I don't know how to get her out of my mind

[AufladenParticipant 105]

Keymaster said:

You’ll know how. Do whatever you need to do to start LIKING yourself more than you do right now. Even if it means going to the gym at 2AM. Or washing your car. Or doing your laundry. GET BUSY. Get TOO busy. Get SO busy that you don’t have the ABILITY to think about her. Be creative.

Agreed. Believe me when I say I’ve been there mate. Try to get busier than you’ve ever been, all the jobs you’ve been putting off, things you’ve wanted to try. You’re still going to have those thoughts, that’s unavoidable I’m afraid, but it does become more manageable as you keep distracting yourself.

And as a few other guys have said. Time. Yeah, I hated it when I received the same advice, but the passage of time will see you right. There is no shortcut, if only. As long as you make full use of this time to refocus all your energy on yourself. Be selfish! Nothing wrong with that at all.

Give yourself a break too, allow your thoughts to flow and just ‘be’. Constantly fighting them, pushing them down does you no good in the long run. All part of the healing process (mindfulness meditation has helped me too). But don’t get hung up on needing answers. Believe me, you’re far better off not knowing a lot of things that may or may not have happened. It doesn’t matter, take all the power back for yourself. Give yourself permission to cry too, if you’re so inclined. I’m an emotional guy and learned that this was a very important part of moving myself along the path to where I am today.

It most certainly won’t feel like it right now, but the day will come when you will be so appreciative for this experience. You will grow from it, learn that much more about the person that matters most: yourself. You’ll be amazed at how strong you will become from this.

Keep moving forward brother.

'You can achieve more and be happy avoiding the wrong women than you ever could searching for the right woman.' - KM

[Anonymous 1]

@aufladen thanks for the advice, the help you all gave me has been pretty useful,

I’m an emotional guy and learned that this was a very important part of moving myself along the path to where I am today.

I found that i’m also sometimes very emotional, and I hadn’t realized until recently.

[Anonymous 54]

Anonymous wrote:

@aufladen thanks for the advice, the help you all gave me has been pretty useful,

I’m an emotional guy and learned that this was a very important part of moving myself along the path to where I am today.

I found that i’m also sometimes very emotional, and I hadn’t realized until recently.

Same here.
But..
Remind yourself on a regular basis, that emotions are not important.They are merely a barometer to let you know where your at.
Logic and reason must rule.

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