Ignorant Friend/My Guilt

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

Hey team,

I had a long talk with a close buddy of mine yesterday. He’s steering his life right into blue pill hell, and I’m getting racked with guilt and sadness that I have failed to stop him from doing it. Here’s the short version…

He’s dating a mid thirties, bored out teen mom, up to her ears in CC debt, 2 kids, obvious mental and social issues that has hit the wall. She’s recently been served with papers to reassess her child support arrangement because her ex has had his pay severely reduced.

He caught her cheating on him, and she owned up to enough of it to wipe the slate clean, but likely hide the worst of it. He chickened out on dumping her, and is now doubling down on “trying to work it out.” Worse yet, he’s banging this chick and blasting her full despite the fact he knows she’s not on the pill. They’re using the “calendar” method to be safe.

Aside from what are quite possibly the most easily revealed signals this is not only going to end badly, but life altering depression badly, he’s just stuffed his head up his ass and decided to go forward with it thinking there’s a way to turn her into a unicorn.

I’m feeling guilty that I have failed to save him despite all the mentoring and coaching I’ve done over the years. I know he’s hearing himself talk this stupid s~~~, but for some reason he can’t get himself right. Judging from the tone in his voice, I fear she may already be pregnant and he hasn’t told me.

When I got this info, I made him tell me he completely understood how I felt about this and how I predict this is going to end. He said it to me. I made him do it because I told him I needed to have a clear conscience from here, that I did my part to try to shake the s~~~ out of him and prevent this nonsense.

At this point, red pill me should just step aside and wait to pick up the pieces when it happens, but the guilt remains. How do I cope with this?

[revistaParticipant 232]

Your a good friend.youve done what you could.ive had same problem with a buddy of mine.he married the toxic bitch.your buddy like mine will find out the hard way.

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

Part of the reason this is hard on me is because I don’t make it my business to get into other people’s matters. I’ve really only got two unmarriend friends that I’d stick my neck out for to try to save them. Others, I’m not close enough to offer them blunt life saving counsel.

It’s been a long road for us. I’ve helped him through political issues at work (he’s a hard headed blue collar guy), coached him on cleaning up his personal finances, been a sounding board for all sorts of things for him. He was supposed to be one of the few that got outta life alive. I was banking on him being one of those that wanted to live and see his hard work pay off some day.

More and more I feel like i’m going to be a successful lone red piller in my world surrounded by blue pillers and carnage.

[experiencedParticipant]

You can choose to be surrounded by MGTOWs in your thoughts.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 5]

Calendar method = Oops method

If she’s already pregnant he’s already a resource.
All the guilt in the world won’t help either of you so just get used to being his emotional tampon for the next 18 years….Just kidding!,,, she’ll be separating you two within the next 12 months because you’ll be classified as a negative influence.

You’ll come out of this benefiting from a great lesson that somebody else paid for.

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