life of a white knight?

[MantelarParticipant 77]

guys, this may be a question for another thread, but it seems to apply here since its being recommended.  i haven’t had to deal with my own child custody issues.  but i’m a military officer and have had to help many young guys along with theirs.  a lot of people here recommend involving the authorities early and often.  frankly, i’ve never seen that turn out well.  a man shows up with the cops to enforce a custody order and he’ll more or less immediately be accused of battery or sexual abuse of the children.  not that it will go anywhere, but the accusations pretty much grind the situation at hand to an immediate halt.  plus due to the CYOA public affairs arm of the armed forces, the man is going to have an MPO slapped on him immediately until the matter is adjuticated by the civil authorities.  i realise that aspect of the problem is not something a civilian necessarily has to deal with, though i suppose depending on your job that accusations of that sort could be a massive problem.  is ‘escalating force’ in the experience of those who’ve gone through it, consistently worthwhile?  its important to me because if there’s an efficient way to do it – cheaply – i’d love to know.  the only military divorces i’ve seen go ‘well’ for the man are those where the man is of a high enough paygrade that he can higher a good lawyer to back him up.  these twenty year olds are pretty much been drug over the coals – its an epidemic in the armed forces and for political reasons its not even considered a real policy issue.

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Mantelar wrote:

guys, this may be a question for another thread, but it seems to apply here since its being recommended. i haven’t had to deal with my own child custody issues. but i’m a military officer and have had to help many young guys along with theirs. a lot of people here recommend involving the authorities early and often. frankly, i’ve never seen that turn out well. a man shows up with the cops to enforce a custody order and he’ll more or less immediately be accused of battery or sexual abuse of the children. not that it will go anywhere, but the accusations pretty much grind the situation at hand to an immediate halt. plus due to the CYOA public affairs arm of the armed forces, the man is going to have an MPO slapped on him immediately until the matter is adjuticated by the civil authorities. i realise that aspect of the problem is not something a civilian necessarily has to deal with, though i suppose depending on your job that accusations of that sort could be a massive problem. is ‘escalating force’ in the experience of those who’ve gone through it, consistently worthwhile? its important to me because if there’s an efficient way to do it – cheaply – i’d love to know. the only military divorces i’ve seen go ‘well’ for the man are those where the man is of a high enough paygrade that he can higher a good lawyer to back him up. these twenty year olds are pretty much been drug over the coals – its an epidemic in the armed forces and for political reasons its not even considered a real policy issue.

 

Sir, pleasure to meet you. If I may recommend, definitely get family advocacy involved. In most cases, they will interview both parties (Service Member and Significant Other). They will also keep a well documented paper trail for Unit Commanders and JAG to follow, hence any f~~~ery undertaken can be referenced. Also, in most cases, they will provide support for the Service Member in the form of moral support. It should also be noted that any documentation collected is kept on file for an extensive period of time, and can be transferred from post to post if needed. A certain confidentiality factor is also in place. Any records kept by the Family Advocacy must be subpoenaed by a court. So none of the internal madness that takes place within uniform is not presented unless under dyer circumstances. Even then it is a process.

Hope the info helps at least a little. And yes, alt thread would probably be wise (at least for reference purposes).

Source: 11 years military service/ recently separated / Army

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[BDParticipant 1146]

Mantelar wrote:

military divorces

For your military friends…..

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[Anonymous 11]

Great video BD. I live near some significant military bases. Some of the soldiers’s wives hit the town in full stalking mode when they’re deployed. I’ve heard a few tales over the years from my friends. I heard of another case where the guy came home from Iraq and found 40 acres of his pine trees clear cut and sold. Never trust a woman.

As for the life of a White Knight, it sucks. I should know I used to be one.

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