Is Anything Wrong With Me?

[MonkParticipant 17004]

Akanbi wrote:

Is there anything wrong with me from all I’ve stated above?

No.

You don’t suffer fools gladly. I have also been told that I am ‘scary’ and also that I am ‘unapproachable’.

Oddly enough, it’s always been women that said that, so it has its uses.

[Anonymous 0]

Akanbi wrote:

I will be entering the workforce very soon and I realize that I will have to be interacting with people I don’t really want to out of necessity and to give off a good impression. But do I have to engage in small talk with them? Can’t it just be straightforward to business?

Depends on the field and the type of job. There are plenty of jobs where a guy who keeps to himself, is low-maintenance, and keeps his nose to the grindstone will be welcomed. Especially STEM fields, jobs where you work alone or independently, back-room jobs, etc.

OTOH, if the job requires dealing with the public or working in a team environment or handling a diverse clientele, then you’re probably going to get penalized if you sit mute in the corner and glare at everyone like an axe murderer.

Basically, just use a little common sense here. If you honestly don’t think you will need social skills to land and keep a job, then don’t learn them. On the other hand, if you think you’ll need them or that they’ll smooth your path, then sit down and learn them. If you were preparing for combat, you would learn combat skills; if you’re preparing for a job that involves handling people, then you learn some people-handling skills.

Again, there’s no right or wrong here. It’s just a logistical question, that is, whether you think some basic social skills might come in handy. If yes, then put in a couple hours on a weekend and prep them. If no, then don’t.

[SkeptiskParticipant 3679]

No, you’re okay. I prefer to stay by myself, and I don’t like to interact with a lot of people, especially those I don’t know. Not shy, just introvert. I find most small-talk by people to numb my mind as in becoming brain-dead. And I have “that look” on my face, even when I’m content. Not going to fake being chirpy. One of the strangest thing was on a flight to the US over 20 years ago, and a female sat next to me, and she was really chirpy and extrovert. I thought, “Are all Americans like this?”

"Expecting to find a decent woman on a dating site is like dumpster diving and expecting to come out with a gourmet meal." Won'tGetFooledAgain

[AkanbiParticipant 2120]

Thanks for the replies, bros.

I really appreciate.

My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.

[Author]

Posts