Impact of divorce on your ex

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Hey all. I’m just curious what you have observed has been the impact of divorce on your ex-wives? I’ve discussed this with some fellow divorced friends recently. We’ve all come to the same conclusion that they thought they’d be better off but after the dust settles and years pass they find they are actually worse off.

Now in my situation I didn’t want a divorce. She had an affair she wanted a divorce “not happy anymore” all that bulls~~~. She had multiple guys but ended up with a guy who was a part-time musician who had a kid from a previous marriage and a pregnant girlfriend at the time they started their affair. Now they are married and have a new baby of their own plus 4 other kids to deal with. I don’t ask a lot of questions but reading between the lines of stuff she has said and my kids mention it is clear they are struggling financially.

Now before our divorce I had a good long-term plan in place. We both had good jobs I had been investing since I was a teen. I had us both max out 401K and IRAs each year and before divorcing we had a six month emergency fund, a good college fund going for our two sons and close to a $1 million in retirement. Now a lot of that is gone. I’m recovering. My attorney at the time told me that my ex would be feeling it in the years to come. That she had gotten herself into a bad situation.

Just wondering if others have witnessed this kind of wonderful Karma?

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

A Co worker tells me his kids say that his ex cries herself to sleep nearly ever night.

They divorced because she wasn’t happy.

Seems she is less happy as a strong independent female.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Anonymous 54]

She was misrable before,and just as misrable after. Couldnt see much differece!

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I think its pretty par for the course. What happens during divorce? The woman generally keeps the house and the guy has to go get an apartment. Now their income as a couple is having to shell out for all the expenses of the house plus 1000 a month for the apartment and extra insurance/utilities. Had they just stayed together 1000 bucks a month over a 20 year period could easily have funded a comfortable retirement. Maybe the woman doesn’t lose as much in the short term, especially if she was the lower earner and walked away with cash and prizes, but over the long term both of them lose out compared to what they could have had as a couple.

The women will feel these even harder if they are the lower earner. For example…there was a divorced mother who lived down the hall from me about a year ago. She had a new car, a nice apartment, always had nice clothes and money to go out…until her daughter went off to college and the child support money obviously stopped. She replaced her new car with an older beater car and has since moved out to more cheaply rent a room from a friend. Looks like her secretary pay didn’t go very far after the divorce payments ended. If she was miserable enough to get divorced, I can’t imagine how miserable she is now. Last I heard of her she had gone through a string of boyfriends who were all obviously using her for a pump and dump because she was still hot for her age…but really…who the hell wants to marry a divorced 40 year old? She’s not going to have any more kids so younger guys who want a family wouldn’t want her, and most older single guys have already been divorced raped and aren’t interested in a repeat, or made it long enough without marriage they are obviously smart enough to not bother. She’ll never have it as good as she had it again…I hope hopping back on the carousel for a few more years and getting pumped and dumped by a few more guys was worth financial insecurity for the rest of her life. I don’t know her ex husband but I could only imagine the guy is living in a nice place right now and celebrated his last divorce payment by buying himself a new truck or something.

For the men, you generally get double f~~~ed, because not only would you be better off financially if you didn’t get divorced, but you’d be better off financially if you just never got married to begin with.

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Beer wrote:

For the men, you generally get double f~~~ed, because not only would you be better off financially if you didn’t get divorced, but you’d be better off financially if you just never got married to begin with.

So very true. And it’s very depressing and heartbreaking to have to start over in your late thirties. Still I won’t marry again. I have two great sons. Worst case I may have less than ten more years of child support payments. But my younger son wants to live with me so it may turn out eventually that she has to pay me. That would be pretty funny.

[pabsawakeParticipant 1761]

Its amazing woman get whatever they want today in this gynocentric society. But study after study shows that they are miserable.

Do a socialogical experiment brother. Put a pair of sunglasses on and just whatch woman. Take notice of the look on their face. Their lips are pursed they are irritable and discontent.

Do we really want this in our lives?

"You can either love women or understand them, you can't do both". Truth over everything

[HitmanParticipant]

my ex is the type of woman who loves misery.
after she left,
she got lots of sympathy on fakebook.
so initially she appeared happier,
not happy tho..
that faded back in to the woman who loves her misery..
.
temporary change and then back to who she already was.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Like brother Hitman says. You are either happy with yourself or you are not.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Hitman wrote:

my ex is the type of woman who loves misery.
after she left,
she got lots of sympathy on fakebook.
so initially she appeared happier,
not happy tho..
that faded back in to the woman who loves her misery..
.
temporary change and then back to who she already was.

Its because they get to be the center of attention for a while. Once that goes away and they find themselves as a divorced, broke, lonely post waller with a drastically reduced SMV compared to when they were last dating, they realize how badly they f~~~ed up.

The thing is…I know very few divorced guys who are actually s~~~ bags. Yeah I know some that I’d say were more toxic to the marriage than the woman, but the vast majority of divorced guys I know seem to be decent guys. They weren’t abusive, drunks, or deadbeats. Everyone has their quirks, they might not be perfect but I’m sure their ex wasn’t either. I can’t imagine quite a few of their exes don’t regret the divorce after the dust settles and they realize the grass wasn’t really greener on the other side, because quite frankly if they hooked what they thought was a good guy in their 20s while their SMV was at its peak, and just got bored or whatever and divorce in their 30s…their chances of getting a better partner in their 30s is pretty damn low.

[bladeParticipant]

Seen this with my ex and also mates with there ex.woman pre plan 12 months before and after brake up ,attention and act like a teenager for 12 months on a f~~~in high they have ripped ya heart threw your arse hole and having pre manipulated every one into thinking your an arse hole.drama and attention and on the carousel. After the first 6 months i have seen this many times chicks go full c~~~ mode.so any guys with kids plsn your offense immediately because she will not remain amicable.it will be all your fault.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

My Ex quickly married another guy after she spent about a year and a half trying to get back together with me.

[HitmanParticipant]

thanks Jan..
thanks beer..
in The Art Of Happiness by the Dali Lama,
he basically says,
you choose to be happy..
each morning you make a decision to be happy..
the same problems come your way,
you deal with them,
and then go back to being happy.
.
happiness is a choice.
not something you wait for.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Honestly
I fail to see why I should care about the impact to them (both my ex-wives), other than freeing me from them.

The only impact was the wake behind them, and how hard they hit the wall.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[Buller100Participant 2189]

She got bingo wings and remarried , I laugh when I think of the poor c~~~ waking up to her every day.

[experiencedParticipant]

Jack Harper wrote:

Hey all. I’m just curious what you have observed has been the impact of divorce on your ex-wives? I’ve discussed this with some fellow divorced friends recently. We’ve all come to the same conclusion that they thought they’d be better off but after the dust settles and years pass they find they are actually worse off…

they are struggling financially.

They will always choose the temporary elation of getting the wonderful nest………………………… whilst loosing the goose that lays the golden eggs. (sorry guys s~~~ty analogy but effective).
They get a sum and they will eventually squander it.
We, however, keep producing more sums. Sums more than others(chads).

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

My ex-box monkey-branched to a married millionaire with children. He gave the ex a job in his company but he wouldn’t leave his wife. Their affair ended after three years, he sacked her and then she lost her driver’s licence for drink-driving. Her mum had to drive her to court for our divorce proceedings. KARMA. She had some operation on her back after once telling me in our marriage that she would probably not stick around if I ever got maimed or majorly disfigured. Employed by a Chad, she tried to negative gear rental investments for income tax purposes but the bubble burst and her investments went underwater. KARMA.

Ex sent an angry e-mail confessing her affair and I sent it to the dude’s wife – figured the wife had a right to know (I hate cheaters) but I hear the wife was too in love with Chad’s money to leave him (more hypergamy – wife can’t see a higher branch so turns a blind eye to his infidelity). Checked an online register and the ex is no longer registered to practice in her profession. Was told her siblings unfriended her on social media because of some bulls~~~ she pulled. KARMA.

Me – in a job I enjoy, making good money and close to paying-off my second rental property. Swallowed a bunch of red-pills in the divorce which eroded decades of social and gynocentric programming. Still subsidizing ‘women’s privilege’ through my taxes (Women Pay No Tax) but now wise to the feminist matrix. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice …. MGTOW for the win!

#ManOut

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Grumpy wrote:

Honestly
I fail to see why I should care about the impact to them (both my ex-wives), other than freeing me from them.

The only impact was the wake behind them, and how hard they hit the wall.

You know I admit this is probably the best state of mind to be in and I hope to get there one day. But I really just can’t help but smile and chuckle to myself a bit when I hear these kinds of stories. Just seems like justice to me.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

blade wrote:

Seen this with my ex and also mates with there ex.woman pre plan 12 months before and after brake up ,attention and act like a teenager for 12 months on a f~~~in high they have ripped ya heart threw your arse hole and having pre manipulated every one into thinking your an arse hole.drama and attention and on the carousel. After the first 6 months i have seen this many times chicks go full c~~~ mode.so any guys with kids plsn your offense immediately because she will not remain amicable.it will be all your fault.

Totally agree, my ex wife had been planning the breakup and her new exciting life for a while. First she joined a gym, lost loads of weight, bought new clothes and started going out on girls nights out. Then she became obsessed with Facebook and would spend every spare second on it. What I didn’t appreciate at the time was she was messaging guys and meeting up with them in secret (although she denies it to this day).

Anyway,I find out, we split up and she makes out it is all my fault and gets excited about her new carousel life. I know she f~~~ed some 20 something guys (number one on any new separated woman’s list) and was messaging a guy who she knew who was into swinging (MFF 3some, number two on the bucket list)

6 months later she must have realised she was pump and dump fodder and moved another man into the house. Was this the rich, exciting, Brad Pitt lookalike with the right mix of decent guy/bad boy attributes she thought she deserved? No, it was an older dad from school with two children who left his wife for my ex!

About a year later I started getting the “I miss our chats” messages from her, probably while her new beta wallet was snoring next to her. She is still with the guy after two and a half years but she has turned him into a total slave, plus has taken out massive loans with him to buy me out of the house.

So although they are not married she is 6 figures in debt with him and I suspect she is bored of him being a total mangina. She is nearly 40, put the weight back on and is rapidly loosing any SMV she had left. I think she will have a massive crisis when she hits 40 and will be desperate to get back on the carousel but cannot afford to get rid of this guy due to the debt they have run up.

I on the other hand have zero debt and a nice 50% cash house deposit in my give a f~~~ fund. I am f~~~ing younger and hotter girls than her and I know that p~~~es her off.

I think the impact for my ex was that it hasn’t quite panned out how she thought, she has ended up with a beta older than me and they have 4 children between them. But I suspect she knows if she now dumps him she will be broke and end up pump and dump fodder for a few years before smashing into the wall hard.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

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This should be a bedtime story told to young daughters.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[revistaParticipant 232]

My ex moved on straight away or was probably going on before she wanted out.she too joined the gym months before she pulled the pin.she rubbed new guy in my face and went on “family”outings with my kids.i was in the darkest hole possible.but 3 years down the line.hes just dumped her for the second time.the kids say shes been crying alot.i dont give a f~~~,im woman free.have great relationship with my kids.we have lots of quality time together and im better off financially.my eldest wants to live with me when hes old enough.karma comes round.just get yourself in good place.it takes time but you get there.

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