I am so tired of dealing with emotionally immature people.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

I am so tired of dealing with emotionally immature people. Both women and men.

If things don’t go their way, or the way exactly as they envision, even by one little bit, they throw tantrums.

They only talk to me when they want something from me. Or, for me to do something for them. And it is not perfectly like they request, they get upset.

I don’t get genuine thank yous. At best I get indifference and backhanded comments. At worst I get threats, or sometimes worse by the meanest of them.

They do not value my opinion. They do not make time for me. But, they sure want me to be on call 24/7 when they want someone to be used as an emotional tampon.

I am in a situation where I cannot live alone due to the job market and circumstances beyond my control.

And no. I am not married. No kids either. Truth be told, I was born into this situation. I didn’t have a choice. And I have been trying to escape ever since.

I so want out of here. And not just where I am at, but this life. This civilization. This reality.

Someone please drop the bombs already, this civilization needs to go.

[MemberParticipant 323]

It seems that when you help out people on a regular basis they eventually forget that you can say NO and quit helping them. Some individuals…..especially self entitled and personality disordered women feel extra, extra special and that you have not choice but to do what they request. Even suffering ridicule and shaming because what you do is not good enough for them.

It probably wont change how they act but it is good sometimes to remind the self entitled that you can say NO to their requests and do so…..they stick to your guns and do not comply with their request no matter how much they whine and threaten. Either they will back off with enough NO answers or they will ratchet up their threats. Your response to that should be to cut them out of your life. Seriously. They are so used to using you at this point that they will only get worse. If you cant truly get away from them because of living arrangements make a plan to get out. In the meantime stay away from home as much as possible working or hanging out with others that DO NOT hassle you. They will have trouble asking for favors if you are never around and don’t answer your phone.

[SnakeSpectator 2080]

I have enjoyed reading your posts. Thank you for contributing.

I am not sure what community you desire. My vision was similar to what I saw someone else describe. A return to our ancestors with the best technological progress we have made. Small, self sufficient farming and ranching communities with access to modern medicine. Hot water heaters for northerners and freezers for southerners, the rest of this s~~~ could go. I don’t desire war, nor do I desire slavery.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

Member wrote:

It seems that when you help out people on a regular basis they eventually forget that you can say NO and quit helping them. Some individuals….

Thank you for your posts of support.

Actually, for the last six months I have been slowly backing away from being helpful. I may have to deal with these people everyday, but that does not mean I have to associate with them during my free time.

And it is not just the women, but the men. With their reactions towards me being about the same when they don’t like something. Even if it is not my fault they take it out on me, because they think I will just keep taking it. They don’t see how I am having less and less to do with them.

I am just slowly cutting my cords with them, without burning bridges. This is difficult and time consuming, but necessary so I don’t have any baggage when I do leave.

And someday, some how, I am going to leave, and I am not coming back.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Faust For Science wrote:

If things don’t go their way, or the way exactly as they envision, even by one little bit, they throw tantrums.

Look up “narcissistic sociopath” and “psychopath” — the distinction is tricky, if, that is there even is a distinction.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

I get the same type of feelings occasionally, but it sounds like you have it worse than me. All I do is focus on what I enjoy. I try to fix what I can but realize my influence on things outside myself is extraordinarily insignificant. Human nature has a disgusting dark side, but I realize I’m not free of it. The people around serve as examples of what to avoid and remainders of why I choose to be different. I’m far from perfect but I have made progress and can appreciate that. My life is a continuous state of learning. It brings me contentment, and I know I could die today without regret.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

RoyDal wrote:

Look up “narcissistic sociopath” and “psychopath” — the distinction is tricky, if, that is there even is a distinction.

I have. And you are right. It is tricky.

Though, from what I have learned a sociapath is learned behavior from deadening of a person’s empathy. Psychopaths are just born without without empathy.

A lot of these people are relatives. That worries me about my own self. Though, I try my best to empathize with others, but in a guarded fashion.

Tiga K wrote:

I get the same type of feelings occasionally, but it sounds like you have it worse than me. All I do is focus on what I enjoy. I try to fix what I can but realize my influence on things outside myself is extraordinarily insignificant. Human nature has a disgusting dark side, but I realize I’m not free of it. The people around serve as examples of what to avoid and remainders of why I choose to be different. I’m far from perfect but I have made progress and can appreciate that. My life is a continuous state of learning. It brings me contentment, and I know I could die today without regret.

Yea. It does sound like we come from similar situations. And I take a similar point of view as you on such matters.

Thank you.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

i suggest you try Zen meditation it can calm your nerves or reduce stress. It needs to be done a daily basis. You might be able to do only a few minutes at first however as times go by it’s ideal to do it for at least 30 minutes. If you have time to meditate longer it’s a good thing too. I wouldn’t meditate longer than 1 hr because it can be disruptive to your life unless you plan on going on meditation retreat which you actually have to plan. If you can find a local zen temple it’s ideal. Usually you have to donate a small amount but it’s worth it.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[Anonymous 26]

Faust For Science…. I hear your plight brother! I feel the same way sometimes and in my current professional situation my boss is this middle aged man child bachelor whom I suspect may very well be a virgin too.

Suffice to say that I made a major mistake when I started working for him, in that I followed his lead in being a little too openly jokingly during business hours. Now as a result the quality of my work is suffering from it and am being told not to bring my personal problems to work.

So now I am going to try to take a low key more serious and more professional approach to keep my work as best as I can make it.

I feel your frustration too with how society is so F.U.B.A.R. and the status quo being so asinine and backwards. If the power plug was pulled tomorrow…. A LOT of people would be up s~~~ creek without a paddle.

Guess the next best thing to do would be to…. prep.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

Crazy Canuck wrote:

i suggest you try Zen meditation it can calm your nerves or reduce stress. It needs to be done a daily basis. You might be able to do only a few minutes at first however as times go by it’s ideal to do it for at least 30 minutes. If you have time to meditate longer it’s a good thing too. I wouldn’t meditate longer than 1 hr because it can be disruptive to your life unless you plan on going on meditation retreat which you actually have to plan. If you can find a local zen temple it’s ideal. Usually you have to donate a small amount but it’s worth it.

Cnu, do meditation techniques for years. Not the 30 minute exercises, but the momentary relaxation techniques of stopping, taking a deep breath, putting my fingers together, to focus on doing so with my fingers to help center and calm myself down. And that helps.

I have found that if I try to meditation for more than 15 minutes I start to tire and eventually sleep.

I have been trying several tricks to help cope and get out of the situation I find myself. And I am making progress. But, it is frustratingly slow.

Anonymous wrote:

I feel your frustration too with how society is so F.U.B.A.R. and the status quo being so asinine and backwards. If the power plug was pulled tomorrow…. A LOT of people would be up s~~~ creek without a paddle.

Shift70, I know what you mean.

Thank you everyone for your replies. They help a lot.

[The Moth Attracted to the FlameParticipant 2982]

I can only think of one girl I have seen that isn’t emotionally immature. And that’s just sad from my experiences.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

The Moth Attracted to the Flame wrote:

I can only think of one girl I have seen that isn’t emotionally immature. And that’s just sad from my experiences.

It is not just you. I can count on one hand the number of emotionally immature adults, both men and women, whom I know.

[HitmanParticipant]

we are all tired of dealing with them , society seems to mass produce them , they whine and cringe over the slightest things ...our grandfathers would have gone to work with a broken leg .
now even if someone doesn’t “feel ” right they can get all the sympathy they want by going onto social media and having dozens of ” friends ” ( not really friends ! ) ALL say POOR YOU ! HOW TERRIBLE ! BOO HOO !!! ...it’s beyond immature ..they’re CRIPPLED …

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Faust For Science wrote:

If things don’t go their way, or the way exactly as they envision, even by one little bit, they throw tantrums.

THIS ^^

I have been “punished” — and blamed — for not doing what someone thought I should do, or wanted me to do. They will expect me to do something (however trivial or insignificant ) and this will take place in their imagination….. then when I don’t read their minds, I am treated as though I treated them badly.

It’s madness, I tell you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Keymaster wrote:

Faust For Science wrote:

If things don’t go their way, or the way exactly as they envision, even by one little bit, they throw tantrums.

THIS ^^

I have been “punished” — and blamed — for not doing what someone thought I should do, or wanted me to do. They will expect me to do something (however trivial or insignificant ) and this will take place in their imagination….. then when I don’t read their minds, I am treated as though I treated them badly.

It’s madness, I tell you.

Christ, and I thought I was the only one who experienced this.

[Just MikeParticipant 393]

Chin up dude, you’re doing the right thing. It sucks, especially if you have no choice, and I know their emotional bulls~~~ drains you as well, as much as you don’t want it to. It takes a lot out of you to realise that people you thought were friends really are just ass-hats, especially if those people were meant to be some sort of ‘base support’ and that constantly falls through or you’re just repeatedly shown ingratitude.

I think civilisation is great because I’m at the point where I’m painting my own picture of what it means to me and starting to learn how to play the game to my advantage and get what I want out of it. I didn’t always see things this way. There’s some s~~~ out there but the stuff that I disagree with I filter it out or I fight. Having said that, pre-emptively, the less people you have to filter or fight the better. Cognitively, when you start replacing the negative cycle these people constantly impose on you, or consciously stop receiving it, you’re free to start replacing all of those negative thoughts with positive ones. The mental cycle still goes on, it’s just far superior and you’ll feel like a king in no time at all.

I’m sure I’m not alone in saying we’ve all got your back, dude. Best of luck with whatever culling and ass-kicking you undertake to weed these things out of your life 🙂

Society: I refuse your stick and carrot. If you try to beat or shame me you'd better take me down first time. If I want smoke blown up my ass I'll buy a cigar and a length of hose.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

Hitman wrote:

we are all tired of dealing with them , society seems to mass produce them , they whine and cringe over the slightest things ...our grandfathers would have gone to work with a broken leg .
now even if someone doesn’t “feel ” right they can get all the sympathy they want by going onto social media and having dozens of ” friends ” ( not really friends ! ) ALL say POOR YOU ! HOW TERRIBLE ! BOO HOO !!! ...it’s beyond immature ..they’re CRIPPLED …

You might as well be describing my school. Whenever it rains, I’m able to get one of the best parking spaces because attendance noticeably drops. Then people bitch about how hard their lives are like it excuses them from having to try as hard as everyone else. “It’s raining, I’m so sad. I’m tired, life is so hard. Gf/bf, Facebook, bla bla bla” My politically incorrect professor tells me some good stories of student/colleague patheticness.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

Hitman wrote:

we are all tired of dealing with them , society seems to mass produce them , they whine and cringe over the slightest things …our grandfathers would have gone to work with a broken leg .
now even if someone doesn’t “feel ” right they can get all the sympathy they want by going onto social media and having dozens of ” friends ” ( not really friends ! ) ALL say POOR YOU ! HOW TERRIBLE ! BOO HOO !!! …it’s beyond immature ..they’re CRIPPLED …

This is one of the reasons I no longer have any desire to change the world. I just want to get out of this world.

These people, both women and men, are so crippled by their emotional immaturity that they lack the most basic understanding of what they do that is wrong. You cannot explain to them how they are wrong, because they will not understand.

And it is not raw intelligence, some of them are better at math than I am. It is the fact they completely lack wisdom and self-restraint in civil situations.

From the replies by everyone, I see a pattern and it is a very ugly pattern of those that have hurt us out of raw spite and immaturity.

Keymaster wrote:

THIS ^^

I have been “punished” — and blamed — for not doing what someone thought I should do, or wanted me to do. They will expect me to do something (however trivial or insignificant ) and this will take place in their imagination….. then when I don’t read their minds, I am treated as though I treated them badly.

It’s madness, I tell you.

Oh, it is madness of the worst sort.

And that has happened to me on a number of occasions.

When those around me clearly thought I should do something, and they did not tell me, then later they berate me for not doing so. I literally had to verbally remind them that I am not a telepath. That I thankfully cannot read minds.

This is something very obvious, that telepathy does not exist in this reality. At least not at that level. They literally cannot tell fantasy from reality.

This is the definition of clinical insanity.

Those around me even make up bad things against me, in their minds, from the past, to try to use against me.

One of them try to claim I had an argument with that person three days beforehand, which did not happen. I then gave a detailed list of the events I did with this person, and no argument happened. And that shut that person up for a while.

I realize these people see me in the worst light imaginable. And there is nothing I can do about it.

No matter what I do, everything and everyone works against me where I am at. And I have no way to leave at the moment

I just want out of this living hell. And I don’t want to come back.

[Anonymous 24]

Snake wrote:

I don’t desire war, nor do I desire slavery.

I am right there with you guys.

Snake, I would of done as Snake did at the end of Escape from L.A. …
Maybe my favorite ending to any movie of all time.

[Anonymous 0]

I go through this everyday. I work retail right now and the s~~~ ive seen. I just want to opt out and be left alone. I go into the mountains and hikes a-lot to get away from people. Sometimes I get lost in composing music. I just want to walk away but the system has its chain and ball on my leg.

Faust For Science wrote:

I am so tired of dealing with emotionally immature people. Both women and men.

If things don’t go their way, or the way exactly as they envision, even by one little bit, they throw tantrums.

They only talk to me when they want something from me. Or, for me to do something for them. And it is not perfectly like they request, they get upset.

I don’t get genuine thank yous. At best I get indifference and backhanded comments. At worst I get threats, or sometimes worse by the meanest of them.

They do not value my opinion. They do not make time for me. But, they sure want me to be on call 24/7 when they want someone to be used as an emotional tampon.

I am in a situation where I cannot live alone due to the job market and circumstances beyond my control.

And no. I am not married. No kids either. Truth be told, I was born into this situation. I didn’t have a choice. And I have been trying to escape ever since.

I so want out of here. And not just where I am at, but this life. This civilization. This reality.

Someone please drop the bombs already, this civilization needs to go.

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