“I have a bad past with guys and I’m not gonna deal with it anymore”

[ClintParticipant 331]

Some bitch started texting me today and just dropped that bulls~~~ on me. Normally I would just stop texting her without an explanation, but this girl knows who I am and has seen me at where I work. How can I go about letting her down easy without causing any problems?

To extend this conversation, I’m wondering what the trick is to speaking to women without giving them the idea that I’m some kind of blue-pill chump. Typically I speak to them as if they are men, without any special treatment. This seems to be backfiring on me because apparently these women are used to guys “just asking for sex”. What is it you guys do to make sure they don’t misinterpret the way you speak to them?

Normally I won’t even entertain a woman into thinking that I’m into her, but sometimes I just want to close the deal quick and easy.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else is the greatest accomplishment." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

If it’s not a “booty call” text, why even read it, let alone respond to it?
That’s what her 500 Facebook friends are for…

[Anonymous 11]

It’s a trap and possibly a White Knighting s~~~ test for you.

What do I do to make sure they don’t misinterpret me?

I don’t speak to them, or else I am so brutally blunt there is no room to misinterpret.

Yes, I p~~~ them off very regularly too. Being this is at work, I’d disengage very slowly. She could have personality issues too. Be damn careful.

It’s best not to s~~~ in your own pool.

[ClintParticipant 331]

XSDBS wrote:

If it’s not a “booty call” text, why even read it, let alone respond to it?
That’s what her 500 Facebook friends are for…

You’re right I definitely shouldn’t have played into it in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:

It’s a trap and possibly a White Knighting s~~~ test for you.

What do I do to make sure they don’t misinterpret me?

I don’t speak to them, or else I am so brutally blunt there is no room to misinterpret.

Yes, I p~~~ them off very regularly too. Being this is at work, I’d disengage very slowly. She could have personality issues too. Be damn careful.

It’s best not to s~~~ in your own pool.

Right, my usual plan is to just break contact immediately and permanently, but because of the circumstances I’m thinking of how to do this delicately. I’m not sure about the personality issue, but I’m pretty sure she’s just a dumbass.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else is the greatest accomplishment." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

[KeymasterKeymaster]

“I HAVE A BAD PAST WITH GUYS AND I’M NOT GONNA DEAL WITH IT ANYMORE”

“If you say so”.

…. and then go about your business. What does she expect you to do? Go running after her and “proving” you’re a “nice guy”. Those were her choices.

Clint wrote:

What is it you guys do to make sure they don’t misinterpret the way you speak to them?

Who cares how she interprets it. That’s happening in HER head. I don’t really give a s~~~ how she interprets it. I will speak to her however I please. That’s the fun part. Let her re-interpret it right into next week for all you care. Women will re-interpret anything and everything. Not your problem.

EXAMPLE: Backhanded compliments.

“I feel fat today”.

“I LIKE a girl with extra meat on her bones. Don’t listen to what other people say about you, I think you look GREAT”.

It sounds like a compliment, but really it’s a dig. It’s DESIGNED for her to reinterpret it. That’s what you want her to do. Now she will reinterpret that and remember it for weeks. But she also can’t nail you on it. How can she be mad at you for saying she looks great?

Women reinterpret EVERYTHING and take NOTHING at value, because they can’t be taken at face value themselves. So it doesn’t matter how you “word” it, she will twist it however she wants. (“What did he MEAN??”) Let her do it. Enjoy it, and use it to your advantage.

“I feel fat today”.

“Well, I wasn’t going to say anything…. but if you say so.”

“if you say so” is an indifferent acknowledgement and it comes in very handy. It’s like say “yeah ok, whatever you say” and it doesn’t matter a goddamn bit to you if she’s right or wrong.

It’s like when a woman says “I’m ready to get married now” – even when she has no prospects, and nobody is proposing. Who f~~~ing cares.

Unless she is ASKING you, or wants you to do something, it’s in her head. Ignore it totally. A statement like “I have a bad past with guys and I’m not gonna deal with it anymore” is not even something she should be saying out loud.

“OK. If you say so”.

It’s done right there. She thought she would sucker you into her drama, and failed on the spot.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PhiloParticipant 84]

I must be missing something here. Sounds to me that she is letting you know that she is not interested because “I have a bad past with guys and I’m not gonna deal with it anymore”. Doesn’t “I’m not gonna deal with it anymore” mean she is not going to deal with you?

If so then your work is done.

This above all: to thine own self be true - William Shakespeare

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

How did she get your number in the first place?

The best way is to get her to change her mind.

Give one or two word responses. Always be busy.

E.g.

Female. Are you doing anything tonight?

Man. Yes

Never reciprocate. Don’t ask her about her day.

Female. How was your day?

Man. Fine.

She will eventually give up.

It is like ghosting but not. She’ll get frustrated and give up. But you haven’t done anything wrong. You answered every question put to you.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

Clint wrote:

Some bitch started texting me today and just dropped that bulls~~~ on me. Normally I would just stop texting her without an explanation, but this girl knows who I am and has seen me at where I work. How can I go about letting her down easy without causing any problems?

To extend this conversation, I’m wondering what the trick is to speaking to women without giving them the idea that I’m some kind of blue-pill chump. Typically I speak to them as if they are men, without any special treatment. This seems to be backfiring on me because apparently these women are used to guys “just asking for sex”. What is it you guys do to make sure they don’t misinterpret the way you speak to them?

Normally I won’t even entertain a woman into thinking that I’m into her, but sometimes I just want to close the deal quick and easy.

1: Make copies of all the s~~~ she is sending you.

2: Tell her to not bother you with such things if they are not work related, or of some business of which is your concern. If you’re not going to be her ,”Friend”, then make it crystal clear to even a newborn that you are not going to be her “Friend”.

3: Make copies of all the s~~~ she is sending you.

4: DO NOT GO OVER THERE AND BE HER ,”FRIEND”. YOU WILL PAY FOR IT.

…………….Yes. I KNOW she has called and wants you to meet her somewhere in person. I’m not a psychic. That’s how this s~~~ goes. You may wish to send your phone straight to voice mail for a few days as well.

5: Check on the copies of the s~~~ she is sending you.

6: By this point she should have gotten the message and will leave you alone. Chances are, she won’t.

6a: Be prepared to make as much trouble for her in the workplace as she is for you, including calling the cops.

7: In case I don’t mention this at a later time, MAKE COPIES OF ALL THE S~~~ SHE IS SENDING YOU. Paper trails are a TON of evidence when it comes to things like this and add weight, bot literally and figuratively to your side of the arguement. Good luck man.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

“I have a bad past with guys and I’m not gonna deal with it anymore.” Equals I was trying to change them, control them, manipulate them but it backfired, oops!

Your response should’ve been if any response was needed: “I didn’t ask.”

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

If you wanna f~~~, tell her. If she’s giving you the runaround, the s~~~ tests, drop her like a rock. Women think they have the only magic pussy on the planet. You do realize there are roughly 3 billion other women out there, right? Let her know she’s not special, act disinterested, if she wants to f~~~ she will, if not find another. And for f~~~ sake don’t f~~~ anyone you work with, causes all kinds of drama.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[EskimospyParticipant 841]

Her: I have a bad past with guys and I’m not gonna deal with it anymore.

Me: If you’re not going to deal with it anymore then why do you bother to tell another guy such as myself about it?

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

Clint wrote:

Some bitch started texting me today and just dropped that bulls~~~ on me. Normally I would just stop texting her without an explanation, but this girl knows who I am and has seen me at where I work. How can I go about letting her down easy without causing any problems?

To extend this conversation, I’m wondering what the trick is to speaking to women without giving them the idea that I’m some kind of blue-pill chump. Typically I speak to them as if they are men, without any special treatment. This seems to be backfiring on me because apparently these women are used to guys “just asking for sex”. What is it you guys do to make sure they don’t misinterpret the way you speak to them?

Normally I won’t even entertain a woman into thinking that I’m into her, but sometimes I just want to close the deal quick and easy.

“Girl, if you have problems, honestly I’m not the guy who can help. You are talking to Mr. Hit and Run. I don’t want to carry your emotional baggage since your a good co-worker. Have you thought therapy or dating a different type of man like a beta geek push over?”

[Anonymous 42]

Keymaster wrote:

EXAMPLE: Backhanded compliments.

[female]“I feel fat today”.

[male]“I LIKE a girl with extra meat on her bones. Don’t listen to what other people say about you, I think you look GREAT”.

I gotta say I’m with Keymaster on this one, in an earlier thread I recommended when a woman says guess my age? to say she looks like a teenager, win win,
women are emotionally unstable, the slightest hint of offensive “truth” and you’ve scorn a woman, but passive truth is flipping their s~~~ like a perfect omelet, you fold her over on herself and all the bulls~~~ melts seamlessly together….

[ClintParticipant 331]

Appreciate the insights fellas. I took keymaster’s approach before he posted actually. The posts of his I’ve read in the past come to mind when I encounter these situations. I’ll post the conversation for those interested.

Okay so yeah I have a very bad past with guys and I’m just not dealing with that bulls~~~

To be honest that’s kind of a problem for me. I don’t want to be dealing with trust issues or whatever.

Totally understandable but when you are in a different relationship you have to start over I feel like but like guys need to show that girls can atleast trust them

To me you need to have a baseline amount of trust to even be out on the market. You can’t ask guys to prove they arent a murderer or rapist or something. If you get a bad vibe you cut it off.

I get that lol

And I just left it at that. Also I don’t work with this girl, but she knows where I work and apparently has seen me there before.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else is the greatest accomplishment." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

[RoyDalParticipant]

@Deadly Raver, I agree completely. That is the plan I would follow, starting with the permanent records. Make sure they are stored off company property and not on company equipment.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

Sounds like a great opportunity to just agree with her.
Like, “I know just what you mean. Dating is just not worth the hassle. That’s why I gave it up a long time ago.”

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

she’s s~~~-testing you to see if you could be a good emotional tampon for her

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

I’m missing something – why is she communicating with you? Did you f~~~ her before? Take her out on a date or ask for her # or something?

XSDBS wrote:

If it’s not a “booty call” text, why even read it, let alone respond to it?

I can’t see what you have to gain by responding. Block her.

[HitmanParticipant]

Big Boss wrote:

You are talking to Mr. Hit and Run.

my style ,if she’s worth sticking your dick into .
you work with her so DON’T S~~~ WHERE YOU EAT !
i respond with only smile face emoji’s ..only one , every time !
she can’t get mad and it stops conversations fast .

[Anonymous 5]

Well I can say a way that has worked for me is well simply saying that “You enjoy their friendship but your not looking for anything beyond that” – than stop txting them. Man I hate playing blue-pill at work I dislike alot of the females I encounter. That said I share the same view point for those that carry the liberal-like anti common-sense mentality. Ha. That is a unfair thing to say. After Mgtow I know the right thing is to just ignore- never lie. But when it’s work you just want the day to go “smother”. Truly a paradox for me.

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