I’m doing what I can to recover from a life of utter shame and idiocy on my part. I’ve always been overly trusting of people. I use to buy my friends…buying them lunch all the damn time, helping them pay bills, you name it…I was eager to throw my hard earned money at people. Of course, when I was down on my luck, not a single soul would offer help.

I’m a f~~~ing wreck right now. Just went through a seriously horrible breakup myself. Not an excuse, but when I have brief moments of clarity and look at that relationship objectively, I can’t believe how dumb I was. She was clinically crazy, needy, completely dependent on her parents, lazy, etc…but she was the tightest, most beautiful woman I had ever been with. The sex was incredible, the chemistry was off the charts, we had a ton of common interests…you know, on paper a lot of s~~~ was perfect. Like I said, though…total basket case.

It’s led me to re-examine myself and look at how f~~~ed up I am and how I’ve treated everyone else like children for my entire life.

No more. Now I’m all about my own freedom. Physical freedom, financial freedom, emotional freedom, and eventually I hope to have time freedom.

I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to go full MGTOW, because I’m a sucker for a great ass and old habits die hard, but at the very least I’ll not get myself entangled into romantic relations~~~s anymore.

If anybody has any advise for a new guy, struggling to find his own damn sanity…I’m all eyes.

The pain will pass, it always does.

Keep yourself busy as best you can.  Completely divorce yourself from her.  I would even recommend eliminating social media.

If you have a good job you like, put more hours in and work harder.  Each day that passes you get a little stronger and wiser.   Best wishes.

Don’t be ashamed of being a white knight.  I was one in my foolish days too before my heart and pride were ripped apart.

Now I’m all about my own freedom. Physical freedom, financial freedom, emotional freedom, and eventually I hope to have time freedom.

Good going! Keep on keeping on!

Crim wrote:

I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to go full MGTOW, because I’m a sucker for a great ass and old habits die hard, but at the very least I’ll not get myself entangled into romantic relations~~~s anymore.

I just checked my copy of Hoyle’s Official Rules of MGOTW. It makes it clear it is acceptable for a MGHOW to get laid. You’re good to go.

Unfortunately it just doesn’t work like that… they weren’t teaching us to be good members of the community, loving partners and family men, they were teaching us to be proxies and draft horses. We just didn’t know any better. And instead of blaming the institutions that handed us this bogus script or the “weak and underprivileged” who benefited from our selfless and stupid behavior, we denigrated the strong and successful who got what they wanted… what WE wanted… by breaking those rules and just plucking and eating the fruit for themselves that we worshipped from afar and hoped would simply fall into our laps.

So now you know… the people who get what they want are the people who take what they want… and I’ll add that this is not always a bad thing. Females want to be taken just as surely as fruit grows to be eaten. Now you just have to reconcile the idea that you can be powerful, aggressive and successful without harming anyone or taking something that does not want to be taken. That’s the hardest part of recovering from white knightery… realizing and accepting that all the dragons you’ve been trying to slay were actually sent by the maiden to keep the weak willed and self sacrificing from ever making it to the castle while the strong and powerful men were simply handed the keys to the back gate, if you catch my drift.

I just checked my copy of Hoyle’s Official Rules of MGOTW. It makes it clear it is acceptable for a MGHOW to get laid. You’re good to go.

Wonderful ☺

This is the first day of an awesome fking life.

I can’t beging to tell you what amazing adventures await.

All you now have to do is go discover them.

You can pine after, feel sick and empty for another 3 days … then…

Get the fk out there and play.

You are a new man …. you make the rules.

Buy a copy of Hoyle’s Official Rules of MGOTW off RD. I know he has some spare ?

Of course, when I was down on my luck, not a single soul would offer help.

We walk through life with the same knife stuck in our backs, Mine’s only a scar now. Like you I had a smoking fireball hottie that tore my insides out with her insanity. A f~~~ing 100% nut job! So I know…

Your head and heart were on the right place, wrong world! I was a giving person too, help anyone, anytime, anywhere, NO MORE! People will use you the same way they wipe their feet on a doormat. Your life is worth nothing to them, they’d sell your sole for a dollar if they could.

Try giving to only people that reciprocate such RARE KINDNESS. F~~~ those that don’t! Let them beg like dogs from their own miserable making! I have no more sympathy whatsoever for those who’s only purpose in life is to exist as parasites on the kindness of others. F~~~ them, let them starve, and eventually die.

Once you wrap your head and heart around a narcissists mindset and intentions, you’ll have no problem whatsoever kicking them into their own fire.

I hate to sound so cruel but I learned it from trusting that others had concern for others, they DON’T, they’re sole-less sharks that endlessly search out food and tear off all they can before it disappears. Call me Shark Slayer!

Welcome to MGTOW; a band of brothers like no other!!!

Congrats on realizing the error of your ways.  Let me take a moment to tell you my story.

I too was a white knight, for like 5 years.  Maybe not online, but in person for sure.  I’d bow down to females and be a really nice guy for them, do them little favours and all that.  With friends, I’d loan them money and they would never pay me back, or they would do work for me and charge me, even though I would help them on my time for free.  I once even bought a friend a $500 car when he was down on his luck (he trashed the car and decided it wasn’t worth paying me back since the car was wrecked).

Know what all this goodwill and benevolence got me?  Sweet F~~~ All.  You don’t get respect from people by being a doormat.  I didn’t get laid for 5 years!!!  I wondered why women didn’t like me, I was nice, tried to be nice to them, tried to date or do nice things.  I realized they don’t and won’t ever respect me until I respected myself.  I stopped giving a rat’s ass what they thought.  I expressed my opinions without censorship.  I stopped loaning money (I’m not your f~~~ing bank, go get a payday loan like I had to when I was down on my luck). All of a sudden I’m getting laid and women are interested. I didn’t change, my job didn’t change, my looks didn’t change. My attitude and confidence did. My dollar and my time is worth something. If I’m hanging out with you on my free time, you better be worth it.

It’s not nice guys that finish last, it’s White Knight who finish last.  You can still be a nice guy without being a pushover and a pussy. Especially with women. She just friendzoned you? Good she can f~~~ off, as she now has no value, unless you like that sort of thing (being a boyfriend with none of the sex benefits).

You’re not alone. Just knowing that is a great booster!