I'm p~~~ed

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Everyone has their own way of dealing with things. I know how it is not to sleep. Many of us do. The feelings can be havoc on one’s life.

The only advice I can give you is HIDE your WEALTH. All of it.

I would also look into ways of disappearing from view if at all possible.

You have a chance to begin again with almost zero baggage. No ties. No regrets. Keep yourself busy in a productive manner that will benefit you in the future and in the long run.

One thing that really helped me was always having a body cam or recording device. Its something you should keep on at all times. The second things are looking up for you, the s~~~ cometh.

You have to start understanding that you and YOU ALONE are the only defense to your life. How you want to live it is up to you. But whatever you do, never let your guard down.

So protect yourself. Just remember, if you have something of value, they want to take it. And that means your life as well.

one last thing? Learn to FIGHT. Learn to defend your ground. And learn how to survive. Once you realize what you are truly capable of? The world will think twice before f~~~ing with you again.

And those bad dreams, or nightmares? They will get better. But they are simply to remind you of why you should never look back and keep up your guard.

Take care brother.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[Anonymous 38]

Keep taking red pills daily. After a while you truly realise you’re glad to have it all behind you.

You chose her. That’s harsh but the truth. Now you can move forward knowing you’ll never make that mistake again, and will be free from all c~~~s if you so choose to be. You will have a new found gratitude for your freedom.

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

I too went through the gas lighting by a borderline personality disorder ex. It takes time to reprogram your mind and thought processes. The anger will be there, but translate it into positive actions like hobbies or working out. Don’t fall into the trap of addiction. The five stages of grief are; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Figure out where you are on this continuum and anticipate the next step.

Moving beyond the meek and accommodating thought processes is the hardest. If you’ve been gas lit and subject to a BPD, you have your work cut out for you. You need to learn to assert your wants and decisions and not cave to her unreasonable demands.

Example; I have my kid for a week each month and I get custody for Christmas. My work schedule is best for days X through Y. She counters with having something planned for our kid during one of those days, so I should accept less time to accommodate. Initially I thought, sure, I don’t want the kid to miss out on a fun activity. Then I realized that this was being used to reduce my custody time with my child. I had to reprogram my mind to tell her ‘no’ and mean it. No, you will not get to take our kid to some event that leaves me with fewer days of custody. No, you will not make me feel guilty for this. You made the decision to schedule this during my time.

It is hard after years of ‘going along to get along.’ She will use this against you every chance she gets. She signs your kid up for a sport that has games every weekend. Now, to have your custody your kid has to miss a game. “Why don’t you just drive the whole way down here so they can play?” An hour round trip might be acceptable, but if you have to drive 11 hours and won’t get home till 11pm, just unacceptable. You feel bad that your kid misses a game, but the reality is that she is manipulating this situation to avoid her responsibilities to ensure your kid spends time with you.

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

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