indifference

[Anonymous 0]

Indifference.
When I first separated from my ex about five years ago, naturally, I went through a rebound stage, tracking down and bedding an old girlfriend, joining singles group and trying to date again. I had enough success to keep trying.
The next stage was sadness, and confusion that so many women were so indifferent to a pretty good guy. Online dating was a disaster. I would pick out a particular woman who matched, send a flirty note, and…..dead silence. Not even a courteous “thanks, but no.”
Then anger. I would meet women all over the place—grocery stores, volleyball games, hikes, all over. I’d flirt with ladies, get a number, call a day or two later, get a voice mail, offer a date and……dead silence. Even at work—I am based at a very rural hospital where the out-of-town professional ladies have very few prospects in the community, and even they can’t be troubled to call back.
Now , this didn’t just happen twice. Probably twenty unreturned calls to ladies with whom I’d apparently had a good flirtation, and probably twice that number of women contacted in a gentlemanly way on line.
And I went to a speed dating event not long ago, and sat down and bantered with 10 different women. Not one picked me.
I should also mention that a lot of these ladies whom I gave attention to are in their 40s and 50s, whom you would think would be aware of the man shortage at this age.
So, anger, sadness and confusion are fading, turning into basic indifference. It’s sort of like jazz—say, if a buddy called up and wanted to go to a jazz concert, I might go and would probably have a good time. But, I wouldn’t seek jazz out. It’s neither good nor bad, I am just not that interested.
I find myself thinking about flirting with a lady, and then, I just don’t have the interest. It’s just not worth it. I don’t get mad or sad, I just move on.
There was a moment a few days ago, after the ambulance on which I work rolled on an icy mountain road. I was sitting at the hospital, kinda wishing for some soothing words from a good woman, but alas, nonesuch exists. I talked to my bros instead.
NOTE TO LURKERS, ESPECIALLY FEMALE READERS:
Of course, the assumption of many of you would be that I am some sort of troll, living in mom’s basement, swilling beer, or a repressed homosexual. Actually, I have a degree, own a truck and a classic car, a house, and have land and substantial savings. I am 5-feet-11 (oh, just short of that magic 6 feet!) 172 pounds, fit enough to backpack at 11,000 feet, and brave enough to climb into the wreckage of a pickup truck to treat a little girl trapped there, all while the fire department tears the truck apart around us (sorry, ladies, but unfortunately, we are not paid well for doing that). I don’t like to brag but I am also not a virgin maladept—I’ve made love to 25 women in my life.

I am what women used to want in a man, but because I am not a wealthy sociopath, I don’t excite the ladies.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome!

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[Anonymous 18]

I think the woman are turning you down because you have a place for them. And it is coming from mutual respect and some ideal view of life improvements secondary to a woman’s presence in your life.

All those women in their 40s or 50s have had their fair shot. And they failed. They aren’t looking for a dreamy eyed mature man to be with. They match with men who don’t need women in their lives. Everyone responsible for their own baggage.

How their actions affected you isn’t up for debate. As human beings we all loathe rejection. Some avoid the circumstances altogether. The best outcome is remove the importance of a woman in your life. And I like the jazz comparison. It’s just that. Good if you have it. Not so bad without it.

There is so much to be had in this life if a sane, semi-intelligent man takes his focus away from women, family and some dreamy delusion of happiness.

The real happiness is contentment. All else is deviations from the ideal. Like them studio professionals seeking the perfect sound signature would say, ‘neutral is where it’s at’.

Welcome man. Reading your post made feel like you are diluting your strong points by over thinking female rejection. They have their reasons. None of them have to make your self worth an iota less.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10909]

Welcome to the forum sir. The end of your statement says it all. You don’t have enough money for them to spend so they aren’t interested.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

Greetings … reading your post, I must tell you a brief true story of one of my best buddies in school. He and I were leaving the school building one October and two female classmates approached us on the sidewalk. One of the girls (seemingly out of the blue) asked him to the Sadie Hawkins dance .. the one time during the school year where the gals traditionally ask the guys out. Here’s the point: what I am saying is that he had no idea this girl would do this and up until that point in time he had no inkling she even wanted anything to do with him much less ask him out. I found out later from the other gal that she had been planning this for some time.

Forgetting about those gals in previous contact situations who are impossible to explain; your story describes a guy who is out there each day and busy with his career and life. I am simply saying that there is very likely a lady or two that you pass each day who will approach you .. in time. They have yet to reveal themselves. You are in a rural area but work as a professional in that setting. You have career, home, interests, steady track record, etc. etc. and the list goes on. As we all know, women are conniving and calculating; they will try to derail a guy’s plans and take control. In her mind .. she might have her future planned.

Having a person who has yet to revel themselves is a situation that could happen to absolutely any guy … anyone of any age, working or retired; any guy .. going his own way or not. It might be someone at the market, a neighbor down the street or even the friend of a friend. Be prepared. My friend and the girl who asked him to Sadie Hawkins years ago went on to date each other .. some gal is more than likely watching every day and considering her next relationship move. When will she, possibly with assistance from one of her girlfriends, trigger and reveal? .. next month, later next year? .. who knows. Still waters can run deep.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

Anonymous wrote:

Of course, the assumption of many of you would be that I am some sort of troll, living in mom’s basement, swilling beer, or a repressed homosexual. Actually, I have a degree, own a truck and a classic car, a house, and have land and substantial savings. I am 5-feet-11 (oh, just short of that magic 6 feet!) 172 pounds, fit enough to backpack at 11,000 feet, and brave enough to climb into the wreckage of a pickup truck to treat a little girl trapped there, all while the fire department tears the truck apart around us (sorry, ladies, but unfortunately, we are not paid well for doing that). I don’t like to brag but I am also not a virgin maladept—I’ve made love to 25 women in my life.

I am what women used to want in a man, but because I am not a wealthy sociopath, I don’t excite the ladies.

Damn. If that is true, then don’t worry about it. You have done your part. You cannot make them do theirs. It is just a case of casting pearls before swine.

[TiredofbsParticipant 485]

Judging from your self-analysis, you seem like a good man who has his s~~~ together. No one enjoys rejection. But considering the source, consider yourself blessed. Never let the opinion of a bunch of female, narcissistic, psychotic c~~~s determine the value of who you are. Nothing wrong with being indifferent or even completely avoiding the drama that comes with trying to please bitches. They aren’t worth it.

[Just MikeParticipant 393]

I’ve been rejected a lot; years ago it used to grind my gears but now I just laugh. I don’t try much anymore either. Indifference may be your greatest weapon, should you choose to use it.

I’d given some thought to a theory that perhaps women will turn a good guy down because he *does* have his s~~~ together and gives off a certain aura or attitude that he won’t go changing his good position in life, not for a woman, not for anything. Their sense for hunting down and latching onto men who will do s~~~ for them, pay for them and change for them is more keen than a shark smelling blood. They smell anything they can to use and turn men to their favour.

And, if they want guys for shallow reasons, let them. Who cares what women want in a man these days? Care about what you want from your life.

Society: I refuse your stick and carrot. If you try to beat or shame me you'd better take me down first time. If I want smoke blown up my ass I'll buy a cigar and a length of hose.

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

In matters of indifference… I’ve taken it upon myself to embrace it. In the last few days I’ve lost maybe 3 or 4 by being abruptly honest. The silly questions like “Why don’t you talk to me anymore” Or “when can I see you again?” Is usually met by “I’m tired of talking.. its not getting me anywhere..” or “Nah, I don’t see any benefit in us hanging out”.. its all been met by silence.

At some point you just get tired of playing duck-duck-goose and start hitting them over the head with sledge hammers like whack-a-mole. Thing is.. they just vanish. Very few of them pop back up, and the ones that do simply allow you access without any further assclownary having to be performed on your part. When they see you are impartial to games and they would rather find an easy target to bleed of resources.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[OrlandoParticipant 833]

Indifference is a good thing.

I don’t care anymore about women. The best part of a relationship is that short period in the beginning. Then it gets routine and she eventually begins to turn on you after that.

Just think about all the bulls~~~ and liability you don’t have to deal with by not bothering with these fruitcakes.

I feel like I’m degrading myself just at the thought of approaching one of these used up skanks.

Make no mistake, any of them will screw you over without remorse if it’s determined to be in their best interest.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome

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[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

Consider yourself lucky. The worst thing that could happen to you would be for some split tail to get her barbs into you for several decades of financial misery . . . in exchange for eighteen months of hot sex and illusory connection.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

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