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A little perspective helps. Yes, someone wasn’t fair to you and broke your heart. I’ve had that happen and if you loved her at the time, well, it hurts like hell. For a bit. But…a woman leaving you isn’t the biggest tragedy in the world even if it feels like it at the time. You could be in a hell hole in Syria waiting for Assad’s men to question you about your political sympathies. Now that a bad week. Or perhaps working in a sweat shop in Guangzhou or Tianjin China where you work 18 hours a day for just enough to pay for your food and a small bunk. That’s sucks. Don’t get caught up in the victim mentality. You’re feeding it. Your choice is to move on, or try to get back with the cheating bitch that used you. So really, what’s your choice. If you’re moving on, do so.
How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.
Every once in a while someone on Zoom loses their s~~~–(Travis/Blacque/Gambit) and others so it happens but better for it to happen on Zoom and get it out in a safe environment. We should just roll with it.
Sparky is having a tough time and I agree with Old Bill’s advice. Sparky just keeps re-living a horrific moment in his life. Its like he’s on auto-replay. At some point he has to break the cycle and forget it about. Why invest time/energy/effort/emotion in something that can’t be un-done. You can’t un-ring a bell. All you can do is NOT ring it again. So lets give Sparky a hand up–not a slap down.
I have an idea Sparky. Go out and find yourself a new girlfriend for a while. I’m serious. It will either help you forget this c~~~ or remind you why you should not miss her at all.
Find her on Facebook, a local bar, through friends, online dating, Starbucks or anywhere else you can think of. Go to a local shopping mall and chat up some of the girls at the stores/kiosks over there. There are plenty of girls out there looking for someone to talk to.
A little perspective helps. Yes, someone wasn’t fair to you and broke your heart. I’ve had that happen and if you loved her at the time, well, it hurts like hell. For a bit. But…a woman leaving you isn’t the biggest tragedy in the world
Precisely. and its 12 months ago.
http://www.leavemeansleave.eu
I remember suspecting my 2nd wife was f~~~ing out long before Christmas. I remember her boasting about her “New boyfriend” to her family last Christmas, it destroyed me. I kicked her ass out the next day and she responded with the police.
We are “Friends” but I still remember.
She is not your friend. If she was… she could not BARE TO DO THAT.
Remove all stuff that is left of hers, and either garage sale it, or dump it.
You are better than her.
For what it is worth, Sparky, you should move on with your life.
First, get rid of everything that reminds you of her. Everything. Toss it, sell it, or burn it. Doesn’t matter how as long as it’s done.
Second, start focusing on your life, as it is, and don’t be a c~~~.
"Expecting to find a decent woman on a dating site is like dumpster diving and expecting to come out with a gourmet meal." Won'tGetFooledAgain
Hey Keymastor. I posted twice and something went wrong. The first stream was deleted but returned over my second stream.
Maybe if putting it down twice gets you beyond that bitch, then it’s good. Jeebus man, it’s time to move on
skip the cavernous vag and go your own way
Sparky,
She was and still is a C~~~. You were just naive, brother. She is probably sucking someone else’s dick right now. Believe me. I bet she has it in her mouth as we speak. Why? Because he is willing to pay for it. You can have women suck your dick too. You just have to pay for it. It’s that simple.
It’s all about how much work (same as money, as money is simply stored value of your work) you are willing to put in for getting your dick sucked.
-Gambit
You asswholes are right. Like a song I wrote in the early 1980’s said: “Let me die or let me live. there is no hope no how when there is nothing left to give. Breeze my direction of blow me away. I try to make the connection but lord knows I can’t stay.” From my rock opera “Within a black hole”. I will be OK or not but will not trouble you till December 29th. Till then, goodbye MGTOW.
Sparky…
http://www.leavemeansleave.eu
Till then, goodbye MGTOW.
You don’t need to leave behind MGTOW, Sparky.
You need to leave behind your memories of her instead.
Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.
The universe is an infinite beach, and this world a grain of sand upon it.
What price your ex now?
Hey Sparky…I spent 2 hours digging at my old emails trying to find this…
For my brothers here, it was during my blue pill idiot days when an ex broke up with me and I searched how to overcome the pain…This helped me during this time…It may be blue pilled but I just want to get this across to sparky who needs it now just to overcome his pain…Apologies if this may be blue pill but the guide might be helpful as we do things logically…The site this was on is already dead and I was glad I saved this on my email…
Posted By: OceanPosted: 3/6/2005 12:20 AM
I came across this. Thought I would share:(this is by a guy name Matt; don’t want to get sued for plagiarism =)1) No Contact – I cannot stress this point enough. Your ex must understand the true absence of you to appreciate what they have lost. Worked wonders for me when I dumped her… i didnt realize what I lost and came screaming back months later. This period also gives you a chance to grow personally beyond any means… If I look at my ex before and after I dumped her she bacame a truly AMZAZING individual… she grew way beyond she was before. (i never realized this till now) Just realize how much growing you are going through RIGHT now… you will become a better person, not only for yourself but for your next relationship (with your ex or not) If your ex sees you or hears from you regularly you will become a saftey net and they will never realize you are gone or see you grow.
2) No Contact – I cannot stress this point enough.
3) Throw out everything regarding your ex – This was the hardest thing to do. All the pictures, the love letters, the teddy bears…. EVERYTHING. You do not need constant reminding of the pain you are going through… the relationship IS OVER!!! 3 reasons why you should get rid of the stuff a)you will be tempted to read and look at everything some time and this will send your progress back weeks if not MONTHS! (trust me) b)if your ex comes back to you, you want a NEW beginning and the past is the past and should stay there. Remember, learn, and move on, but do not dwell in the past. Too many relationships that get back together fail again because of people living in the past… “Oh i wish it was like this” or “he treated me like this then” blah blah blah CRAP! live for today and tomorrow. Dont be ignorant but dont dwell over spilt milk. THE PAST NEVER EQUALS THE FUTURE. c)if you get with someone new, the last thing you want to see is her coveting all of her ex’s belongings… pictures on the wall etc. so why would they want to see your ex enveloping your life…. GET RID OF ALL OF IT! except one picture and one love note.
4) Don’t Fool yourself – IT IS OVER (for now). Dont even think of being friends… remember rule number one and two. Also dont make yourself beleive that you can wish them well… you will in time but for now FEEL the way you want to… if you hate them, hate them… if you love them, love them… if you want them, want them… but always be true to YOUR feelings. If you have a pile of s~~~, you can keep pilling other stuff on top of it, but eventually you’re gonna smell the s~~~ (sorry for the crudness but its true) I made myself believe things were alright, and 3 weeks later i was back where I left off. Everyone has to grieve… EVERYONE… including your ex. Be one up on them and get it done now… so when they finally realize you are gone and you are done the grieving process, and if they come back you can evaluate if you REALLY want to be with them.
5) DON’T Rebound – easy for me to say. Did this twice… once when I dumped, and once when I was dumped… it NEVER works. Worried that your ex is with someone else? dont… it wont last and if it does they will have many years of misery to look forward to because they will realize that they fell in love with the idea of the person and not the person themselves. every body GRIEVES… if not now… later… the rebound will only mask the true feelings for some time but then it will come back two fold and smack you in the face and you’ll be worse off then you were before!!! TRUST ME! As I read somewhere, if your ex is going out with someone right away (most likely) your ex is putting a couple bucks in their pocket now not realizing the millions they could have had in the future. Thats when I laugh… if she only knew!
6) TALK, CRY & SCREAM – Let it all out… you can push it all down if you want and explode in 2 years or you can let it all out now and begin the gieving process. I know people who arnt over their ex’s after 3 years (yes… THREE years) because they havent let it all out. Find all your REAL friends and let them comfort you in this time of need… you will get so much advice that you can choose from. Also make it a point to cry kick and scream every day for at least 20 minutes… get that soundtrack from Titanic out or the soundtrack from the original Romeo & Juliet. Music can move you in ways you never thought possible. You will be surprised how long it takes before you say “What am I crying for?” 7 days later after this and I was done… I still have the once in a while cry, but they are short lived. Let it all out.
7) No Revenge – Worried that your ex is having sex with someone else? kissing someone else? being with someone else? let them. Dont make yourself beleive that you have to be with someone else to get back at your ex. They have made the mistake and will one day realize it… that is YOUR revenge… dipping to all time morality lows j
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Posted By: Ocean (3/6/2005 12:22 AM)Message:1 of 18
that is YOUR revenge… dipping to all time morality lows justifies your ex breaking up with you. If you do want to… have sex, kiss, be with someone else… be with SOMEONE ELSE. Don’t try and fit a squre peg through a round hole. Because all you are going to do is compare that person to your ex and they will LOSE all the time. You cant compare a relationship that lasted months if not years to someone you just met… How would you feel if the other person was with you only imagining that it was their ex??? Eventually you will regret and feel guilt… “How could I ever treat someone like that?” you will ask yourself in time and realize how SELFISH you are just like your ex! Guilt can go a LONG way, and in the long run YOU will be hurt all over again.
8) Be Good To Yourself – Now is where we “pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and start all over again” Go out to your favorite shopping center and buy that shirt/dress/pants you’ve always wanted… LOOK YOUR BEST. It is so easy to hang our heads low, dress in our favorite joggers all day and never comb our hair. What if your ex sees you looking like this??? why would they want to be with someone that looks like that??? or why would ANYONE want to be with someone that looks like that. Walk chin up, smile and breath deeply… this will effect your mental state due to physical conditioning. Even though you’re no where near ready to start a new relationship you are ready to be GOOD TO YOURSELF. You must build up your self confidence up slowly and visually is a very good place to start. Remember you are a beautiful loving person… so much so that your ex fell in love with you for those reasons… REMEBER that! but you cannot start to portray that about yourself with your chin on the ground.
9) Exercise – This may be the hardest thing to do, but after my break up it was 2 hours a day in the gym… 1 hour weights and 1 hour cardio… Now this is a lot for most people, but I never knew why I wanted to come back to the gym… I later found out that physical exertion actually curves depression. The 2 hours a day I was there I was less effected by my breakup, I’m not saying the feelings went away but it was a great way to release my anger AND i’m in the best shape of my life… running almost 5 miles and day and getting those rock hard abs I’ve always wanted. This has to do with rule number 7 as well… the better you look the more confident you CAN feel if you choose to. All it is, is a motivater to become healthier than you ever were before… And just think… what if you run into your ex and they see how hot and sexy you look???
10) Get Out Of The House – After the breakup you will be DESTROYED… and that is ok. It is OK to feel pain and you must accept that to ever get over it. But there will come a time where you must NO longer wallow in your sorrow all the time. This becomes a self destructive path to deep depression. Get out… join that dancing class you’ve always wanted to do… Spend those hours in the library… join a local theater company… Volunteer if you have nothing specific you would like to do.
11) Spend Time with the opposite sex – Tall, short, fat, skinny, white, black, orange, yellow & green. It is so easy to hate all of the opposite sex… and you must remember that not everone is a complete dick out there… sure 90% are but you gotta find those 10 percenters who will absolutly ROCK your world! You dont have to persue anything beyond what you want and are ready for. Maybe just a causal firend, or a new best friend. Make it a rule to meet at least 2 or 3 new people every week. The rewards will come around 10 fold.
12) Forgive in Time – This is the HARDEST thing to do, but the most rewarding. Make sure you are ready to do it… dont fool yourself (Rule 4) Because if you do you’ll be back at square one. Remember that everyone is always doing their best and so was your EX. They always were trying to do their best for themselves and most likey did not want to hurt you… It is sometimes harder and the one who breaks up because in time they will ask themselves “Did I make the right decision?” At that point… YES! but for a later time? Maybe yes maybe no… that is not important to you, that is their path they have chosen and you must accept that. Regardless you must release the Pain and anger… otherwise you will always be wasting your energy on them and be locked in the relationship. Thats why it sometimes takes years to get over someone because you will be haning on to the past OR are hanging onto hate. Dont do this. Remember that this person was not the ONE… not even close… if they were this would have never happened… In time you will find somone who is just as good (hopefully not) but MOST LIKELY better. But in orderd to get to that position you MUST release your anger and pain. How long before you can do it? No one will ever know but father time.
13) Do Not Set Time Goals – One of the biggest mistakes I made was
Posted By: Ocean (3/6/2005 12:24 AM)Message:2 of 18
13) Do Not Set Time Goals – One of the biggest mistakes I made was to set a certain number of days before I would feel “alright”. Wow… was I dissapointed and was I depressed. There can never be a set number of days that this takes… Each relationship is different, and each person is different… the 3 months it took someone to get over a 7 year relationship may take you 10 years… and vise versa. Some people (although few) never get over a relationship and some get over it in weeks. Never judge your relationship healing over someone else’s. Let time work its magic and let yourself heal. Let it take however long it does… the faster you realize this, the faster you will heal. DONT RUSH IT! If you do, you’ll be starting all over again every time you fail. ****** IF ANYONE WOULD LIKE TO ADD SOMETHING, PLEASE DO… THIS WILL HELP ALL OF US ****** ps. can we increase the word limit? and maybe allow some br and bolds? =)I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...
Anonymous6Every once in a while someone on Zoom loses their s~~~–(Travis/Blacque/Gambit) and others so it happens but better for it to happen on Zoom and get it out in a safe environment. We should just roll with it.
Sparky is having a tough time and I agree with Old Bill’s advice. Sparky just keeps re-living a horrific moment in his life. Its like he’s on auto-replay. At some point he has to break the cycle and forget it about. Why invest time/energy/effort/emotion in something that can’t be un-done. You can’t un-ring a bell. All you can do is NOT ring it again. So lets give Sparky a hand up–not a slap down.
For the record I didn’t “loose my s~~~.”
There is no price or currency. I am leaving MGTOW till the 29th, MGTOW is tired of me. This is my last post because I choose so. I will live or die and no longer give two s~~~s. There are good things about death. No more pain or sorrows, one just lies in peace forever. Life lets one see what happens next and that may be good or bad. Place your bets. Is the story worth watching? No one knows, do we? I know the Universe, I am not only a Master Observer in the Astronomical League, I am the father of it. Go to the AL website and look up “Master Observers” and you will see my credit. Like MGTOW, I am “Sparky”. From here, I go silent and say goodbye.
Goodbye.
Thank you for so much effort with what you posted. Unfortunately I must be alone till the 29th. MGTOW is tired of me and I must face my greatest demon alone. Scroll up if you think this is a joke. Nerd, I tried to help you when you faced hard times. My hard time was last Christmas and the three days after. MGTOW is tired of me thinking about those days coming again. I am a whining bitch and deserve to be criticized. I see good things in death like eternal peace. Death is a very permanent solution but life lets one see what happens next. Place you bets but I do not understand the game. If I survive, I will be stronger but if not, Goodbye my friend.
Still trawling for pity…
Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.
Still trawling for pity…
Looking for pity am I? Go F~~~ yourself as I have nothing to lose. Do you think I am some pussy? I am a sailor and know the “T”. I just don’t want to use a gun but have other ways. Care to join me you f~~~ing coward?
You asswholes are right.
This was a better response. Your spiraling downward now. Walk away.
skip the cavernous vag and go your own way
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