I've Grown Accustomed to Her Face

[narwhalParticipant]

Scientifically speaking, it’s my understanding that the human brain will start to fill in the gaps of what we don’t know about a person, and it’s always in a positive light. So in this context, it’s not so much that you grow accustomed to her as it is that you’re brain has decided she’s got a good personality. It’s decided that the part of her body you don’t see in the picture is exactly what you wish it to be.

The same goes for conversations. You read her response in the voice and inflection you want her to have, with the facial expressions you want. Similar for phone conversations. You’re filling in the gaps.

I don’t think this is all bad though in a general sense. It’s just something to be aware of.

I do think ‘growing accustomed’ is really a different thing that sort of enables genuine love. It’s what allows people (mostly men it seems) to stay in love with someone despite bad behavior and changing appearance. Women really should be extremely grateful for this, as expect in rare cases, it’s the only thing that keeps a man staying with a woman after she’s become bitter, her looks are faded, and the kids are all grown and out of the house.

Ok. Then do it.

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