Hey fellas, a little help? I'm trying to get rid of someone

[ScarberianMPTGLParticipant 3286]

OK, so, I’m gonna try to not write a ton, but if I do it’s just because I want to leave as much info as I can.

Right now I have this one “friend” who I find myself unable to stand more than a few minutes around. He’s annoying, hypocritical, and sometimes seems like a dick, plus he’s super unreliable, almost always late, and never pays any of us back, choosing instead to buy a new car every few months. Like, sure, buy a car whenever the hell you want, but maybe think about paying back your friends first. On numerous occasions I don’t want to/can’t go out anywhere (no money, tired, etc.) but he’ll pester me to go out until I acquiesce. (Yeah, I know, kinda my fault on that one, but if you knew him you’d know that’s the easiest way to get him off your ass) Then when I might want him to come out, sometimes he will, but usually won’t. Then when he does, he usually bitches about being tired or not feeling well and heads home. I s~~~ you not, one time he invited me and another friend of his over (I have to come from the east end and he lives close to downtown) and we basically had to leave about an hour later because he was “tired”. And another thing, he, myself and a couple other friends we have all have a channel on YouTube, and sometimes he’ll get on my ass about not putting out a video, but yet, he’s literally done the least amount of work making videos for the channel. I could go on for ages but let me get to the main issue: I want to cut all ties with him and get him out of my life, and I REALLY want to tell him what I think about him. Problem is, his best friend is a really good guy, and I don’t want to throw my friendship away with him, or make things super awkward. You’re probably thinking “just don’t hang out with the dude who’s giving you problems” but it’s not that simple. Those two might as well be joined at the hip, you usually can’t hang out with one without the other being present at some point. I also want to quit the channel, but I have obligations and I wouldn’t feel right up-and-leaving before fulfilling them. I can’t exactly ghost, either, much as I want to. So, is there any way out of this you guys can see that I can’t?

Sorry, I just really needed to vent and give you guys an idea of what I’m dealing with and why I feel the need to get rid of him. Again, I know I could just try avoiding him as much as possible but it’s just not that simple.

I, Lelouch Vi Britannia, command you, all of you, to Go Your Own Way!!

[Anonymous 42]

ScarberianMPTGL wrote:

Right now I have this one “friend” who I find myself unable to stand more than a few minutes around. He’s annoying, hypocritical, and sometimes seems like a dick, plus he’s super unreliable,

Learn “NO”, study NO, and BECOME NO!

ScarberianMPTGL wrote:

but he’ll pester me to go out until I acquiesce

Your friend sounds like he has narcissistic personality disorder with a touch of alpha and lightyears from Omaga.

I hate to break it to you but HE’S NOT A FRIEND!

Does he take center stage whenever he’s around? I thought so.

Honor VOID

Trust VOID

Integrity VOID

His word is S~~~, his demeanor is S~~~, his trustworthiness is s~~~!

You have two choices,,,

1. Keep smelling, touching, and tasting S~~~.

2. Flush your god given character toilet, then live clean and pure without the smell, sight, and taste of S~~~ in your life.

Friends are not supposed to be S~~~ in your life.

Is he really the kind of friend you want? It’s all your CHOICE.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Advise he has a sex change op and then you’ll tolerate her better.

There’s nothing worse than a woman trapped in a mans body.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

Why don’t you tell him to f~~~ off and not contact you again, straight-up?

are you a chia pet in man drag

[KillmandrillParticipant 497]

Have you ever told this friend all of this? That he´s unreliable, he´s inviting and shortly later uninvites you, you can´t rely upon him that he´s being a nuisance for his behaviour and so on?
I did this to a friend, told him all of the issues he had with me,you know what he changed!
He always did arrangements and did not show up and I actually reserved this time. I said to him if you want to continue being friends with me then change this, back then (5 yrs ago) I already knew him for 20 years and I did not want to lose him as a friend.
But it seems you are in a quandary here, since you don´t want to be around him and still want to be friends to his friend?! Still I´d go for telling him, all that can happen is that you lose him and if his other friend does not want to be your friend anymore he is not worth it anyway.

Ah, women. They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent. Friedrich Nietzsche

[Anonymous 11]

I have piece of s~~~ just like this in my life.

He only shows up whenever he wants something. I had someone knocking at my door at 0215 the morning before Hermine passed through. Who the f~~~ does this so disrespectful? I suspect it was him and his wench. They live under an overpass and didn’t want to get wet. I don’t want bed bugs in my house.

Cut him off like a wart. Just start slowly distancing yourself and learn to say “No” to everything. Bad friends are serious drag.

[BoarParticipant]

There is an easy way to get rid of him.

Where are all the good men?
Here is his phone number!

Problem solved, justice served, entertainment for years.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

One suggestion: next time you are with the prick, and his friend who you want to remain friends with, wait until the prick does some annoying s~~~ and say something like, “Dude, that s~~~ is rude and annoying… “WE” are your friends and don’t deserve that s~~~… can you think about not doing it to “US” anymore…”. Be as ‘friendly’ as you can about it. Not necessarily any need to yell or get in his face. But look him in the eye when you say it.

When you say it, look at the friend you want to keep, as though the two of you have already agreed on this. If the friend you want to keep does not disagree, it will appear that you have both agreed on this in advance. If the prick doesn’t care about either one of you, nothing will change and you and the friend you want to keep will have a decision to make. But if he doesn’t change at all, doing this will hopefully make the other guy realize he has a decision to make as well.

I don’t either of these guys well enough to guess if it’s worth actually talking to the friend you want to keep in advance about this and asking him if the prick’s behavior is as annoying to him as it is to you. If you do ask him and he says yes, both of you go the rest of the people in your circle and do a survey. Possible that all of you think he’s a prick and would like to dump him, but no one wants to be the first to mention it…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[RoyDalParticipant]

You are dealing with a sociopath: Dump him. There is no way to be nice, kind, or polite about it. He is depending on these traits to prey upon you. Dump him hard and cold.

Anonymous wrote:

Learn “NO”, study NO, and BECOME NO!

Amen, brother! Amen!

Edit: When Jesus was spending his forty days in the wilderness, Satan came to him and tried to tempt him. Jesus said, in modern English, “Go away!” You go and do likewise. Nothing good will come of letting that guy in your life anymore.

Edit 2: Don’t worry about how he’ll get along.
1. He does not have feelings in the way non-sociopaths do. So you aren’t hurting him in that sense.
2. He will find plenty of other suckers to rip off — the world is full of them. So you aren’t hurting him in the financial sense either.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[experiencedParticipant]

The cause of stress might be the challenge of making new friends.
If you try the “be a friend” to others, they respond quite favorably.
Helping another man out, at work, at workouts, at anywhere, leads to more friends and less stress when you’re telling a piece of work that he’s being a piece of work.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

You must be bold with this “friend”. Pic related.

[joetechParticipant]

Tell him off in front of everyone so everybody knows. Chances are, you’re not the only one who can’t stand this idiot.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Do not care one iota what anybody thinks. Would you allow cancer to grow in your body?

This guys a cancer, cut him out by the roots.

Your friends already know what kind of asshole he is so no need to worry.

Excise the asshole.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

You’re in luck. Man’s best friend shall teach you how to handle any and all future interactions with this person and any others like him. Ein? Take it away.

There you have it. Say no and leave.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[ScarberianMPTGLParticipant 3286]

Thanks for the advice, guys. I now know what I need to do.

I, Lelouch Vi Britannia, command you, all of you, to Go Your Own Way!!

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

I have a guy who was once my #1 wingman for years in my teens and early 20’s. After two decades of occasional crack use, and frequent binge drinking, it is clear he has become “wet brained”. Now he is an stupid unreliable oaf. He doesn’t listen to anyone when they give him advice, and will literally argue over any subject. He has become such a clueless asshole, he doesn’t even understand things like being quiet at archery competitions and babbles while other people are taking their shot (similar to golf). I recently had to cut him loose, and blocked his cell #. I have a a hunting grade pellet gun that I need to sell, it was in the original box and sitting in my bedroom while we texted. The conversation went like this.

Him: I might buy the gun, it is pump or cartridge?
Me: It is a nitro piston break barrel one shot.
Him: Uh, I don’t want a cartridge gun.
Me: It’s not a cartridge gun. It has a permanently filled nitro gas piston. Go look it up on the Crosman website.
Him: It’s not nitro then.
Me: Then you were too f~~~ing lazy to look it up. Because it is.

BLOCKED

When I go to the archery shoots, I usually am a nice guy, I offer to drive him and an older guy who is my Obi Wan Kanobi. My stupid former wingman often f~~~s us over, we will stop by his house to pick him up, half the time he blows us off and the other half of the time he isn’t awake yet and we have to wait for him. In either case we always sit there for 15 minutes, whether the fatass is making himself a sandwich or waking up from a binge just to tell us he isn’t going. F~~~ him, when next season starts in January, I am no longer telling him we are going. If my other buddy happens to tell him, I am not picking him up unless he is already at Obi Wan’s house and ready to go. Obi Wan is always sitting on his porch eagerly awaiting me, that is how a real real friend acts. Sometimes we have to forget the person a friend once was, because at some point you have to realize that person you once knew has ceased to exist.

Sovereignty above all else.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

You want people in your life who add value.

If family, friends, acquaintances don’t add value then you need to limit exposure to them.

Why would you want someone in your life who was difficult to be around and caused stress/aggravation?

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

Deadly Raver wrote:

You’re in luck. Man’s best friend shall teach you how to handle any and all future interactions with this person and any others like him. Ein? Take it away.

There you have it. Say no and leave.

For some reason I am way too focused on this animation and the fact the dogs legs don’t move yet he hops… why is that so damn interesting to me? I think I may be losing my mind.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Anonymous 5]

Jackinov wrote:

Why don’t you tell him to f~~~ off and not contact you again, straight-up?

Bang on,

(Below to the respected Mgtow member)

I have had friends in the past that sound similar to the one you are talking about. In a sense it mite be hard to cancel him out due to this super pin head being close to a dear friend of yours. That said you need to put him in his place if he’s causing you grief life is to short to deal with self absorbed pricks that are lost in La-la land. I am sure you will make the right choice.

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