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[RoughneckrobParticipant 6]

Hey guys, This is going to a bit long as I am just going to give a little backstory. A couple years back my wife took off with some other guy while I was away at work. A couple months later we decided to try again for my mine and my daughters sake. We moved 6000 kms away and we have been here for two years now. My daughter (10 year old) has been going to school and made a lot of friends here and was very happy. A week ago my wife quit her job and decided she was moving back to her home town to be close to her parents who she says she needs. So, today they got on a plane and left. I’m really upset that my daughter will be so far away and I really don’t know how I will ever get to see her at that distance and with the cost of airfare I really don’t know.

Anyway, that just scratched the surface of it all. I don’t know if I should pack up and quit my job here where I am happy and move back to the unknown to be close to my daughter or not?

🙁 I really don’t know man but I start a new job tomorrow which I have a feeling is going to be a s~~~ty day.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Not a good idea to quit your job in this bad economy. I do feel bad for you, but there’s not much you can do. I guess you can call or write to your daughter and save some money to visit her in a few years?

Best thing you can do is save money and when she gets old enough you can help her pay for school or get her a gift when she goes off to college.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[BDParticipant 1146]

Roughneckrob wrote:

A couple years back my wife took off with some other guy while I was away at work.

Welcome DRN, we have a great group of guys on here.

If she ran off with a guy once, she would do it again, and she has probably gotten away with it on other occasions as well. Personally I would have cut her loose then. She has zero respect for you. 

Our time on this planet is limited, we only have so much of it, do not waste any time or energy on people that do not respect you.

Best of luck, enjoy your new job and chase your dreams,

Welcome to the start of the good life my friend. The road starts tough but the rewards are great!

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[treelville..miamiParticipant 893]

Honestly bro, probably better off without the wife. My ex took off back to her parents with my daughter a few years ago, it hurts and f~~~ yea it sucks flying back and forth to see my kid, the s~~~ adds up but that’s the situation.

Welcome btw, it’s gonna be painful not seeing your kid, but try and make it work ya know however ya can Skype, face time, letters, so take it easy on yourself it could be worse and Good luck on that job. Let us know how it goes. Cheers.

"The wounds of honor are self inflicted"

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Get yourself to a reputable lawyer tomorrow asap.

F~~~ your wife but find out about your daughter as …. your wife took her from the family home, her school and friends. It may not be too late to get her back as she’s ‘settled’ where you are.

You MUST do this tomorrow as every day that passes, your daughter will become settled back there.

Seek advice please bro.

Please please come back and let us know what’s happening. We know what you’re going through and even if it’s just for a chat or vent …. we … each and every one of us…. stands beside you.

You are not alone in this ok?

 

[kizellParticipant 368]

Do not quit your job

Hire a lawyer

Do not get angry with her, as much as you would like to, don’t do it.  Keep a level head

Do not allow yourself to be threatened but do not make threats yourself

Do not quit your job.

[RoyDalParticipant]

ILiveAgain wrote:

Get yourself to a reputable lawyer tomorrow asap.

Repeat, get yourself to a reputable lawyer tomorrow asap. By reputable, I mean one who will really in fact take your side in all this. Keep in mind the lawyers and judges go to the same golf clubs and c~~~tail parties. Choose wisely.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BDParticipant 1146]

ILiveAgain wrote:

Seek advice please bro. Please please come back and let us know what’s happening. We know what you’re going through and even if it’s just for a chat or vent …. we … each and every one of us…. stands beside you. You are not alone in this ok?

ILiveagain, just on a personal note, your contributions are fantastic!

Many thanks for sharing with all of us brother.

Cheers

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[CatoParticipant 65]

You came to this website man. So in your heart of hearts you already know what you have to do. SO GO DO IT. Knowing you have the support of everyone here.

[J.D SilvernailParticipant 383]

First you should get a divorce. Then you should get full custody of your daughter and make your wife pay alimony,child support, and make her watch you f~~~ a hotter woman(cuckquean her). That is my advice. Take it or leave it.

I'm married to the game,but she broke her vows.

[narwhalParticipant]

Agree with others 100%.  Get a lawyer ASAP.   Get familiar with the family law in your state.  There is a chance that she cannot take your daughter to another state like this.  As part of my divorce decree (in Texas), my ex is not allowed to move the kids primary residence outside of the county and contiguous counties.

Do not quit your job, certainly not until you know all the facts.   Do not just move at the whim of your wife.  Do not send them any money, unless ordered to by the court.  She either expects you follow and continue to support her, or doesn’t really care what you do.  Either way, your response should be the same.  This is not the time to make compromises and concessions.

I understand that you want to see your daughter, and your suffering from missing her.  You need to set the right example for her and not cave into manipulation.  Stand up for your rights the way you’d want her to stand up for her own.  She may not see what you’re doing for you and for her right away, but she will.

 

Ok. Then do it.

[AntaresParticipant 208]

Roughneckrob wrote:

I’m really upset that my daughter will be so far away and I really don’t know how I will ever get to see her at that distance and with the cost of airfare I really don’t know.

Leave happiness to chase misery.

Think about that. I was in that position years ago and think of how much my life would have turned to crap if I had gone that route. Don’t let your emotions lead you to a path of destruction.

Price is what you pay, value is what you get. -- Ben Graham

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