How do you deal with "Not Wanting To Deal With Anything"?

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22524]

How do you deal with “Not Wanting To Deal With Anything”?

First, I am not married, nor do I have any children. This is about dealing with living in a personal hell one is born into.

After decades of dealing with childish bulls~~~ and stupidity, while being unable to gain anything in life, I have reach the point I do not want to deal with anything.

No matter how foolish, childish, stupid, or outright idiotic the other individuals involved are, if I find myself in any situation, even simply standing still, everyone else views these situations as being my fault. I guess existing is a crime.

I have tried for decades to climb myself out of a hell I was born in. I mean I am literally blamed for everything by everyone. I have had people to my face blame for me all the evil the evils in the world. Their words, nor mine.

No matter what I do, it does not matter. I am not allowed to win. I am only allowed to lose. With no choice being the right choice. I am not even allow win for losing. As in to get out of a situation without suffering. And everyone around me wants to drop their two cents of hypocritical condescending preaching towards me.

And I do not create the situations. Half the time the situation is created around me.

I have literally reached my last nerve. If I dropped dead right now, I would not be that upset about dying. That is how f~~~ing tired I am of all this s~~~.

I have spend the afternoon trying to get away from it all, in a day traveling. But, that did not work. Hobbies do not work. I am still only my last nerve. I have isolated myself right now, because I do not honestly know how I will react to someone being rude to me, in any way. I literally do not know what I would do. I feel I could do anything. Because, I literally cannot deal with anything right now. My tolerance for stress is nil. I am burned out.

So, I ask. How do you deal with “Not Wanting To Deal With Anything”?

I know I cannot function like this. But, I do not know any solution to my problem.

So, please. I could use some help.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Are you still living with the people doing this? If so can you leave?

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Faust For Science wrote:

I have isolated myself right now, because I do not honestly know how I will react to someone being rude to me, in any way. I literally do not know what I would do. I feel I could do anything. Because, I literally cannot deal with anything right now. My tolerance for stress is nil. I am burned out.

I’ve been there, my friend. Believe it or not, volunteering my time for a group of young men who were far worse off than I was, was the cure.
Isolation will only make things worse in the long term. Sure, you may have to ghost and recharge the batteries, but this needs to be a short term solution only.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

Faust For Science wrote:

How do you deal with “Not Wanting To Deal With Anything”?

I’m not the kind of person to give anyone advice because I’m not good at that, but your story hit home for me because I also have been dealing with lots of stuff right now .. maybe not as much as you have to deal with; but for me it’s a plateful. I’ve got lots going on and I’ve been wondering how to handle it all ..so I decided just to get up each morning and do what I can and let the rest ride. I’m not saying I’m going to ignore things I need to do but I can only handle one thing at a time and that’s how I’m proceeding. One example, my Dad is getting older and just days ago he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Mixed Dementia. They told him he needs to start a new drug immediately and stop driving. The new drug happens to cost about $650.00 per month for the rest of his life. So, what did I find when I started looking over his affairs? .. insurance will cover only part of the totally unexpected “tier 4” neurology drugs. I also have my own life to live and my normal workload every day. I’m being honest when I say I’m only getting about four hours of sleep every night right now. So, I’ve decided to take each day as it comes .. prioritize, get through my workday and then maybe a few things each day that are the most important to help my Dad as he adjusts to a modified life. I’ll deal with the rest whenever I can.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

Faust For Science wrote:

So, I ask. How do you deal with “Not Wanting To Deal With Anything”?

here are some suggestions:
explore new music. i find music soothes stress.
enjoy the outdoors and nature

Faust For Science wrote:

I mean I am literally blamed for everything by everyone.

who is blaming you? are you able to stay away from these people? my parents used to blame me for everything. i kind of know how you feel.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[WallyParticipant]

What is truly holding you back from walking away? Do the people in this situation care for you at all?

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[RennieParticipant]

I think I know something of what you are in.

Just gotta shake it off and keep going, even when it’s not easy.

And yes, being the scapegoat of a situation that you were mostly not responsible for, sucks.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Are these people coworkers or family?

Draw a picture of yourself five years from now, and put it on the wall. It will build a new self image, and you will begin to move in that direction. Keep the picture on the wall, and you’ll eventually get there, regardless of what you draw.

[$$$Crenshaw1118Participant 516]

I think I can kinda relate to where you’re coming from Faust. I myself feel that everyone in society hates me. And if I dropped dead today I wouldn’t really give a rats ass. But, I think that our way of thinking is more of a psychological thing. I’ve been dealing with this s~~~ for years now. And it has really gotten worse once the ex left and slandered my name all around My town. And I live in a small town, so I doesn’t take long for rumors to get from one side of town to the other side. The only advice I can give you is to try not to let your brain think that way. You may think people are blaming you for all the things going wrong. But I’m sure you’re only letting that devil sitting on your shoulder tell you they are blaming you. There are people around you that probably are dogging on you there’s no doubt in my mind. Just block all that s~~~ out. I completely understand that’s easier said then than done. I struggle on a daily basis of thinking that everyone is against me. And there’s no doubt that if it wasn’t for my 8 y/o niece that thinks the world of me, I’m sure I would have done did myself in by now. The thing I that I do that really makes me smile,I’d buy yourself a drone they are a blast to fly. Once you learn how to fly them. They really make you feel like a little kid again. Start out with a little indoor one first, til you learn the basics of them. I paid $20 for my little indoor one. You can buy them online. Then when you learn to fly the little ones get an outdoor one for $100. They are great stress relievers. That is until you lose control of it and crash it 50 ft into the top of a tree. Hell even when you do that it’s still fun as f~~~ letting all the neighbors sit back and wonder why the f~~~ you are over there casting a fishing pole up into a tree lmfao. I’ve done that a time or two. But that’s the only way to get them out of the trees when you fly them into em.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22524]

Thank you for your advise, guys.

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