How to deal with reaction to MGTOW?

[Thorium123Participant 39]

How does everyone deal with reaction to this lifestyle? I have never admitted this is a lifestyle and believe that not ever talking about MGTOW outside of MGTOW groups is the right thing to do. But, it seems like society expects you to get married or have a relationship and you are considered bad or somehow “wrong” to forego this path. Pretty much from the time a male is born society constantly is bashing your sexuality it seems in this neo feminist Western society. But, when you try to step away and have no part in it, you’re also treated as an outcast. It seems like whatever you do you are in the wrong. So, how do other members get over this constant feeling that you somehow have chosen the wrong path or how do you push aside the constant expectations of society even though the game has been so twisted that any rational man would have saw this long ago?

[Remove me!Participant]

Good question.
Keep your personal life very mysterious. Make them think you might be monk, or you might be a chad. Always keep them guessing. But never open up to them. Just tell them a wife is something you don’t want. But always keep them guessing!

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[Anonymous 18]

I can give you a feel-good statement to deal with symptoms.

But I prefer to work with underlying disease.

Some might say no f~~~s given but in truth its an arduous process to not seek external validation.

It takes training oneself, patience, and eventually learning to come to peace with oneself. Accepting oneself.

Self-validation.

Borrowing from the Enlightened Kiwi brother over at YouTube: “The people that question your choices in life, they stand at an inferior position than you. If you take their bait, they will drag you down to their level. You will feel like s~~~ and would defend your position but that is not what they want. They brought you to their level, and in that lies their victory”.

Its not easy but you will have to learn to not seek validation through others words or actions.

A warm smile shows genuine no f~~~s given mindset.

[Anonymous 3]

Your life is none of their business. Share no information.

Yes, only talk about Mgtow within Mgtow groups. Like: “first rule of fight club is to never talk about fight club”

Realize, generally society (and the people having opinions about you) will not pay your electricity bill (for example), so their opinion simply just does not matter, and can be ignored.

[OldBillParticipant]

Admit nothing, feign ignorance, and walk away.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 11]

OldBill wrote:

Admit nothing, feign ignorance, and walk away.

Top notch advice for many other situations too

[Thorium123Participant 39]

Anonymous wrote:

I can give you a feel-good statement to deal with symptoms.

But I prefer to work with underlying disease.

Some might say no f~~~s given but in truth its an arduous process to not seek external validation.

It takes training oneself, patience, and eventually learning to come to peace with oneself. Accepting oneself.

Self-validation.

Borrowing from the Enlightened Kiwi brother over at YouTube: “The people that question your choices in life, they stand at an inferior position than you. If you take their bait and will drag you down to their level. You will feel like s~~~ and would defend your position but that is not what they want. They brought you to their level, and in that lies their victory”.

Its not easy but you will have to learn to not seek validation through others words or actions.

A warm smile shows genuine no f~~~s given mindset.

Thanks, I agree. It is hard to not seek external validation when you are taught from a young age to in most circumstances. However, it is clear to see that in many ways the current landscape is not conducive to your own individual success. That’s the way I try to see it is that you are doing everything to make the most success for yourself, like everyone else does for themselves

[Anonymous 12]

When I was a kid in Primary School I was shamed because I liked books about history and war rather than to run around making motor bikes noises with the other kids.

When I was in High School I was mocked because I had long hair, played guitar and hung out with the 16-18 year old girls while the other boys chased b~~~~ and tackled each other.

In my 20’s I didn’t drink or smoke, didn’t do drugs and only had sex with whores because I didn’t trust women.

Long story short, I have never fitted in nor do I care. The world is starting to now catch up with me and see how right I was. #MeToo is a blessing for us all.

[SH3LLZParticipant 5569]

Good topic.

I actually got into an argument with my cousin. He is VERY blue pill and I dont fault him for loving his girl. But When you remind a man that she can take you for all hes worth and that hes is spending more than 50% of his earnings on her whim (especially when shes making more than him) Its and easy way to stir up contention.

Many BP guys still want to believe in love, romance and chivalry. And then there are the PUAS who sell betas on this crap just to make money off them. And I dont doubt that many women still want love and romance too. The main problem is, is that they demand so much and give ZERO in return. Another problem is, is that when faced with the current reality, people would rather continue to be willfully ignorant the fact that feminism has ruined women for men. WE KNOW THIS TRUTH!

Well, I’ll say BP GUYS continue to be willfully ignorant. Women KNOW that they have the “sexual” say in society today, meaning, that they can ruin you just because they “changed their mind” mid thrust. Challenge then once and youre a misogynist and a predator. I tried to (test) red pill my GAY brother and he still white knighted for the women…. Its a dangerous world for those of us who are truly AWAKE. (AWAKE not ‘woke’)

Tread carefully Gents!

#ICETHEMOUT
#MANOUT

#ICETHEMOUT!!! #MANOUT!!! #HIDEYOURWEALTH #VAGINAISWORTHLESS

[MeisterParticipant 2093]

Move to a liberal area.

I live in libtard central and nobody ever bothers me or expects me to have a relationship.

Monk

[BrainPilotParticipant 7645]

“It seems like whatever you do, you’re in the wrong”

If that’s the case, you can bet your ass I’m going to do exactly what’s best for ME.

When someone approaches me about in a civil way, I’ll discuss it with them in a civil way. In my civil explanation, I include that the number of single adults in the US is lower than the number of married adults in the US for the first time in history, and that the number of marriages per capita, is at a lower point than it has ever been since 1895, which is the first year that they started tracking that statistic. I’ll gently, or not so gently, point out to them that if they still think that marriage is a good idea, they are in the minority opinion, and that the majority of adults in this country disagree with their position.

If they are respectful and have a sincere interest in understanding the trend, I’ll maybe explain the risk benefit analogy.

But if it’s some harpy dumbass nag that I just want to throw off the trail, and they are challenging me about why I’m not married, I’ll say something like, “Well, you know, the right woman is not so easy to find…”. Although it may be misleading them into thinking I’m actually in agreement with them and trying to get married, technically, this is not a lie. (The right woman is extinct, so…). Not everyone can handle the truth, and not everyone deserves it. If I anticipate hostility about something that is none of their business, I will not be inclined to respect them enough to feel I owe them the truth about it.

Sometimes, depending on who’s doing the asking and how respectful they are, you can just say, “Well, I’m working on it…”, and then change the subject. They can take that answer to mean whatever they want. For many, that’s all it takes.

What a person asks a personal question, it’s because they feel entitled to know the answer. You don’t have to agree with that assumption.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 12]

BrainPilot wrote:

“It seems like whatever you do, you’re in the wrong”

If that’s the case, you can bet your ass I’m going to do exactly what’s best for ME.

That’s another point I have made a few times on here. Society wouldn’t be any happier with us if we were skirt chasing put pussy on a pedestal types. We would still be mocked.

I went and deleted that part of your comment but I am happy to have open and civil chats with people. Sadly what I have found is most people now days just want to attack anything they disagree with or don’t understand.

[WraithParticipant 242]

Treating men as suspect is how society tries to control us. They keep telling us that we’re good for nothing so we’ll row harder. We get a temporary thumbs up when they like what we do, but then it’s right back to “we’s watchin’ you.”

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

Turn their reaction right back around on them.

: “Why aren’t you married?”
: “What’s in it for me?”

Force them to justify their demands of you. Laugh at them when they can’t. Because they can’t.

[WraithParticipant 242]

sidecar wrote:

: “Why aren’t you married?”

I’ve come to see that as an intrusive question. I’d just say that I’m happy with my lifestyle.

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

Wraith wrote:

I’ve come to see that as an intrusive question.

Every intrusive question is an opportunity to f~~~ with them in your answer.

[OneTrueMisfitSpectator 2690]

like this

Don't care

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22654]

If men are disposable what do they care if a few mgtow men walk away?

See, they cannot have men thriving solo.

Other men will see it and want it.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

Its best just to Ghost and ignore the issue. But if pushed into a corner flip the issue on its head: Make THEM explain why you should get married, rather than defend your lifestyle. Refuse to accept the unproven assumption that marriage is best.

[VerusParticipant 965]

If I’m asked if I’m married the response is “no, made that mistake before.” Might lead to a discussion on the cost benefit analysis of marriage, but I don’t talk MGTOW with anyone. I don’t think arguing MGTOW is the best way to grow MGTOW. More effective, I think, is planting these seeds of doubt in the prevailing culture. The example set by a happy bachelor, the inevitable behavior of women, and the existence of a HUGE number of MGTOW videos on Youtube is all we need to draw men this way.

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