people my age, that I have been friends with in the past, need more social time. I can offer that.

Really do not give a rats ass about dying alone. Seems like a silly concern. Much more concerned about living fully at each age. My guess is that when 80, finding similarly minded people, in similar conditions will be very easy. Just need to keep the social base wide and maintain contact with everyone. Be the leader, keep in touch, only takes the occasional email.

Let the good times roll

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