I wish I had found this site earlier, before I let a woman damage my life

[WOTGMSpectator 749]

I haven’t posted here in a while, but basically last time I did I posted about how I was hurt by a woman a few years back. This was before I swallowed the red pill. I won’t get into all the details, but basically I fell into a trap of allowing myself to be angered by a woman’s games and I sent a few angry texts to her. Next thing I know, I’m being charged with “stalking/harassment” etc. I’m in my 30’s at the time, never arrested before (or after), and the texts I sent this woman contained no threats of any kind. Basically I had to plead down to disorderly conduct, which is not a crime in my state, but still my reputation has taken a hit.

Looking back it’s hard to believe I acted the way I did, as this woman was hardly even worth 2 seconds of my time let alone some angry text messages. But I was depressed at the time, really bad, and she knew this too. She wanted to hurt me and I let her do it. I’m so angry at myself and I haven’t gotten over it, so I guess I’m coming here for some words of encouragement. How do I move on from that incident? I know now, as a man, how superior I am to any woman. But at that time, my thinking was warped and I let a woman hurt me. I know the truth now, but I feel like it’s “too late” because my reputation has already been damaged.

How do I get over the pain of knowing that I let a woman, in effect, permanently damage me when I know now she isn’t even worth 1 second of me? That’s what hurts so much, I wish I had seen it back then. I’m a good looking, intelligent man and this woman wasn’t even all that, but I was just in a bad place at the time. Any advice is appreciated. It angers me also that I spend so much time, to this day, thinking about how she hurt me. I wish I could be happy and forget she ever existed, but I’m not sure how to get to that place yet. Thanks brothers.

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

Don’t despair. It will lessen. There is great support on here. Lots of us have suffered. I nearly killed myself over a woman once when I was very young and I can’t tell you how awful she was as a person. I still have the physical scars as a reminder and I choose to see them as a warning about women.
Keep posting.

[WOTGMSpectator 749]

Sparticus66 wrote:

Don’t despair. It will lessen. There is great support on here. Lots of us have suffered. I nearly killed myself over a woman once when I was very young and I can’t tell you how awful she was as a person. I still have the physical scars as a reminder and I choose to see them as a warning about women.
Keep posting.

Thanks man. One good thing that came out of the experience is that it completely and utterly destroyed any thoughts about marriage/kids. It’s funny, because at that time, I couldn’t stand the thought of being alone and felt I “needed” a woman to be happy. I felt I “needed” marriage. The thought of eating out alone, for example, was SO depressing to me. And now? I absolutely LOVE eating out by myself, without any pressure, a chance to read alone etc. I look at things through a completely different lense. Maybe the experience wasn’t all negative, but I wish I could have learned all this without being arrested/damaged, you know? Maybe though, that’s not possible sometimes. Maybe sometimes we need to go through certain pains in life in order to grow. I hope you’re doing better and I am so sorry for your experience which makes mine seem small by comparison.

[xenonParticipant 2007]

Your story is a close analogue to my own. It will get better. It took me years to feel better about myself. The title of your post is a feeling shared by more than just I. I don’t have a lot of advice other than deal with yourself and the things that concern you first. My reputation has been permanently dealt death blows repeatedly and in a very nasty manner by ex wife # 2. There is not much to be done, she is charming and cute, and orbiting types are happy to accept whatever blather she spouts as gospel. So be it. What that divorce has pointed out clearly and continues to do to this day, is who my friends are not. Quite painful but much needed in the end for clarity of your own purpose and outlook. This website at age 15 is what I needed. It may not have gotten through to me, but I think there is a good fighting chance many of the same stupid mistakes I made over and over would not have been made. I have often thought of posting here about the destroyed reputation repercussion of exes, but it seems pretty well covered.

Nutshell version: Medium size village, several thousand folks, I lived in for 35 years. Foreign girl picked me out of the crowd of lunkheads and spun a tale of deceit a mile long. Green card pretty much was the end. She occupied my home ville for 6 years at this time. Any guesses on the outcome and fallout?

Ha. My ostracization is virtually complete from lifetime mates of both sexes, workmates, band members, any male friend I was close too was f~~~ed and any female that I cared about deeply was sought out by her. Pernicious. Deliberate one could say. Barely a failed opportunity to use any knowledge gleaned from me against me in the most untruthful and hurtful ways to the people who mattered most to me. It just is the way vindictive types behave.

Their loss. F~~~ that s~~~. Took me years but I would rather have eyes opened than any alternative. Now I segregate myself. And laugh. Never forget to laugh. Preferably last.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome to a refuge for the walking wounded, Sorry you had to endure the s~~~ you did at the hands of yet another bitch – but please don’t fault yourself. Mating is programmed into our DNA. But the travails of an army of fed up men wrote the code sequence to break that primal instinct that has harmed so many men – and we call it MGTOW.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Time is a good healer.

It’s up to YOU when You are ready to put YOUR experience behind YOU and move on. You can do it whenever You allow YOURSELF to do it.

Most people are to self-centered to worry about YOUR reputation.

Maybe, this was a GOOD lesson to learn if it keeps YOU from making any of the following LIFE CHANGING MISTAKES : Cohabitation, Marriage, and/or Procreation.

Pussy CAN/WILL make most Men do some pretty stupid things. You are NOT alone, but a good lesson to EXPERIENCE/LEARN never the less.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[HitmanParticipant]

What are you going to do?
If time travel was possible you could go back and avoid the problem.
But that wouldn’t even be doing yourself a favor.
We grow by handling adversity.
It made you stronger and better because you dealt with it.
We can’t live in ivory towers protected from life’s cruelty.
No,we live in the world and the bumps bruises and scars are part of the journey.
Just be glad it wasn’t worse. .

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Awakened wrote:

Time is a good healer.

I won’t go into my past but if you are interested click on my avatar and read the bio. Time is the best healer. On top of that, this forum, these men, and our collective knowledge is priceless. Stay strong and never stop searching for your happiness that can only come from within.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Maybe the experience wasn’t all negative, but I wish I could have learned all this without being arrested/damaged, you know?

Well on a positive note I’m thinking that it is a lesson that will stick. If you hadn’t had such a direct experience yourself, would you have listened to and heeded warnings from other men???

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