I betrayed my promise to myself

[anaverageguyParticipant 14]

I regret it deeply. I made the mistake of attempting to have a relationship with a member of the ‘fairer’ gender despite my previous experiences indicating that a full MGTOW lifestyle would suit me best. I have many issues, with those most severe being the direct result of abuse from a female, but instinct still held strong I suppose and I decided to help a woman who was ‘in need’. She had just graduated from college and desired to be in a relationship with me after meeting me at my job. Things developed rapidly, despite my initial desire to avoid serious dating, things picked up and she soon took control of the situation. Several months after we began seeing each other her father passed away and she flew to Texas. No sooner than a day after she leaves she informs me that she is now dating a highschool friend. For some reason this surprised me, though my past experiences would indicate that this is normal behavior for a woman. I am a bit depressed about the situation, although it is becoming increasingly difficult for me to handle my own emotions as loneliness sets in. I let myself sink back into old habits and my life has been further damaged for it. Let this be a warning to those who believe that they have finally found the right one. There is no light. I have come to think that my only option will be to go full MGTOW in the near future.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

anaverageguy wrote:

There is no light. I have come to think that my only option will be to go full MGTOW in the near future.

sounds like a good plan.

by the way, you should google and watch videos on Briffault’s Law. This will teach you a lot about female nature.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[BrujahParticipant 579]

I don’t think you ever need to apologize for acting like any other natural man would. Even now I catch myself “preening” if only for the attention.

Nothing molds a man faster into the MGTOW mold then repeated displays of why you should go your own way.

[WallyParticipant]

That sucks man, the pain and betrayal is a reminder of AWALT. It still hurts though, at some point if not already you will realize you dodged a bullet.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

We won’t shame you, in fact it turned out great. You could have married then she cheated on you.

A great lesson for all of us.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Just remember this when she come crawling back to you and wants you to forgive her and be her beta slave again.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Jan Sobieski wrote:

Just remember this when she come crawling back to you and wants you to forgive her and be her beta slave again.

@anaverageguy it sucks that you had to go through that again but you learned your lesson. What Jan said above will eventually happen, she will one day out of the blue call you back just to see if she still has you in your pocket, lose her number and forget you ever met her. I hope you still don’t have to see her at work but if you do ignore the s~~~ out of her and only respond to anything work related as soon as she tries to say anything personal shut it down by just keeping silent and walking away no matter what the topic is. She will want you even more but you just got to keep ignoring her and she will eventually leave you alone.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

Wow, just wow. I am sorry to hear all of this. Deep down we all want that NAWALT, but doesn’t seem to be a thing.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[AttonParticipant]

It natural to f~~~ up just don’t f~~~ up again.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Consider that bullet dodged.

And god help that stupid schmuck high school friend who is stuck with her now. Or at least stuck with her until she grabs her next branch, because you know she’s already looking for one. The only question is how badly she’s going to screw him over first. Just be glad that isn’t you.

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

Don’t beat yourself up about it. If it weren’t for the disintegration of modern society via feminism, we wouldn’t need to be so vigilant against this s~~~. MGTOW, to me, is a necessary evolution of modern man to survive. For any organism, it’s evolution or extinction. I choose evolution.
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Don’t put off going MGTOW another moment. Start now. Make a commitment to yourself now. Refuse to put yourself in that situation again. Refuse to be any broad’s mule ever again. Refuse to participate in the whole f~~~ing thing. Then head out into the world.
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Look at life through your new eyes. You will quickly be racking up observation after observation that makes you damn glad you are who you are. The cumulative effect can be very rewarding for the spirit. You’ll find no better way to appreciate yourself and your situation.
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I’ll share one recent one with you to get you started. I was at a tech conference a couple weeks ago. Just so happens our company is too cheap to properly feed or house us on these trips, so we pack 4 guys into a whore-shack motel room and get no $$ for food. 3 of us simply bought a little beer and picked up some stuff at a restaurant. The fourth guy has a wife that doesn’t work and 5 kids at home, one of which is under 11. He was “given” $20 by his wife for a two day trip to “spend.” Poor bastard brought bread and peanut butter with him.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

It’s okay, while you are a man, you are still human. Just because you’re MGTOW that doesn’t mean you’re automatically invincible to the instincts of pursuing intimacy. Cuddling and f~~~ing and kissing release all kinds of happy chemicals, and it’s pretty hard to give up. Especially when its been preprogrammed into you over thousands of years, and in the media.

I just got out of a relationship two weeks ago which severed very painfully. And even though I gave myself a “No flirting with other girls for at least three months” recovery phase, I still feel very guilty whenever I don’t talk to a girl I think is attractive.

My ego tells me every time: “You didn’t talk to her, NOT because you’re MGTOW. You didn’t talk to her because you’re a chicken s~~~ who is afraid of rejection.”

You are still human. And you’re going to keep making mistakes. Accept that nothing ever goes as planned, and you just gotta survive and keep going. Thoughts are gonna go through your head right now like “What’s even the point?” These feelings are gonna pass. Just do your best to stay alive for the next three weeks, and you’ll make it man. I know coming on these forums helped a s~~~ load, so come back on often! Hit me up, message me if you need someone to talk to! 🙂

Brother, we need to stick together.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

He was “given” $20 by his wife for a two day trip to “spend.” Poor bastard brought bread and peanut butter with him.

Oh f~~~…..the struggle. That made my stomach turn. That poor son of a bitch..

Brother, we need to stick together.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

I’m not saying don’t go MGTOW, for most of us it is the one true key to happiness, but here’s some food for thought;
It seems to me like you’re jaded and angry and are simply using MGTOW as an excuse to frame her as “the bad guy” by saying “all women are like that” – in short, to make it about her, ignoring your own problems which lead you to choose women poorly and that ignoring only leads to perpetuating those problems.

P.S. I’m not saying I’m “holier than thou” or anything, I was the same, but making it about her and women as a whole, ignores underlying personal problems which without addressing, you are still a slave to. Without introspection into your own issues, you cannot truly go your own way.

[Mr_OptionsParticipant 298]

Unicorns are a meith my friend.

A man without a woman is like a fish without a hook.

[HaymakerParticipant 226]

Dont worry about it. We all make mistakes. As long you learn from your mistakes then its ok. Well yeah your emotions are in a state of hell right now. But that is just your hormones punishing you. Its natural, its genetic. You cant do much about. Take your time and you will naturally recover.

Always going big, Yeah you know the kid, Call me haymaker.

[the roadParticipant 3125]

It’s never too late to go MGTOW.

#MANOUT

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