She got lazy in the interpersonal department.  No sex, no affection, nothing.

I blatantly told her that “You better start f~~~ing your husband or he will find someone else who will”.  It was about like trying to move a glacier.

I started f~~~ing someone else.

Actually after my ex wife and I got married she actually cleaned around the house more. Finished college got a job etc. In fact she stayed busy to the point that I believe that she has an Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. She got lazy in the interpersonal department. No sex, no affection, nothing. I blatantly told her that “You better start f~~~ing your husband or he will find someone else who will”. It was about like trying to move a glacier. I started f~~~ing someone else.

The way I see it, she used you for support to get her fulfillment and she didn’t really care about you. In one way or another, I think women end up using you and it’s not the favor for favor sort of thing.

But I was trying to illustrate that a relationship takes work and a commitment of emotion and time.  Work.  To shirk your responsibilities around the house is not a healthy thing, but to shirk your relationship is another form of laziness, and in the end, a betrayal.

I’m sure that more than one of us has looked at the laundry piled around the hamper and still have put it off to another day.  You pay for that by not having a clean shirt and socks when you get up one morning.

Leaving off putting time in to a relationship can be looked at the same way.  You pay for that by having your man pack his bag and go his own way.  The part the really p~~~es me off is that a woman will have the unmitigated gall to act shocked and surprised when you do.

9 years later she is still trying to get me to come back. I don’t think she will ever stop trying. I could show up with a hot chick when I pick up the kids so she gets the message. I’ve chosen not to do that and took the high road instead. I’ve noticed there is a delusional period after they crash into the wall. She wasn’t any different. I guess I rub it in once in a while. I occasionally will thank her for throwing me out. Of course, not in front of the kids.

Mine worked full time when we got married. Down to part time two years into it. Once the kids came, not at all.

This is a common progression for women. She starts out independent, working full time, and actually lives her own life. Then the relationship progresses to common law and/or marriage, and she slowly starts to change her ways. She starts getting tired, becoming more and more dependent on you, and eventually she becomes the polar opposite of what she was when you first started dating her.

My last relationship was like that. She started out working as a manager of a retail store making 45K/year with benefits. Then she was fired and had to go on employment insurance for a while. She got a new job, but it was 35K per year. Then after about a year of that, she started being tired all the time and missing a bunch of work without pay. By the end of our relationship, she wasn’t working at all. She had a mysterious illness that made her tired all the time. She spent her days in bed and stayed up all night watching her shows recorded on the PVR. It was pathetic.

a buddy of mine told me about a piece of chicken his ex-wife dropped on the kitchen floor and she refused to pick it up.  she walked over it several times and just ignored it.  literally stepped directly over it several times.  finally my buddy says “can you pick up the piece of chicken you dropped”  she says “no. if you don’t like it there, you pick it up.”  now was it laziness or was she just trying to p~~~ him off or both?  probably laziness until he asked her to pick it up, then it turned into i’m going to p~~~ you off because how dare you tell me what to do.  these were grown women too, not children.