Is Dutch Treat a Thing of the Past?

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Actually one of my longer lasting relationships started off with her inviting me to lunch and her paying. I first thought she’s giving me a hint that that was the end of it. I was very confused. But to tell you the truth, I think when you pick up women on the internet circle, they are generally the bottom of the barrel, or else why would they be on-line dating. You know, recycled stuff that’s been dumped. So they get this thing where they feel really special that someone is willing to take them out (well the ones over 35 do). Let it go to their heads. They think maybe this is going someplace. You know in the back of your mind what you are looking for. And that for me has been the fastest way to a lay, like probably the first date. No money or time wasted. She wants something to brag to her friends about. If you get her to pay or split the bill, you are almost guaranteed p~~~ing her off. You got to take the longer view. You silently think, “Sure, I’ll pay this time, but it’s gonna work out to be a cheap f~~~ in the end”.

I get the nomination for the Nobel Prize.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Oh, it exists alright.

If I do go out on a date (which is rare) it’s always dutch and for coffee. I’m not spending even a few bucks on some stupid t~~~.

Remember this if you choose to date: $40 limit. $0 is optimal.

Fuck this planet.

[33wolfmanParticipant 216]

When my military buddies and I would go out we would all throw some funds out on the table and went off of that, if it ran low we would all throw some more up. At the end of the night whatever change was left was either divided equally or used for the tip. It just cracks me up that women will worry about who bought what and try to penny pinch at a meal or date and yet go out and blow $200 on cosmetics and s~~~ like that.

[Vector VikingParticipant 413]

I’m with Keymaster. If I’m footing the bill, I’m calling the shots. If a woman is offended by a man who is paying for her dinner deciding on what she’s getting, then you can cut it short right there and consider the time you saved well spent. I’d rather cut it short and move on to something I’d rather be doing than pay to listen to some woman that I don’t know blather on about her cats for an hour and a half.

[cardinal2007Participant 8]

I sometimes wonder if you have to be willing to put up with confrontation to get that to happen. I practically always pay for the date. The few times I’ve thought about going dutch it got to this awkward point were we looked at each other uncomfortably, and then I caved. I imagine unless you say you want to do it ahead of the date, it is just expected the man pays, and doing otherwise will leave her unhappy.

My problem is that I generally want a relationship were we are more or less equal partners, and when it starts out like that (with the expectation I pay for dinner), it already kind of ruins things. The best relationship I had was were by ex-gf actually offered to pay for the 3rd date, kind of set the mood for the entire relationship.

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

I think both dutch and dating are both a thing of the pass. Look at the Tinder App for example. Apps like that on your phone you can weed out the riffraff and go for the ones who want to have sex. I saw a promo to the Steve Harvey show (I hate that guy) women were saying men don’t ask them out and they can’t find a guy. I think MGTOW has had an effect on women dating the usual gold digging ways. Tom Leykis did a show a couple weeks ago and he asked callers who still went out on dates. They’re was only one guy Gabriel was his name that actually admitted to it. The callers let him have it for being a mangina. Everyone else said they didn’t date. So dating or even splitting it is a thing of the past. I’m pretty straight up but you got to have an edge.

[Anonymous 2]

Anonymous wrote:

I had a date with a girl last week. She wanted to pay for our drinks as I had already spent some money on a train ticket. I offered to chip in, but she insisted. Go figure.

Nevermind. She turned out to be hypergamous piece of s~~~ with a boyfriend.

[Anonymous 11]

Anonymous wrote:

Nevermind. She turned out to be hypergamous piece of s~~~ with a boyfriend.

What a sorry c~~~!! I wonder what excuse she told her boyfriend.

[Anonymous 2]

Well I called her out on that BS a month ago, not putting my c~~~ in there untill that’s fixed, and she’s not showing any inclination to make that move because she’s too busy with exams to show a hint of accountability. Fine. To bad I’ll have to add this 10/10 on the pump-n-dump bucketlistand stay clear of commitment, but these c~~~s bring it upon themselves.

[Anonymous 25]

yup i don’t do dates and it’s not my job to fund some woman’s social life. we’re either friends and we split the bill or she can pay for me or we take turns. women need to get their finger our and start working harder. there aren’t enough female millionaires. if some rich woman were to buy me a house and give me 50/50 im fine with that, women have been doing that to men for years. now they need to get off their arses and start earning more as i expect to be bought stuff.

it’s not a question of whether we go halves to my mind, its a question of should they now be paying for men as they’ve had it their way so long and my view is they should. otherwise im quite happy to ignore them as i can get sex quite easily without having to go on dates

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