Is Anyone Else Completely Oblivious When Women Hit On You?

[ChuddoxParticipant 585]

I can never tell if they are interested, terrified, or terrified that they are interested.

People tell me I’m a scary, angry looking man.

I held the door for a woman once (because its polite to do for people regardless of gender) she turned to thank me (I think) and instead…?

“I’m…sorry”

What? Bitch I’m not gonna murder you…what-the-everliving-f~~~ are you apologizing for?

“Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.” - Robert E. Howard

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

When I catch Women staring at me or know they are flirting on me I just play dumb. The looks they give me are priceless when they try their “move” and it goes no where. My life is perfect right now and I don’t need sexual harassment charges, possible rape charges, or worse divorce. I just keep to myself and my focus just on myself.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

I’m not sure if I’ve ever been oblivious, because if I have, I was straight up ignoring them. But for others, I am very aware of when they are “trying” to flirt or what have you. I usually don’t acknowledge the attempt.

For the others who are more direct, I just let them know I’m happy just “being friends”.

are you a chia pet in man drag

[RennieParticipant]

There has been a couple of times where it was obvious in the high school and college days. One girl was a alcoholic,hoe, who already had a boyfriend and was staring daggers and the second was a moderately attractive girl who was eyeing me from her locker.

I ignored them both. Well both of them were pretty rundown looking by 25.

[RupertParticipant 15]

Gentlemen,
The exaggerated subtlety women deploy when “flirting” is like a backhanded compliment, or straight up insult. Aren’t they the same species that has been known to strip half naked and throw their bras at guys who they REALLY like, for example at a rock concert? Whereas us regular guys are expected to keep our eyes and ears wide open, because subtlety is all that we worthy of? We wouldn’t want women to feel uncomfortable now, would we? Mustn’t inconvenience them! They might injure themselves in their desperate struggle to let us know they find us attractive!

With that in mind, I think that searching for ‘hints’ is a bad mindset. What am I, a dog? Women want to lead me by the nose with tiny scraps of attention? Bulls~~~! I say. MAYBE I’ll detect some flirting coming my way when a hottie has a wardrobe malfunction and she asks me to hold her boob in while she fixes her top with some bootlaces or something. Cool! I’ll give her my business card so she can call me sometime.

OK, I can understand the difference between a famous rock star, and a Joe Bloggs like me who blends into the crowd, but there have got be some LIMITS ffs! As men, we have allowed this stereotype to get out of control. In the flirting ‘market’, men have bid the price so ridiculously LOW, that women think twirling their hair or picking their nose is an actual form of communication! It’s not.

[Anonymous 0]

I never seem to pick up on it either, but these days I do not care and rather enjoy making women as misrible and frustrated as possible because its hilarious.

[Wolfgang RyderSpectator 70]

I don’t even give a s~~~ anymore. The only kind of girls I’ve attracted ’til now were the weird ones who didn’t have much beauty and an attractive look. Fortunately, I’ve never started dating these gals. Just spent some minutes of the day and done.

The day a hot and cute girl hits on me, it might be warning sign that she’s probably mentally unstable. It’s not low self-esteem that makes me think it’s ridiculous to even imagine that a beauty would hit on me. It’s more like she’s probably desperate and desperate chicks tend to be kinda crazy.

Have you ever heard about “yandere”? They exist in real life.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Communication is a two way road. Some girls just say in your face that they want your money D. But others send messages that are so cryptic that even NSA couldn’t understand.

Imagine if the society works in the other way ? Guys saying “but I named my WOW char with your name, you are so dumb that can’t understand that I want you ?”, and the girl never played wow.

When someone communication’s skills are poor, is normal to blame the other side. If you can’t express yourself, blame the ones that are listening to you, and call them dumb because they don’t get what you want to say.

Girls do this s~~~ game. If girls are able to communicate efficiently, how many books about “understanding women” you will think that people will wrote ?

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Anonymous wrote:

It always dawns on me when I am walking away. Nothing to do with Blue or Red pill, I just don’t realize when it is happening. I have missed some huge hints.

What I don’t get is how easily they will just leave it their subtle hints, why not just say it more plainly.

The other thing I have noticed is their interest has an expiration date, if you were to approach the same woman the next day she won’t have that interest in you anymore, it’s like now she wants to get you back for not realizing she liked you the first time.

This is a fantastic thread, thanks for starting it OP. The last point in the quote above is so demonstrably true and is such a prime example of how men and women have antithetical thinking processes. If a man likes a girl, he’s not going to flip on a f~~~ing dime for no reason. Give him a reason, then yes.

But a woman who is attracted to a man and gives him her pathetic version of a ‘hint’ will turn on a f~~~ing dime if he doesn’t act on it immediately. And, as this thread and the replies show, their version of a ‘hint’ is complete crap. It’s unreal.

They do precisely the opposite things one should do to show attraction. “Oh I like this guy, but he’s not giving me any attention. I know what I’ll do! I’ll flirt with a guy next to him to make him jealous!” Brilliant.

Resident cynic.

[Anonymous 22]

Chuddox wrote:

I can never tell if they are interested, terrified, or terrified that they are interested.

People tell me I’m a scary, angry looking man.

I held the door for a woman once (because its polite to do for people regardless of gender) she turned to thank me (I think) and instead…?

“I’m…sorry”

What? Bitch I’m not gonna murder you…what-the-everliving-f~~~ are you apologizing for?

LMAO!

[Silent RoarParticipant 77]

If I were oblivious then something is wrong with my perception, we speak in body language 55% of every social situation, other two are words and tone of voice, 7% and 38% respectively. Since I can’t do voice, it’s 93% of verbal communication for me in any in-person interaction so I can tell whoever try to come on to me. I won’t go on to “approach” them if they initiate it first, it’s not my fault that their subtle hints fail to get me to do something about it before plant a seed in my mind that it’s my idea to move thing to the next level without manage to go ballistic about it.

I'm a deaf tiger, hear me roar!

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

One day while grocery shopping by myself (as I usually do), I was in the spaghetti aisle and a really attractive woman no more than 35 stops and asks me how many ounces are in a gallon. There were a few other people in the aisle but she chose me to ask. She was making sauce for a party and left her phone in her car and couldn’t google it on the spot. At first I thought, what woman doesn’t have their phone magnetically attached to their hand these days? So I pulled my phone out of my pocket and googled the conversion…128 ounces in a gallon and told her that 4 big jars should be enough. She thanked me so much and I carried on about my business.

After the fact, I was kicking myself for not noticing her obvious attempt to strike up a convo and being an attractive woman who doesn’t need to always have her phone on her at all times, I should have asked her if I was invited to this party she’s throwing.

[RupertParticipant 15]

After the fact, I was kicking myself for not noticing her obvious attempt to strike up a convo and being an attractive woman who doesn’t need to always have her phone on her at all times, I should have asked her if I was invited to this party she’s throwing.

I wish I were better at “not noticing” women’s half-assed bulls~~~. They should be working TEN TIMES as hard when it comes to sending signals to guys. To me it sounds like you accidentally did exactly the right by playing dumb.

Bonus points for:
“what am I, a walking calculator?”
“how are you going to reimburse me for your internet needs?”
Sceptical and bored body language to show her that you’re not impressed by her “damsel in distress” act.

[Anonymous 16]

I lost my touch due to social programming, did i ever.

I am 44 when my ex left me at 41 i lost so much weight trained a bit and built a beach body, went to Cuba got it on banged a few, got back here got hit on did nothing… just not used to get hit on after being in long term relationship for so long.

I gained so weight back felt awful got turned down and discouraged. Then about 5 months ago i lost some weight again started to get back in shape. And got hit on by a waitress in a bar i was so amazed that i froze.

Your attitude is also very important if you are out going funny etc women will notice you a lot more then if you are shy and stay in your corner.

[nonconformistParticipant 182]

I never ever noticed when women where hitting on me only if they actually did something to break the barrier did i notice…

I remember one time at a party, this gorgeus girl and i was talking alot and apparently she was flirting with me big time it was so apparent that a friend of mine actually came over told me to kiss her and only when i did breach that barrier did i notice and my male instincts kicked in…..

Many a times did i realize afterwards i had a chance with a chick but mistook flirt for friendly…

Now im just tired of trying and tired of being used as a steppingstone f~~~-em let them hit the wall let them cry their self to sleep over chad thunderc~~~.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

I don’t want to work that hard for what has a high probability of being another mistake. If a woman is hitting on me she better be very obvious about it. My radar has been shut off. Everything comes in the form of subtle hints and implied gestures and I am tired of the guessing game. I don’t even try and read minds.
Unless a chick is super direct and assertive, I will miss it and I don’t care. I never feel like I lost an opportunity to get laid. I feel like I dodged a bullet to get screwed.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 0]

When I get hit on, I just don’t give a f~~~. Got better things to do and see.

[EvilcpuParticipant 217]

Honestly, I often find myself oblivious when women hit on me, but as rule of thumb I could say she is hitting on me when she gets much more friendly than the average. I would daresay, also when she treats you as a person. Ok, various signs such as licking the lips, dilating the eyes and keeping the mouth slightly open when listening, could be effectively taken in account.

However, I believe a woman can instrumentally deploy this signals within a broader strategy to siphon time/resources/whatever off, thus I don’t feel too much pressured to catch this “hints”. I usually proceed as she were sexually interested, thus I ask her out or such. That saves me time and removes doubts.

Out of your prime, out of my sight.

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

Most hot women want attention and validation when i’m in the street gear I look poor as fuk old jeans super comfy old but well maintained shoes hat etc I get left alone. But during the week I have to bust out the monkey suit and I go to clients offices randomly so I have to dress nice on those days in the elevator or waiting for coffee you can tell they are trying to get your attention I usually ignore sometimes out of desperation they will be like what time is it? where do you go to so so blah blah… most of the time they just want to your notice them then they leave you alone. Better your dressed bigger bank machine you look like its totally garbage.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[The Dark JediParticipant 63]

I have similar problem,
I seek certain boldness in other party where they express their wish or desire.

once a person expresses desire of attraction it becomes easy do asses and make a final call.

I had been through this particular scenario where a chick kept on hitting on me and approaching me for nearly year and half on occasional bases but when I went out with her this happened.

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