There is only one currency for which all these tokens of ours should be exchanged, and that is winsdom. In fact, it is wisdom that makes possible courage and self-control and integrity or, in a word, true goodness, and the presence of or absence of pleasure or fears and other such feelings makes no difference at all, whereas a system of morality based on relative emotional values is a mere illusion, a thoroughly vulgur conception which has nothing sound in it and nothing true – Socrates
Thanks to ?? for this the other day as it does explain a lot what is happening in the society these days. I have a close friend and we work on few projects, he’s kinda blue pill guy although does understand things on red-pill level but refuses to accept it and wants to remain in the Matrix. I try to keep him informed and be a supportive friend whenever possible. I sent him the above few days ago and I am sure he read it but didn’t respond.
Earlier in the week we had a meeting about our current state of the project and I mentioned I will do some work this weekend on our project which I did and sent him a report and asked him to complete one of the tasks which he didn’t do and I thought he must have been busy. I normally don’t use my phone at all at the weekends or just put it on aeroplane mode. This sunday I was working on a side engineering project so had to do a lot of coding and testing, so was in a cafe when he rang me, so I sent a quick message to say I will ring him later when I am free. Now this is when things get interesting. I got back to my project and immersed myself into it. Few hours went by and then I realised I needed to meet a friend that I haven’t seen for a while, so I left and went home. I checked the phone and there were couple of missed calls from him and few texts and that he needs to ask me something about the project we are working together on in emergency, he basically went on to do research on whim and wanted me to be on beck and call.(Which is ridiculous and reminded me of my ex). I thought I will ring him on my way to the friend’s place but forgot my phone at home to which I was like hey thats fine, its weekend and I will ring him later, I don’t want to be late so left my phone home.
I come back home late at night really tired as I went for a sunday swim after meeting the friend and there is a message on the phone about his concerns on my commitment to the project which really p~~~ed me off but I went to sleep.
This morning I had to start the day with basically confronting him that the way he reacted was very disrespectful and expected me to be on the phone basically waiting on him and that I asked him to do one task which he wasn’t able to do and that we need to speak on the phone. I did speak to him at lunch time and according to him when he didn’t hear from me he felt disappointed. BTW this isn’t the first time he has done this and I keep ignoring it but I had to speak to him.
I have noticed this with a lot of girls as well, when they don’t hear from you they start to cook up a story in their head to the point where they end up using those emotions to create a fact outside their head and either be passive aggressive or say something that is only in their head because they are being controlled by their emotions. When I don’t hear from a friend after I’ve left a voicemail or message is the first thing that comes to mind is either they are busy or don’t have their phone with them, if I don’t hear back in 24 hrs, I normally leave a voicemail or message saying hope everything is ok. Its only if I don’t hear from them for more than 24-48 when I was expecting them to contact me that I start really worrying about if everything is ok. Instant gratification through messages and media has spoiled people to the point they do not respect others boundaries at all. OK, End rant.
Life consists of two days, one for you one against you. So when it's for you don't be proud or reckless, and when it's against you be patient, for both days are test for you.
RoyDal 4 years, 5 months ago.
