It's just how women talk at work?

[dobsin593Participant 239]

I noticed at my place of work over the years in being around groups of women in the lunch room and elsewhere in the workplace something that struck me.
Regarding what they talk about. It’s always gossip, slander and ridicule of some person they are talking about.Targeting and attacking others at work with their malicious gossip to hurt or trash others.
Because of this I have seen many a person whose name, identity and workplace credibility was destroyed partly at the hands of groups of these gossip mongers tearing others down. The crap that comes out of their mouths spreads like wildfire.

The amazing thing is that there is a law regarding defamation of character whereby it is illegal to falsely cause damage to someone’s well being or career in the workplace:
Any intentional false communication, either written or spoken, that harms a person’s reputation; decreases the respect, regard, or confidence in which a person is held; or induces disparaging, hostile, or disagreeable opinions or feelings against a person.

How is it women are allowed to do this in a perfectly legal manner because it’s just chit chat or ‘That’s just how women talk’?

[Anonymous 43]

awalt.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

Because you can’t prove in a court of law who started a rumor. Now if they put their crap in writing that you can tie to them, you have a case.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

dobsin593 wrote:

How is it women are allowed to do this in a perfectly legal manner because it’s just chit chat or ‘That’s just how women talk’?

Double standards.

“All animals are equal. Some animals are more equal than others.” – George Orwell – Animal Farm

It’s the carrot on the string in front of the donkey. You’ve bucked your rider and can now taste the carrot.

MGTOW brother.

[Anonymous 0]

Cackle, cackle.
Who let the hens out?
Lions not care about the opinions of sheep.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

dobsin593 wrote:

‘That’s just how women talk’?

Not exactly. It’s how women “fight” and operate. There is a very important difference between how men and women use and understand “force”. Men use fists, bombs, guns and knives to neutralize a threat. Women use social manipulation, emotional terrorism, backstabbing and ostracizing from a group.

And WHY??
Because –>> that’s what hurts them the most.

So it’s a different kind of warfare. Approaching it any other way would be like fighting a ground war in the air with fighter jets. In order to “win”, you need to use the same kind of weaponry – or at least understand how your enemy fights. Then you will begin to learn how to beat them at their own game.

What hurts a woman more? A fist to the face?
Or being totally ignored.

Bruises heal . . . . but abandonment issues are forever.

You can do much more damage to a woman – permanent, internal damage – by ignoring her completely. Shutting them out hurts much worse. That’s “devastating” to them. Because they have no ammunition or power to manipulate and backstab you anymore. It destroys her from the INSIDE , and she does all of the work herself.

dobsin593 wrote:

How is it women are allowed to do this in a perfectly legal manner

Just because something is “legal” doesn’t make it RIGHT. Right? It’s also “legal” for you to turn the tables on her. All types of unfairness are actually a GOOD thing, because there is always a way to make that unfairness work in YOUR favor.

“So how was your weekend? Do you have a girlfriend? What did you do last night?”

Answer her, and you just give her ammunition to destroy you.
You’re directly funding terrorism. No joke.

So you make a professional ( and personal ) policy. . . . .

“I’m sorry. I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work”.

“OMG what??”

“This is place of business. Not a place to chat. I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work. It’s unprofessional.”.

“But I was just ….. “

“I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work.”.

“But ….. “

“I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work.”.

You can say that right to an HR bitch’s face and there’s not a goddam thing she can do about it. Any problem she has with that, and you nail her for it. Because you’re a PROFESSIONAL and she isn’t. Use your imagination here. To beat women at this game, you just have to be more creative.

Refusing to answer a woman’s personal questions – and giving her nothing to gossip about – is INFURIATING to them. Work that s~~~.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

PS.

If you want to remain even more neutral, you can also maintain:

“I don’t speak to people/anyone at work about anything other than work.”.

Then she can’t accuse you of being a “misogynist”, or a sexist asshole who “hates women”. Don’t give her that out. Deny her this satisfaction. Never tell any woman what you’re really thinking. And never discuss anything but work at work. No woman will ever be able gossip or backstab you at all. She wants to know if you have a girlfriend? boyfriend? wife? what MOOD you’re in today? etc… leave her wondering and let her drive her crazy.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[dobsin593Participant 239]

I have recently tried the ignoring them thing, experimenting with it. It does wonders to allow you to focus on your stuff. Showing them in any way that they irritate you is the worst thing a guy can do.
I guess that makes them feel empowered.
The ignoring them thing actually works.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

dobsin593 wrote:

Showing them in any way that they irritate you is the worst thing a guy can do.

Yes. Always smile. If you’re annoyed don’t show it. Smile more. You want the worst thing she can complain about to be that you “smiled at her”.

“I asked him what he did this weekend.”

“And so what did he say???”

“Nothing. He just SMILED!”

“What an asshole!!!”

“I know, right?”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I just learned to give out pre-scripted funny responses like:
– what did you do this weekend?
– hacking the elections of course

I learned this from PUA materials – woman crave information about you, so never give it to them. instead use it as an opportunity to instill mystery and make a joke

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

I teach high school students and I love it, but I’m there for the formation of the young men. Overhearing the girls talk makes me sick. The level of nastiness is off the charts.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Russky wrote:

– what did you do this weekend?
– hacking the elections of course

lol good one.

Russky wrote:

woman crave information about you, so never give it to them

It’s really true. A “date” is not a date. You’re being interrogated. Say as little as possible. You could say you’re allergic to cats and she will twist it into a reason not to sleep with you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[HitmanParticipant]

i stay away from women at work,
especially if there is more than one.
the hive mentality buzzes to life,
and no one is safe.
ghost them as much as possible.
makes life so much easier!

[StormtrooperParticipant 1080]

Keymaster wrote:

PS.

If you want to remain even more neutral, you can also maintain:

“I don’t speak to people/anyone at work about anything other than work.”.

Then she can’t accuse you of being a “misogynist”, or a sexist asshole who “hates women”. Don’t give her that out. Deny her this satisfaction. Never tell any woman what you’re really thinking. And never discuss anything but work at work. No woman will ever be able gossip or backstab you at all. She wants to know if you have a girlfriend? boyfriend? wife? what MOOD you’re in today? etc… leave her wondering and let her drive her crazy.

Duuuuuuuude, I am totally using that.

Having a girlfriend is like owning a gun, the longer your around it, the more you want to shoot it.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

Russky wrote:

I just learned to give out pre-scripted funny responses like:
– what did you do this weekend?
– hacking the elections of course

I learned this from PUA materials – woman crave information about you, so never give it to them. instead use it as an opportunity to instill mystery and make a joke

I figured that out while still young. The more quiet and mysterious you are around them, the more they want to find out about you. I learned this in elementary school.

A couple years ago I was at a business class with other agents for a week, we were all 30+ years of age. After the second day I had three different girls sniffing around me. I never shared anything personal about myself, would laugh at the instructors bad jokes, and I would smile. That is literally all it took to get the attention of the girls. 20+ years after elementary school and they are still exactly the same. I actually turned down the 30 something single mother who asked me out. Anyone with eyes knew she was there to get her f~~~ on.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

Russky wrote:

I just learned to give out pre-scripted funny responses like:
– what did you do this weekend?
– hacking the elections of course

I learned this from PUA materials – woman crave information about you, so never give it to them. instead use it as an opportunity to instill mystery and make a joke

Love it! I always answer questions with questions. It shuts down so many arseholes.

Below is the entirety of a real conversation I had once;

So what’s your star sign?
Why do you ask?
What?
Why do you want to know what my star sign is?
Just… making conversation.
…
END

What I wish I’d added in hindsight is the Tyler Durden classic:
“You’re a conversationalist. How’s that working out for you? Being conversational?”

Notice that she didn’t actually get conversational.

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