I first heard the term MGTOW on a Sugar Daddy site, it was used by one of the men who liked these kinds of arrangements over traditional dating. If it works for him that is great. For me though I found it to be rather empty even before I officially did anything about it. Anyway as a means of saying thank you for that site bringing me to this one I thought I would write about my experience and you can take from it what you will.
I started exploring it mid 2014, I thought it might be a way of dating on my terms, have some attractive women spend time with me. I’m not old and I have been told I look younger than my age, I actually don’t have too many problems with “hitting on beautiful women” so it wasn’t something I was exploring out of a sense of inferiority or failure. I just felt that maybe it might be fun, that I could have some romantic dates all on my own terms. Sex wasn’t the driving motivation although being in Australia where prostitution is legal most of the women on the site were quite happy to provide that knowing that they were competing with legal alternatives.
The site back then had a mix of all sorts of women, the cute girl next door type, the hooker or professional escort all glammed up, 18 year olds to right up to their 60’s if you want that. I was open to looks and age although my favourite type is the cute girl next door type of which there was plenty.
So the first thing you realize when you join is you have to know what you want and how you think this might all work. Many of the women don’t have a clue and the ones who do treat it like a serious business, and that in itself put me right off. I was still mid point between Blue and Red pill at this stage and I was clasping onto the last fragments I had of wanting to think women were divine elegant creatures! I didn’t want this to feel too much like a business contract.
So start going through profiles, usual theme emerges from the women “me, me, me” even on a site like this they still don’t get it, there are 8 women to every 1 male on here, you want my money, impress me bitch! They all have lists of demands, how they want to be treated, what they want, how their Sugar Daddy should be, hmmmm… One woman says she is a Socialist and cares about the poor, that seems contradictory to wanting a rich man to spend money on you darling. Another woman who is quite large has joined the site because she is sick of dating and wants romance, she wants a man who will not be ashamed to be seen with her. What is wrong with these women? If you can’t get a date for free what makes you think a man will pay to date you?
But among all of that there are some women who are both attractive and seem normal or as normal as a female will get anyway, I chat to some, one ends up being confusing she wants an arrangement that is slow burn, she wants to take her time she is willing to forego the money until she is comfortable to have sex, ok fine, kind of, so it seems to me she wants a relationship, turns out she doesn’t, she gets upset because she thinks I am trying to tie her down, no I’m not, she has had sex with with men for money before, men who she would have had sex with for free. So I ask her why didn’t she, she tells me that they want to help, that they want the sex but not the relationship, it’s not about the money, they just want to help, I tell her yes they help with money, it’s all about the money! Needless to say I run from her, just be honest about what you want, that is all I ask!
I chat with another and we meet up, she seems ok, she is pretty great legs, but she is annoyed, it is obvious she doesn’t really like me, we arrange for a second meeting no money has changed hands and so far I have only spent $4 on a drink, I won’t take these women out anywhere unless we have made an agreement. She seems even more annoyed and makes a weird question asking if I want to meet again, I am actually taking my time because she seems really weird about this now. I start to feel weird myself and sleazy, I don’t like feeling sleazy. She is uncomfortable and I’m already changing my mind about paying someone to spend time with me let alone someone who will be uncomfortable and make me feel uncomfortable, that is just wasted cash.
So we say bye and I think about this whole thing, what do I really want? I don’t need a woman anymore, I have come to that conclusion the hugs I got from her were nice but not life changing highs as they were in the past with other women. Do I want to pay a woman to be around me? No, I don’t and if I really must then I will go to a brothel. Is this all really sad? Yes, I feel for me it is. Will these women even want to know me when the money stops? Hell no!
So there you have it, my exploration into Sugar Dating and why I didn’t pursue it. I figured some of you may have been interested in this yourself and if not then you might get a laugh out of it anyway.
Was also fun to be on a site and have so many women message me upfront, I didn’t even have a photo up. All the usual dating rules are reversed here, women chase you!
If you are going to explore this my tips for you,
1/ Don’t meet them at a restaurant or anywhere that will cost you anything.
2/ Take your time chatting to them, be very cynical.
3/ Don’t pay them to travel to you. Some ask for this.
4/ Don’t give them anything until you are happy that you will get what you want or have already gotten it.
5/ Remember always that they need you more than you need them and that they outnumber men on the site. This is dating reversed!
6/ Don’t allow yourself to get hung up on the way one looks. Even if she is your dream girl there will be another one just like her on there.
experienced 4 years, 7 months ago.
But it seems you stumbled across the age old problem …. even with these women …. they just don’t know what the f~~~ they want. It’s like they advertise for a plumber and when a plumber turns up ….. they want an electrician instead. Just not worth the hassle. 
