Hello, Brothers in Arms

[bachelor4goodParticipant 170]

I just wanted to give you a short insight on what drove me to become MGTOW.

As I was raised by a single mother, the implications on this matter were served to me first hand. I was lucky and still feel grateful that, instead of my father, my grandpa was looking after me; he still does and we consider us as friends ( he´s 91 yo).

Over the years I had my share of relationships, LTR, STR, ONS you name it. I´m a social person, as long as I get enough time on my own. In ´08 I had a girl for about 6 months. It started out all bright and shiny, but out of the sudden things turned bats~~~ crazy and she dumped me in a blink of an eye, blocked all further communication and left me standing there without any explanation. It really shocked me, because I figured things going pretty fine. I was confused and felt like s~~~, thinking about what I could´ve done wrong.

Well, to make a long story short, that moment of grief got me into thinking. I stopped hunting for girls and instead began reading and making my mind up.
As I was the typical nice guy, a white knight in fact, I realized I needed to become a man.

Since then I´ve improved my life on many different levels. My business is doing pretty fine, I lift regularly, red a s~~~load of books, got into shooting and got my life in order. Sure, there´s a lot more to tell, but for the moment I leave it like this and hail a salute to all you fellow MGTOW brothers in arms.

IDGAF

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Thanks for making an intro. Welcome to MGTOW and the forums. Noticed you’re from Germany – with such perfect English. You’re MGHOW of the Day on our homepage today.

bachelor4good wrote:

I was confused and felt like s~~~, thinking about what I could´ve done wrong.

We (men) have a tendency to blame ourselves for s~~~ we never did wrong. You can leave that at the door, here. It wasn’t your fault. The first person a guy blames – when it doesn’t work out – is himself. The last person she will blame – is herself.

Eventually a man will think; “well if Im going to be treated like an asshole no matter WHAT i do…. I may as well just go ahead and BE an asshole”.

As tempting as it is, I refuse to do it, because it would satisfy her too much.

Herzlich willkommen bei MGTOW.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[bachelor4goodParticipant 170]

Thanks Keymaster for your compliment on my language skills. Well, that´s one of the improvements I made while becoming MGHOW. In fact there isn´t much useful knowledge to find in german. Speaking and understanding english opened up a whole new world of information for me. I always encourage anyone in my circles to do so.

On the matter of blaming oneself I think it´s what helps a man to become a better version of himself, if used in the right way without making any accusations. Just plain admission that you did something the wrong way, if you really did, and than change for good.

Being an asshole wouldn´t work for me neither, being bright serene is my way to go. Makes life just so much more enjoyable.

IDGAF

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome. What your ex girlfriend did to you in 08 is typical and most of us have probably experienced that sort of behavior from women. Biologically, they are all wired the same – which is to seek a mate that will protect them and give them children. And if they say they don’t want that – I say bulls~~~. They are all the same inside. One of the many aspects I am finding of MGTOW is the removal of women as a factor in your life. Sure, 51% of the population is comprised of females – but that does not require having anything more than existential interactions with them. As men, we need to become immune, – sort of a self administered vaccination. Once we do this, they loose their power over us. Nothing annoys a woman, especially a feminist, more than making her irrelevant to a man. This does not mean necessarily removing sex either. Men have biological needs to. But be straight up with any woman if you choose to get intimate. No strings attached. You will find your pool of choices diminished significantly, but what you do find, will not harm as much.

[bachelor4goodParticipant 170]

I second your statement, EYESWIDEOPEN. It´s all about what kind of attitude you show to the world. If your character is well balanced and anchored deep inside you it radiates. Women can sense that and, similar to thugs, they go for someone else to prey from.

From time to time I take a women into my life and as long as she behaves appropriate she´ll have a good time with me. I point out the conditions right from the start. When the time comes, and it will come with certainty, and she´s trying something I don´t approve of I go by the rule of 3. First and last warning and on third strike I dump her without batting an eye. That works fine for me. Life is good when you´re an MGHOW!

IDGAF

[Anonymous 42]

Hey bachelor 4 good, welcome to the community of men that see things for what they are, and not what society alludes things to be. Welcome to the clear and clean waters of MGTOW… Your English is smooth and easy to read and understand, I salute you for your efforts!

[Anonymous 29]

bachelor4good wrote:

I was confused and felt like s~~~, thinking about what I could´ve done wrong.

Social dynamics, to a greater extent have always been dominated by women, therefore it is easy to fall into a self blame trap from which one may have a hard time getting out. Soul searching and rational thinking about it can help a great deal. Little by little you start to see things as they truly are and then one day BINGO ! . . . the penny drop’s and you are out of the trap.

Glad you made it out. Welcome.

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