It’s a Mirage

[SpleeferParticipant 958]

I was at a team dinner with two male colleagues from work. It was a new working group, but they knew each other prior. So they were asking about how each other’s lives are going. They basically went down a list to compare each other and to flex me. How’s your kids, wife, car, house, property, ATV, motorcycle, and health? They both have great marriages, each over the 20 year mark.

750k Houses, 250k cabins, 100k property, toys, and great long lasting love. I walked away a little jealous to be honest. The “what if’s” started to creep into my mind. What if my ex didn’t leave? I’d have a 3/4 million dollar home too. I’d have a cabin. I’d have toys. And so on.

Well I’d like to say I shrugged it off with some red pills. Nope, it kept bothering me. Then I said Spleefer, “You better get your mind right. “. So I did my bills…

0 credit card debt
0 vehicle loans
1 house note that will be paid off in 11 years max.
Plenty of cash
Peace and Quiet

My mind is right as rain now. Don’t be deceived by the blue pill. Take proper stock of your life and compare it to no man.

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Spleefer wrote:

They basically went down a list to compare each other and to flex me. How’s your kids, wife, car, house, property, ATV, motorcycle, and health? They both have great marriages, each over the 20 year mark.

Well congrats to them.
The “what ifs” we tend to look at always seem to be the positive ones.
I cant do what ifs anymore, knowing what I know about myself.
What if i stayed married?
I probably would have ignored my injuries as best as I could and worked myself to death.
Failing that I may have gotten my ass shot off or blown up and died overseas.
Failing that I may have sucked off a shotgun because I didn’t see the damage she was doing.
Failing that I may have died penniless and homeless.
I didn’t and neither did you

I got rid of the woman/women. Now I dont envy anyone their lot in life. I have enough for me, and I am content.

For every good “what if”, there is a negative one and vice versa.

Spleefer wrote:

Take proper stock of your life and compare it to no man.

There it is.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

Soon enough, every one of us will be dead and all of this will be forgotten forever.

Their toys and money won’t help them. Be at peace.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22515]

Spleefer wrote:

I was at a team dinner with two male colleagues from work. It was a new working group, but they knew each other prior. So they were asking about how each other’s lives are going. They basically went down a list to compare each other and to flex me. How’s your kids, wife, car, house, property, ATV, motorcycle, and health? They both have great marriages, each over the 20 year mark.
750k Houses, 250k cabins, 100k property, toys, and great long lasting love. I walked away a little jealous to be honest. The “what if’s” started to creep into my mind. What if my ex didn’t leave? I’d have a 3/4 million dollar home too. I’d have a cabin. I’d have toys. And so on.
Well I’d like to say I shrugged it off with some red pills. Nope, it kept bothering me. Then I said Spleefer, “You better get your mind right. “. So I did my bills…
0 credit card debt0 vehicle loans1 house note that will be paid off in 11 years max.Plenty of cashPeace and Quiet
My mind is right as rain now. Don’t be deceived by the blue pill. Take proper stock of your life and compare it to no man.

When you have all that expensive stuff, it has to be maintained regularly, and that costs time and money. And stress comes along with that.

You dont want to be theone that owns the boat. You want to be friends with the guy who owns the boat. You bring a 6-pack and enjoy the boat a few hours,then go home.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

And those guys lack the introspection to realize that their unicorns run cost benefit analysis and also calculate all of the assets they have acquired in the marriage. Without coming to terms with the fact that:

01: Over the course of a 20 year marriage, their wives have had c•ck other than their husband’s

02: Their unicorns only stayed around so long because those guys were the best deal they could secure. Had better, alternate options existed, they would have rolled out at some point.

03: The wives know that they own at least half of everything but will own all of it if their husband does first

04: Those guys unknowingly (under the guise of bragging) we’re actually listing the total cost of maintaining a charade over the course of two decades

It is all a charade and a facade.

Every aspect of it. From day one until either a guy consciously wakes up and gets out or dies, having never been aware of the lie he was living.

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

“Let a man who wants to find abundance of employment procure a woman and a ship: for no two things do produce more trouble if you begin to equip them; neither are these two things ever equipped enough.”

— Plautus

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Spleefer wrote:

750k Houses, 250k cabins, 100k property, toys, and great long lasting love. I walked away a little jealous to be honest. The “what if’s” started to creep into my mind. What if my ex didn’t leave? I’d have a 3/4 million dollar home too. I’d have a cabin. I’d have toys. And so on.

It all seems so good. Until you find out what’s really going on. And there is nothing wrong with wanting that. But if you knew what you had to do to protect that? You might think twice.

You have to ask, why do these women stay? ANd how long till it falls apart. Sure some get lucky. But much of it has to do with outside forces.

There are women that will stay with you for the entire long haul. I.E. Swimcat. But what did it take? That’s the part that people have been trying to figure out. Well, like it or not, there ARE women like that. But its like a community effort. And those women need to see the VALUE of what they have.

My sister for example looks to her friends. Almost NONE of them are in GOOD relationships. None of them have Solid husbands. The ones that do, live very well. And, that keeps her in check. Now she has started working. She in that danger zone.

The thing is, the people she is around is WAY more important then you think. And the more women that ENVY her life, the more she is going to stay. And like it or not, Women today are seeing the message that Marriage is a one time deal. You are NOT going to get a BETTER man then the one you got. And it’s important to remind her of her status.

Like it or not, as a married guy, you REALLY have to protect what you got. And understand that what you have IS VALUABLE to OTHER MEN, women and the state.

Take a look at women in the democratic party. Vs, those on the Republican side. Have you noticed their attitude is different? Again, if its shameful to break apart a home, and other women are DEAD SET on making sure other women stay in line so THEY can have what they want as well, this works REALLY WELL!

Like it or not, the Divorce life is no life at all for women. And other women in her social circles DO NOT LIKE SINGLE WOMEN. THEY ARE A THREAT! Same with SINGLE men. That’s how you can explain suburbia. Why it looks like they have better women. In fact, its simply that the TRASH is kept out. Self respect is the game. And there is controls in place.
You just don’t see them.

And each and every day, there is a C~~~ trying to break ALL OF IT that did not get the SAME Treatment. That’s why Andrea DWORKIN levied so hard to make feminism the MAINSTREAM. No man was willing to write that check. So, women that lose out can only do the one thing that is going to make that hamster brian happy. RUIN IT FOR OTHER MEN AND WOMEN.

Like it or not, these men have friends in high places. THat’s key part. The other is to make sure she gets what she needs. ANd like it or not, many of these women have a Quirk to them. It’s not all fun and roses if you ask the kids. And they still have Plenty of issues.

The GRASS. Its only green due to it being Astro-Turf.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Security for a woman, they own half or more your s~~~ whether they stay with you or not.

Security for a man, a woman can’t legally rob you of half or more of your s~~~ because she’s bored.

Just remember brother, its an illusion. Those guys can have their wallets ripped out through their hearts on a whim if their cupcakes desire. Look out for your security before some woman’s.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22515]

Max Power wrote:

“Let a man who wants to find abundance of employment procure a woman and a ship: for no two things do produce more trouble if you begin to equip them; neither are these two things ever equipped enough.”
— Plautus

“I didn’t get married to take care of someone, I got married to be taken care of.” – Francine Smith, American Dad

“People ask me what its like to own a boat. I tell them ‘Stand under a cold shower, and tear up $100 dollar bills.'” – Boat Guy at Dock, American Dad

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Spleefer wrote:

750k Houses, 250k cabins, 100k property, toys, and great long lasting love. I walked away a little jealous to be honest.

Don’t be jealous. The guys with all of these toys are probably up to their eyeb~~~~ in debt. And you can be sure these guys are busting a gut to keep their cupcake in baubles. The guys can lose all of their toys in one day with one phone call.
I know I did.

When you have a woman who encourages her husband to work like a farm animal, you can be sure she doesn’t love the guy.
The marriage simply subsidizes her flings with chad. Once she squeezes every last dime from her husband, she will be gone

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2729]

Spleefer wrote:

They basically went down a list to compare each other and to flex me. How’s your kids, wife, car, house, property, ATV, motorcycle, and health? They both have great marriages, each over the 20 year mark.

Ah yes… the golden handcuffs.

Been there, done that. Lost it all after a 17 1/2 year marriage, and got the Divorce Rape T-Shirt.

I prefer the simple, peaceful life I have now.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

And today on. . .

🗣️ ‘The Daily Accounting & Financial Costs of Maintaining a Charade Show’

‘Our first caller is Brian calling in from Betaville, Walleton. . .’

👨 ‘Hi! First time caller. Long time listener. Love your show. Wanted to call in today to go over my wealth & assets. Married 20 years to a pumpkin. Best one out of the patch. We own a $750k house, vacation property, boat, have a huge nest egg and everything is going great. . . Pumpkin is with me though, due to the unconditional love she has for me and doesn’t think about money at all’

LOL

[MATRIXParticipant 2342]

I was married for 26 years then got the one phone call.

The Length of marriage is therefore MEANINGLESS.

A slore will make the call after 3 days or 30 years.

#STAY THE F~~~ AWAY.

There is NO wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.

[MonkParticipant 16988]

Spleefer wrote:

They both have great marriages, each over the 20 year mark.

Just getting about right for the ‘silver divorce’ phenomenon then. She will be waiting until his pension is maxed out. The day he retires, she files for divorce.

… 750k Houses, 250k cabins, 100k property, toys …

And they will be in debt up to their ears. Much of their stuff is on tick. I remember seeing a bumper sticker many years ago – “This car may be old, but it’s paid for and in front of you”.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3763]

Monk wrote:

I remember seeing a bumper sticker many years ago – “This car may be old, but it’s paid for and in front of you”.

Nice. I like that.

Also: “All that really belongs to us is what we can carry away from a ship wreck.” -Seneca

I remember something a hitchhiker I picked up said to me once. He said that he didn’t have any keys. Basically he sold his car and left his apartment. All he had was his backpack and the things in it. No keys: that’s pretty symbolic.

[EGParticipant 1852]

Spleefer wrote:

0 credit card debt0 vehicle loans1 house note that will be paid off in 11 years max.Plenty of cashPeace and Quiet
My mind is right as rain now.

Okay, Peter Pan!

Just kidding…those men’s stories are still being written. Their ultimate fate hasn’t come yet. And when it does, odds are that they won’t be as in-control of theirs as you will be of yours.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

iMickey503 wrote:

The thing is, the people she is around is WAY more important then you think. And the more women that ENVY her life, the more she is going to stay. And like it or not, Women today are seeing the message that Marriage is a one time deal. You are NOT going to get a BETTER man then the one you got. And it’s important to remind her of her status.

There’s a theory that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. And it makes sense. Those are the people you have the most conversations with. I remember when my ex started hanging out with one of my oldest daughter’s old teachers. She was divorced and I’m sure it felt great to my ex to go over and have a nice quiet bottle of wine with no kids running around. I figured that was bad for our marriage and I was right.

That’s probably why my married friends don’t get a kitchen pass very often to hang out with me. They don’t want the workhorse to get any ideas.

Order the good wine

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

Being alone you control your own destiny. Being married means that the woman pretty much owns you. Sure you can get out but it will cost you. Those men with the 20 year plantation watch, through no fault of their own, can lose it all in an instant.
And they’ll also have to give the watch back. These men have to also consider that while staying married, they are building even more wealth and assets to which she will get at least half of when she decides that they are no longer useful. The whole what if scenario also works another way. Some men want to leave but cannot stomach taking the massive hit and starting over.
Be happy where you are at Spleefer. You are in a good place.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Monk wrote:

“This car may be old, but it’s paid for and in front of you”.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!!!!!

Spleefer wrote:

0 credit card debt
0 vehicle loans
1 house note that will be paid off in 11 years max.
Plenty of cash
Peace and Quiet

[EGParticipant 1852]

Mr. Spock wrote:

Be happy where you are at Spleefer. You are in a good place.

I concur with this. Being sovereign and living alone are the best way to go (regardless of your persuasion). Living with someone is a royal pain compared to living alone. I’ve tried both and plan on never living with another person again. Keep spleefing, Spleefer. You’re doing life right.

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