How Do You Deal With People At Work?

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

When I go to work, I try to stay motivated and look busy so my supervisor won’t have any complaints about me.

If I have a problem with my job or co-workers, I have to find a way to approach people without too much righteous indignation…lest I make them defensive.

I try to avoid gossip or any negative talk about my co-workers and my boss. I’ll only say something negative to someone as a joke—to someone who can take a joke, that is. If I don’t have something meaningful or funny to say, I’ll just keep my mouth shut.

Basically, I show up to work, do my job, show respect to my superiors, and get the hell out of there before I lose my mind. I smile, say hi to people, and pretend that I’m a happy guy. That’s how I get through the day.

If I’m dealing with a customer or a co-worker that wants to have a deep conversation about religion, politics, my society, dating, or whatever, I just try to weasel my way out of it by saying something like, “Well, that sounds interesting. I have my own opinion about it and I’d rather keep it to myself.” The last thing I need, during a stressful workday, is to get into some pointless debate about something I believe in that’s incompatible with the company’s mission statement, “The Matrix,” or the feminist hive.

I try not to talk about a woman’s physical appearance while at work. There are certain kinds of people who are overly-sensitive about that. Here’s an example:

http://abcnews.go.com/Blotter/herman-cains-accusers/story?id=14867409

‘Cain has said that all he could recall was making an innocuous gesture to this woman while she was in his office with the door open and his secretary just outside. “I referenced this lady’s height and I was standing near her, and I did this saying, you’re the same height of my wife, because my wife is five feet tall and she comes up to my chin,” Cain explained. “This lady’s five feet tall and she came up to my chin. So obviously she thought that that was too close for comfort. It showed up in the actual allegation.”‘

Also: I do not complain about my job on Facebook or any social media website with my real name and photo. Many people have been fired for that—which I think is unjust because they’re doing that on their own free time and it’s not anyone’s business. My co-workers don’t know about my social media activities, and I’m going to keep it that way. Having a casual conversation with a co-worker on a social media site is risky. Any “wrong” statement, joke, or opinion may offend someone, and I could lose my job.

Do you guys have any other suggestions for dealing with your co-workers and customers in a way that’s positive and gives you the least amount of drama?

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[GregB0Participant]

You have summed up my day and plans fairly well! I also look forward to other suggestions.

I am tracking my retirement in 5 years and the ability to never have to work again.

Your description of work is the reason I determined my optimal retirement point and initiated the plan.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

GregB0 wrote:

I am tracking my retirement in 5 years and the ability to never have to work again.

That’s my goal: to be in a situation where I don’t have to get a job. Sometimes I get sick of being around annoying people.

If I’m going to work, I want to do something as a personal project, like: fixing and selling houses.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2148]

I focus on my work and avoid interacting with them as much as possible.

It makes things a lot less stressful and makes the day go by faster.

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[survivorParticipant 610]

Only deal with people who can handle what you say. And do it out of earshot. A third party can overhear and be offended. So yeah, at work I often live a lie because there are some nasty SJW politically correct idiots who are true snowflakes of the highest degree. So I vent to a small group in person I know who see eye to eye.

"Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, You give love a bad name, I play my part and you play your game, You give love a bad name."--Bon Jovi

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

They only way to survive.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

It’s hard, when your biggest challenge isn’t to do a good job, is to avoid sensible s~~~ty people and their behavior !

I know brother, is the very same in my industry, I have some customers that I have to deal with, so my co-workers are my customer’s workers, and today the world is lost, entitled kids with obnoxious personalities.

I usually avoid being the guy who point out and said “you done a s~~~ty job”, but those kids like to play dumb and throw away any responsibility by their own actions. I remember a guy who asked me for help, ok, I said that if he talked with the manager to schedule it, I would be able to help him.

He just send the manager an email, and stoped his work. It was about midday, the manager just answered he in the other day asking if it was done, and he said that it wasn’t done BECAUSE OF ME. Then I had to answer why his work was late, like it was my fault.

After that, I learned my lesson.

– Don’t talk, EVER in the office, obviously don’t be that kind of sociopath but, don’t let people think that you like them, don’t allow them to think that they can just come and talk to you. When they get in this point, if you are not above them in the hierarchy, you can be the one who they will f~~~ when they need to f~~~ someone.

– As you said, don’t have any social contact outside work. I don’t hangout, I don’t tell them anything about my personal life, believe me, if people know your weakness, they will use it.

– I don’t have any social network anymore with my real identity, todays just the fact of “following trump on twitter”, can bring you so much problems, that is better just to avoid having anything with your name in it.

– The only communication channel between me and my customers (or coworkers) is the corporation email, hangout (for calls for example). No phone numbers (so no whatsapp, no telegram, etc…).

– Be aware of your computer if you use it in your house and work. Never let people know your personal files, favorites, etc… Be aware when you attach anything to emails for example, so you won’t send them any wrong file. On older days, happened sometimes with me, or coworkers to send some random porn along documents, but back in those days, it was just funny, we laugh, made jokes, send replies asking for more as a joke. In todays world, you will be fired in no time. The same goes for tables, cellphones, etc…

– Save money to retire and quit this s~~~. This is not work, is a mental jail.

– NEVER LET THEM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU EARN !! Doesn’t matter if you have 15 years of experience, tons of qualifications, an entitled mangina will THINK that he deserves at least your payment, even if he has only 2 years of experience, and doesn’t study outside work because the is too busy dealing with his lil cupcake. Once people start knowing how much do you earn, they will start hating you, doesn’t matter if your job is far better, you give more results or whatever, they will just hate you.

[RumpoleParticipant 997]

Remember what the Japanese colonel told the British prisoners-of-war in “The Bridge on the River Kwai”: BE HAPPY IN YOUR WORK!

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

Rumpole wrote:

Remember what the Japanese colonel told the British prisoners-of-war in “The Bridge on the River Kwai”: BE HAPPY IN YOUR WORK!

Ha ha! Sometimes going to my job feels like this:

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

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