I started disqualifying today

[Anonymous 18]

SMAD wrote:

I have been “disqualifying” for a while now and it is ENORMOUSLY empowering. I have even gone so far as to ignore a pretty “retail” girl who asks me for help, only to go over to the less attractive shop assistant and ask her for help instead. Using my peripheral vision, I swear I can see the pretty girl seething and thinking “why is SHE getting attention and not me.” I recommend you gents try this sometime. You can *literally* feel the power surge and the Man Points just piling up like in a casino slot machine.

One of the biggest mistakes in my life was to equate beauty in my eyes to classiness, self-respect and confidence in the beautiful woman’s self perception. But the pretty ones are just as insecure, empty, if not more, than the not-so-pretty ones. How a thug dick in her mouth makes her feel appreciated and loved is beyond me. The neediness that these women pretend to hide comes out in full swing when they get disqualified. Their perceived market value is directly proportional to men’s interest, doubly proportional to the attention she gets more than her less-attractive friends, and inversely proportional to fast approaching yet unseen Wall.

Now that I know, its so easy to use that to my own advantage. “Don’t worry about it”. No f~~~s given, none taken.

[nopegoawayParticipant 14]

I’ve been doing this forever.  I call it “common courtesy”.  You show me common courtesy, I will give it to you. If not then you don’t exist.

[Anonymous 0]

Oasid wrote:

True, she may have 50 other dudes by the end of the day. But luckily, I’m not one of them. What you say is correct: Don’t celebrate the Unmatch. I’m not celebrating her woe’s or any perceived damage to her psyche, I’m celebrating Freedom. I no longer feel the full weight of obligation to attract like I was brought up to believe. I dropped a huge weight off my shoulders the moment I realized I can drop them for being a boring as s~~~ person to hang out with. Before that moment, things rather sucked for me. It’s more of a taking the pussy off the pedestal kind of moment…

I agree. It’s not about punishing them. It’s about being yourself.

Don’t just automatically be the nice guy. Take a good hard look at them and ask yourself if this is someone you really want in your life. Then treat them accordingly.

[Anonymous 0]

nopegoaway wrote:

I’ve been doing this forever. I call it “common courtesy”. You show me common courtesy, I will give it to you. If not then you don’t exist.

Yes, it’s a simple math formula. It’s not about looks or how you dress. It’s about courtesy. If you put a little effort into interacting with me, I’ll do the same. But if you act lazy and thoughtless toward me, I’ll simply move on.

[DurdenParticipant 1051]

Any man who reaches this point has begun to value himself higher than he previously did.

It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything

[OasidParticipant 116]

Lotta good stuff coming out of this thread. I love it

May the Force Be With You

[OasidParticipant 116]

Durden wrote:

Any man who reaches this point has begun to value himself higher than he previously did.

Lotta good stuff

May the Force Be With You

[Mr. XParticipant 20]

Dude you nailed it.

[endgameBlocked 26]

FuqYes. As long as she wasn’t asking you to do some basic s~~~, and she was earning the bread.

[endgameBlocked 26]

I usually disqualify females based on honesty, but leave room for experimentation, as the choice is still theirs.

[manzone32Participant 2]

Back when i  use to do the do the online thing, i would ask 3 non personal, open ended questions and if all she did was give 2 words answers or never ask me any back i would delete her

 

[OldBillParticipant]

Love this thread and love the term “disqualify” too. I’ve been doing it for years but didn’t know what to call it.

I’m most often aloof and reserved when dealing with women. Not shy by any means, but definitely not “chummy” either. I’m polite, courteous, and above all brief. Not so surprisingly, this attitude helps me pick up women more often than not. If you don’t care, they seem driven to try and make you care.

I also let it be known by my behavior that a woman must earn a conversation with me. No small talk, no chit chat, none of that time wasting bulls~~~ women fill their wasted lives with. I’m not going to talk about whatever mindless TV show they’re watching, whatever media s~~~ storm is currently bubbling, gossip about their useless HR careers, or any of that childish nonsense. If they begin to prattle, I shut it down by either excusing my myself without an explanation or by asking a serious question for which they cannot provide a serious answer. Asking a women “What have you read lately?” and then gently smiling and nodding when they mention something like Twilight, Harry Potter, or whatever softcore porn Oprah is peddling is as good as a slap across the face. Even the most self absorbed woman, and they’re all self absorbed to some degree, gets the point after that.

A month or so ago I was at a little “hipster” bar near me to listen to their Sunday evening jazz combo. The place has all sorts of microbrews on tap, good quality liquor behind the bar, and the staff prides themselves on their ability to mix any c~~~tail you name. I grabbed a pint of something dark and a shot of single malt, sat down at a table for two, and began enjoying the live music. Sadly, I soon knew there was going to be trouble.

I’m in my fifties, in better shape than most, and obviously well off. That means I’m also a target for every postmenopausal harpy who lays eyes on me. Because I’m middle-aged that also must mean I’m interested in divorced, dried up, bitter, old, man-eating whores, right? Sorry, “ladies”, you’re wrong. There was a group of 5 or 6 of those skanks crowded around another table eyeing me as I ordered and sat down. I just knew one of them would make a run at me and sure as s~~~ one did. It was one of the fatter ones too.

She waddled over and said “Anyone sitting here?”. Notice, not “May I?” or even “How are you tonight?”, but instead a presumption that I would “invite” her to join me.

I stood, gestured towards the chair, and said “Please.” After she sat down, I picked up my drinks, told her to enjoy the music, and left to sit at the bar.

She and her friends didn’t bother me for the rest of the evening.

As others in this thread have suggested, don’t deign to notice them and, when you must notice them, be polite, brief, and, above all, dismissive. Let them know by your manner that they are wasting your time.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

There is a LOT of spam on Tinder lately. Any girl between the ages of 22-24, I swipe left. The ones I do match with are post-wall with nothing of value to say. Tinder is awful.

[lonestar77Participant 406]

I disqualified a bitch today. Feels nothing short of spectacular. I used to work with this girl about 4 yrs ago while I was a blue-piller and for a month we flirted hard core. I finally asked her out to dinner in which she says “i have a boyfriend” . Info would of been helpful a MONTH ago! Anyway never spoke to her again after that.
Now after 4 years I get a “Heeey stranger” message on FB. (of course her status is single now) She is 25 and I’m 39. I unfriended her within a minute of reading that message. I’m too smart now to fall for that stupid bait!! Let her find some other chump…

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Oasid wrote:

Before today, I always thought it was my responsibility as a man to stay interesting and keep a conversation. When things got stale and failed I owned it and worked on bettering my conversation performance.
Got a match on Tinder an hour ago and I say Hi (name), she says “Hey” I say “Nice weather outside” she says “Lovely” (we are under a tornado watch and she is 3 miles away from me) I say “Wanna go for a ride on the bike?” she says “No Thanks” I wait ten minutes for some kind of a “not today” or an “lol in this?” than something clicked, I looked at the entire conversation history and noticed she said 4 words, For the first time in my life I had a moment of clarity towards a woman and this popped in my head “Hey girl, YOU are not floating MY boat, goodbye! *unmatch*
This is big for me and I wanted to share

In the age of “I can’t find a man”, congratulations are in order ! You just claimed some power back for yourself.

Somehow it has become a nearly revolutionary act to realize you have vale as a male.

Frank V.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Keymaster wrote:

Yesterday I was at a grocery store Starbucks outlet getting my quadruple shots, when the lady in the line in front of me was DENIED SERVICE. He said “NO. You won’t be served here”. The Star-buck behind the counter flatly refused to serve her.
( OOOooo drama! )
She walked away unimpressed, and when I stepped up to the counter I asked what that was about.
He said she was previously caught SHOPLIFTING there, and said “when you steal, we don’t serve you”.
I just couldn’t believe she was caught stealing from the place and had the nerve to show her face in there again. Can you f~~~ing imagine??? I would be so embarrassed to show my face in there ever again, and she just waltzes in and is like “Um yeah, I’ll have a cappuccino?”
She heard “no” and actually acted shocked and offended before she stormed off.
WTF IS WITH WOMEN TODAY!! THEY THINK THEY CAN RIP YOU OFF, AND THEY STILL THINK YOU SHOULD GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT!!!
Who raised her? Winona Ryder?
The future is cancelled. Save yourselves.

It’s like with some children, spoiled brats especially. You have to set limits, say “no” and mean it !

Frank V.

[martygParticipant 103]

She was probably carrying on 6 conversations at the same time.

[CatsPawParticipant 423]

THats just the start, but you are going the right way.

[qeeqoParticipant 1168]

BrainPilot wrote:

The times I have said “no” to a woman stand out as landmarks in my life. I remember them very clearly for the impact they had. Saying “No” to a woman is like swinging a wrecking ball at a building. Even if the building does not go down the first time, it is never the same after…

I had that experience about a month ago. She was someone I knew along time ago. She approached me on Facebook and offered sex pretty much right off the bat. I said no and the whole tenor of the conversation changed. I tried several times to engage her in conversation but I got a string of one and two word answers and realized I completely killed it when I said no. Take away sex and what’s left? Nothing! That’s got to be a tough blow to the ego since they consider themselves the arbiters of sexuality,

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

Lots of good stuff here.

I don’t want women any more, so I treat them the same way I treat males now. If a heterosexual male were to approach me the same way women sometimes do, I would assume he was completely f~~~ing insane.

It’s all about courting and mating behavior. Since I have zero interest in courting and mating, I have no interest in whatever patterns of behavior exist. I don’t flirt, because I don’t care.

I don’t so much disqualify myself as I don’t respond, and it does indeed drive women completely f~~~ing insane.

I’m thinking of taking up drumming. I always wanted to be a drummer.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

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