Just about over my ex, but a few hang ups tnx for help

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Hey boys, about 80%+ out of a really toxic relationship with this woman who ended up having a million red flags that sent me spiraling into this crazy depression; but I have a few final hang ups that are still getting me.

1:She worked as a flight nurse and I was OBSESSED with her job for a long time – due mainly to her and my interest in helicopters and rescue. She CONSTANTLY bragged how ‘she saved this guy, that guy’ etc etc, but the reality was in my mind all I could think about was her flying around the state/mountains going to these cool calls, landing and ‘saving the day’. I have some serious envy, that she gets to live and see this great state from the air, meanwhile I’m grinding in an office.

2: She was ultimately married/lived with guy – she never told me until I figure it out near end and was major reason I left, but it p~~~es me off she KNEW what was up, and can go back to her happy little life and I was left emotionally wrecked, she goes back to being the big flight nurse saving the day and Im the boy left behind.

3. If I was ‘stronger’ I could have kept my heart out of this and f~~~ed her endlessly for a while (I rarely think of this, as the marriage thing could bring some real pain if the husband found out.)
3a: I considered myself moral and I have a bit of an identify crisis that I was involved in an affair, wtf happened to me?!

4: The thought I ‘owe’ her an explanation why I dropped her so hard and never looked back, this was a woman we said ‘love you’ to each other.

5. Her crimes were essentially: lie by omission (husband/lived with him) and constant putdowns of me /brags of her yet I try to excuse it as ‘she never meant to hurt me’ major stockholm syndrome I know. That I ‘loved’ her so I shouldnt hold hate, that I should try to be friends, etc.

Anyway any help to annihilate these last vestiges of this bitch would help huge, thanks!

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

My best advice to you is take this experience and learn from it. Yeah, it hurts. Lose her number and/or email address. Unfriend her on Facebook (that is if you even use social networking sites at all). Let it all go, and move on. You are better off without her especially if she wasn’t upfront with you about being married. Concentrate on improving yourself now, and if there is a career out there that you really want that will give you the fulfillment you need, work towards it!

[PloetzeParticipant 11]

never say i love you to a woman
woman: i love you = you care for me
man: i love you = i will care for you

[Gratus84Participant 60]

LightBringer wrote:

She CONSTANTLY bragged how ‘she saved this guy, that guy’ etc etc,

Having come out of nursing school last fall and had my fair share of talking to women in nursing that were unaware of that fact; my blood pressure rose reading that. There are a lot of nurses that are self-righteous and arrogant about this “saving lives” etc. etc. but their behavior at work would tell a different story of them talking s~~~ and violating HIPPA laws.

Does the husband know she was cheating on him with you?

F~~~ man he’s got to know, that’s seriously screwed up. She’s probably out there screwing some around with some other guy on her husband. SMH

[BDParticipant 1146]

LightBringer wrote:

woman we said ‘love you’ to each other.

Saying “I love You” is meaningless. I’ve heard it hundreds if not thousands of times from many different women.
“I love you” is one of a woman’s best ways of manipulating you,
Never judge a woman by what she says, JUDGE HER BY HER ACTIONS.
She said ” I love you” but she was living with/ married to/, and f~~~ing another man.
She’s a low class pig. You lost nothing when removing her from your life.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[RoyDalParticipant]

rebelandboltman wrote:

My best advice to you is take this experience and learn from it.

Said it for me. Heed him.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Cap285Participant 6007]

RoyDal wrote:

rebelandboltman3777 wrote:

My best advice to you is take this experience and learn from it.

Said it for me. Heed him.

I’m with this too.

Learn from it and never forget.

Never.

Fuck this planet.

[Anonymous 11]

Lightbringer:

“I love you” from any woman is nothing but hot air. Stay the course you have charted. She is garbage. If you were to have a relationship with her, you’ll be the one getting cheated on, and you can take that to the bank. Also, there’s at least several other c~~~s involved on a rotating basis that you never knew about. She probably has regular booty calls all over your state via her airborne taxi. Once a cheater, she is always a cheater.

You owe her nothing. Life throws us experiences to grow and learn from. This is yours. She never told you she was married. That was very disrespectful on her part. I had one recently not tell me her ex husband from whom she’s still not detached is a f~~~ing Navy SEAL trained killer extraordinaire. I cut that cord very quickly. They are notorious for this s~~~. You really don’t know what you’re f~~~ing with when you’re messing around with another man’s woman.

Stay strong, and we’re all pulling for you.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

She left me pretty emotionally manipulated, it was pretty bad. She beat me down (emotionally) all the time, but it was backhanded, subtle ways that could be denied. Things like me telling a story, ‘hmm thats interesting, btw did I tell you about how cool my day was!?’ and proceed to tell me, ALWAYS ALWAYS bragging, and outright told me some of my stuff was boring/dumb.

Addicted to the sex and attention, I WANTED her attention, because I was/am damaged and put up with her abuse just to get a fix.

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

LightBringer wrote:

1:She worked as a flight nurse and I was OBSESSED with her job for a long time – due mainly to her and my interest in helicopters and rescue. She CONSTANTLY bragged how ‘she saved this guy, that guy’ etc etc, but the reality was in my mind all I could think about was her flying around the state/mountains going to these cool calls, landing and ‘saving the day’. I have some serious envy, that she gets to live and see this great state from the air, meanwhile I’m grinding in an office.

2: She was ultimately married/lived with guy – she never told me until I figure it out near end and was major reason I left, but it p~~~es me off she KNEW what was up, and can go back to her happy little life and I was left emotionally wrecked, she goes back to being the big flight nurse saving the day and Im the boy left behind.

3. If I was ‘stronger’ I could have kept my heart out of this and f~~~ed her endlessly for a while (I rarely think of this, as the marriage thing could bring some real pain if the husband found out.)
3a: I considered myself moral and I have a bit of an identify crisis that I was involved in an affair, wtf happened to me?!

4: The thought I ‘owe’ her an explanation why I dropped her so hard and never looked back, this was a woman we said ‘love you’ to each other.

5. Her crimes were essentially: lie by omission (husband/lived with him) and constant putdowns of me /brags of her yet I try to excuse it as ‘she never meant to hurt me’ major stockholm syndrome I know. That I ‘loved’ her so I shouldnt hold hate, that I should try to be friends, etc.

Anyway any help to annihilate these last vestiges of this bitch would help huge, thanks!

ANSWER KEY:

1. Envy of exploring the state: Get a bike or a fast car and do some exploration of your own. Envy of her saving the day: Get out there and help someone who really needs it, someone who really deserves a little help. Or take the lazy route and send some money to the Mayor of MGTOWN like I did lol. When I was on my way to sturgis this year, I bought doughnuts for my friends in the morning, only to find out that I was the late riser and they had all eaten breakfast already. Later that morning, I presented that big box of donuts and muffins to a guy along the road that had a sign “there is no pride in hunger.” He thanked me and called me brother. He was clearly ex-service and down on his luck. It made ME feel good.

2. Befriend her husband, and when you are introduced to her, act as if you already know her – which you honestly do. When he asks how you know her, don’t say anything. Later, if he presses you on the issue, and if you think that he deserves the truth, you can tell him that you used to bang her until you found out that she’s married. This is a tough one, and may not be recommended, but he probably deserves the truth. She might even confess to him if you give it some time. That might make her happy little life a bit less envyable. Remember, you did the right thing, and have nothing to hide. If you don’t tell him, she is still going to be pretty uncomfortable.

3. Men are wired to fall in love. It’s nature. You fell for the princess fantasy, and now you know that she is no princess. This gave you the strength to leave. Her lies made you fall out of love. Nothing you can control, nothing to feel bad about.

3a. You didn’t KNOWINGLY participate in the affair. You ended it when you found out she was married. There is nothing wrong with you. What happened to you is that you were deceived.

4. You owe her nothing. She was lying to you about her marriage. She was lying to you about loving you. Sorry, bro. Women don’t love the way men do. They just use the word to manipulate men.

5. She did not set out to hurt you. She never even gave it any thought. She won’t be “hurt” by you leaving her alone. She will land on her feet. You do not need to remain friends with a liar. You are not in the wrong for leaving, and she f~~~ing well knows it. She was the one toying with your emotions, not the other way around. You are not her White Knight, because she is clearly no princess.

Just my opinions though, take them or leave them. I know that your pain was/is real, as I have felt it before. I wish you the best, and good luck. Don’t compromise your moral code, or #3a will bite you right on the ass.

BVC

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Im having a werid dejavu here, Viking did you edit your post or something? I could swear I saw your post like days ago and commented thanks on it…

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

No deja vu. lol
It seems that my posts from that night disappeared somehow. I re-upped this one because it was still in my text editor. Looks like your response disappeared too? Anyhow, there have been some glitches in the matrix lately. Usually when Keymaster changes something?

lol

Cheers, brother.
BVC

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 25019]

She sounds like an abusive bitch. I would tell her husband, you owe it to your fellow man to let him know his wife is breaking the one rule of marriage that is actually one of the ten commandments.

Don’t do it out of malice. Do it out of kindness.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

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