I am not scoring any girls and losing confidence. Help?

[Razor92Participant 41]

Hey guys,
Its been six months since I am out of a six month relationship with a girl. ( I know I should not have responded to her text and its my bad that I never learn from other experiences unless I experienced it myself.) I’ll give a brief background, this was my first relationship in which I didnt set boundaries. We are college students in early 20s. She had an ex for three years and broke up with him when we start getting serious. She was a drama queen and emotionally unstable because of her ex. Things were smooth in first couple of months then it was ups and downs, and eventually we broke up. The reason for breaking up that I tried to kiss her which I had already been doing before. She left angrily and didnt respond to my texts. I tried to talk her out by sending a text week and eventually I stopped after a month of breakup because I heard she has gotten back together with her ex third time, twice on my back which I forgive and told her logically you wont be comfortable with her after all the mess.

This breakup changed me and I decided to hook up with many girls but dont get emotional with anyone. This was a perfect strategy, I got couple of dates and talk to various girls hence keeping myself sane and enjoying my life. I also decided to pursue some unfinished goals which I mistakenly stopped pursuing.

Everything was going great for me. Eventually I got so busy that if I talk to a girl, my goal is to set a date otherwise she’s wasting my time so I next her. Couple of weeks ago I texted my ex and start teasing her and being unreactive to her responses. Told her that stop making your ex suffer and you have been talking to other guys behind my back. You also talked to your friends about our breakup whereas I told you we will try to resolve our disputes ourselves. She told me to forget everything and we are done. So I texted so it means you dont have any issue if any other girl comes into my life. She responded nope, never had before. 🙂 and that was our last message.

PROBLEM: I am loosing my sanity and confidence. I got busy with my studies and started running along with weight lifting ( I felt happy and relaxed on first day of running. ) . I started cold approach on facebook but didnt have the b~~~~ to approach directly on college campus. Worst thing is that I have started to text my old friends with which I had fights to hang out.

Please help me what to do ? As this is affecting my emotional being and social life as I have nothing to talk except girls.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

I’m very sorry but we found a growth in your brain. It’s very close to the stem and inoperable.

Unfortunately chemo will only delay the inevitable.

We estimate with intense chemo you might get 3-6 months before the inevitable loss of all function.

WHY THE F~~~ are you measuring your life by others?

Who are you? I really really mean that with all my heart …. WHO ARE YOU?

Tell me without mentioning anyone else.

Define what sort of man you are.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

You really, REALLY need to stop giving a f~~~. The opinions of women are a p~~~ poor way of judging your own self worth or “confidence”.

You especially need to stop giving a f~~~ about your ex.

And you especially especially need to stop contacting her. Seriously, what the f~~~ is up with this s~~~?

Razor92 wrote:

So I texted so it means you dont have any issue if any other girl comes into my life.

Why the f~~~ would you care if she had any “issues” with you f~~~ing other women? She’s your EX for f~~~’s sake. Her opinion should have barely mattered, if even that, while you were with her. It shouldn’t matter at all now that you’re done with her.

So actually BE done with her.

[Psl47Participant 678]

ILiveAgain wrote:

I’m very sorry but we found a growth in your brain. It’s very close to the stem and inoperable.

Unfortunately chemo will only delay the inevitable.

We estimate with intense chemo you might get 3-6 months before the inevitable loss of all function.

WHY THE F~~~ are you measuring your life by others?

Who are you? I really really mean that with all my heart …. WHO ARE YOU?

Tell me without mentioning anyone else.

Define what sort of man you are.

This ^^^^^

I had broken up with a grill 2 years ago, and i taught that i need someone next to me so i dont feel lonely.
So months started to go by .. and i started to get depressed , unhappy and so on … i couldnt find any one

But thats the point
You ( me ) think that you need someone to be happy , but trully, you have find your self who you are !

You spend hours and years studying other people and considering their opinion. Youre trying to be copycat

But you dont know who YOU are.

Spend time with your self , start knowing your self, know what YOU are.

I am 2 years living alone .. and i am not lonely .. ive got friends i can hang out with … parents , who support me… .. i am not lonely.. but i live alone , and i know who i am and what i want. Do you?

MGTOW

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[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

Sorry Dude,

I think you may be on the wrong site. Sounds like you need PUA advice. Most guys here are Waaay past chasing women. Its easy come easy go, if it all.

Good luck by the way, you’re going to need it.

It's Time to get Wise

[~BSParticipant 3266]

i think you need to walk away from relationships. I think if you’re not right in the head, all the “not giving a f~~~ short term relationships” are only a temporary pain reliever, and leave you in a worse off spot than you were earlier. You keep messing with your mind by hooking up with these bitches, and you WILL end up with an emotional disorder that will take professional help and medication to help resolve.

This happened to one of my alpha/chad friends. He was always a little “off” in the head, which IMO chads tend to be. But he ended up way worse and literally went crazy after a long string of hookup relationships.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Now that you are single , avoid all women.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Razor92 wrote:

Couple of weeks ago I texted my ex and start teasing her and being unreactive to her responses.

This is WOMAN’S behavior. ??? Bearded clam here ???

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 42]

Have you ever heard about the gender war?

Gynocentricm?

Narcissism?

Feminazi?

Divorce rape?

STDs’?

National Organization for Women? (NOW)

Woman’s liberation movement?

Margaret Sanger, American eugenics and Planned Parenthood?

Gloria Steinem? (the antithesis to C-Pig’s perfect woman)

Illuminati?

United Nations, Agenda 21?

You may want to google these things to get a faint whiff of reality, you’ve come stumbling in here with the shakes desiring a bottle of c~~~cohol here in the sacred halls of MGTOW where the ill c~~~coholic can get some treatment.

Stay a while and decide for yourself if you’re ready for our leading edge advanced treatment for your deplorable intoxicated condition.

Detox is three doors down the hall next to ILA’s office and directly across from C-Pig’s office.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

sidecar wrote:

You really, REALLY need to stop giving a f~~~.

This may seem hard for you to do, but you MUST.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 43]

stay the f~~~ away from women.

read what has happened to us, we have been down the same road, and are a couple miles ahead of you.

Contiinue down the same path, and you will end up like us.

reflect on this song, and get back to us

[AttonParticipant]

Please help me what to do ? As this is affecting my emotional being and social life as I have nothing to talk except girls.

You have this entire forum and the PM system on this forum.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Focus on yourself. Be the best man you can be and you will find that you will have many things to talk about. You will make new friends, you will feel great and the girls will ‘score’ themselves. But, in the process you will find that ‘scoring girls’ is not such a big deal. on the contrary, it’s a waste of time and energy, and a dangerous waste at that.
Good luck my friend. Start reading the Archives on this site and a big pile of books.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

I stopped “trying” to score with any girls and have gained so much confidence with myself & it is an ongoing daily process.

It was mandatory for myself to ever have any sanity in between my ears.

May you also come to that resolution, if you heed the steps laid out before you by the other men’s posts here.

Ask yourself this?

Do you want to build yourself up, or continue down your path of destruction, have it get much worse, and then be faced with trying to rebuild yourself?

I have been piecing myself back together for many moons now…YEARS!

It’s a tedious process, for me deciding to play with fire & being scorched into a crisp.

[MuglintarParticipant 1333]

young man, still focussed on “scoring”, most of us have been there.
read in this forums you will find, the only score you might get is a STD or an alimony.
Getting laid doesn’t mean s~~~ to any man, this is something for the “boys”.
Do you have any obligation to be in a realtionship? If so, who determines, you have to be in a relationship to be happy?
Women need men much more than vice versa.
It is women, who tell us, we would need them to be happy (actually for a few hours, with some happy seconds), but in general we prefer to talk about things, women are commonly not interested in. So if you like things, women don’t like and are even unwilling to learn, then how should you enjoy your time with a person, who is dislikes your likings?

It is just women, ready for everything, good for nothing!

"Him, who delights in solitude, is either a wild beast or a GOD!" - Aristotle (Aristot. Pol. 1.1253a) 1 Hom. Il. 9.63; the passage goes on: ἐστὶν ἐκεῖνος ι ὃς πολέμου ἔραται.

[Anonymous 54]

A woman will not bring you happieness.They will bring misery, witch will replace lonlieness.

If you consider misery better than lonlieness, go for it!!
Or…
Learn to be comfortable with your own company. Good luck.

[Dark KenshiParticipant 2132]

You started losing confidence? In yourself? How?

By waiting for external validation, about “how manly you are”, or “how beautiful you look like”? Well, mate, the ONLY ONE who should be giving you this validation is YOURSELF.

You feel down? You feel lost? GOOD! Now that you are at the BOTTOM of the hole, your only way is UP! Hit the gym, drink some beers, hang out with your friends, do WHATEVER the f~~~ YOU WANT TO. A woman is just another shackle that you should get rid of.

She owns your ass? Is she the last woman on Earth? Or better yet, ARE HER A F~~~ING UNICORN? I don’t think so, brother.

SO STAND THE F~~~ UP AND LIVE. FOR YOURSELF, BY YOURSELF, BECAUSE YOURSELF.
Embrace freedom.

"Young was I once, I walked alone, and bewildered seemed in the way; then I found me another and rich I thought me, for man is the joy of man." Odin, Hàvamàl, stanza 47.

[Razor92Participant 41]

Thank you guys, I guess your stern comments were what I needed right now. I wasn’t thinking logically and was just going with flow of my emotions. I didn’t know what was happening with me but now I realized that I only stopped giving myself attention that I needed. After a couple of weeks, I resumed studying GMAT and doing other hobbies, it gets me occupied and gives me less time to think about other things and gives a boost to my self esteem.
Thank you brothers.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Razor92 wrote:

PROBLEM: I am loosing my sanity and confidence

SOLUTION: Understand that a woman will be an emotional vampire — if you allow it.

Until you are well on your way to achieving your dreams, you shouldn’t even HAVE a “girlfriend”. Many successful men would place this at no earlier than 26. Don’t even THINK about having a “girlfriend” until you’re already confidently established on some level.

Tell yourself there will be no more hinging your self worth on what a woman says – or does. It’s FAR easier than you think.

Never let a woman near your “sanity and confidence”. It doesn’t belong to her!
You need it for other more important things.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Better without YOUParticipant 234]

With your situation there is a disconnect, because you think it’s a good idea to “win her back” when she’s already shown you how little she thinks of you. But hang in there, maybe one day she will see what a huge mistake she made and return to you to offer you the privilege of being her beta provider.

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