Cancer, broken back, wife fking another guy etc.

I chose the easy way out …. and even failed at that ?

Then a strange thing happened. My mind went in ‘limp home mode’ just like some cars have. It literally shut out all non essential functions.

I became numb to anything I had no control over. What was the point in even thinking about those things if they were out of my hands.

What I could control … I steered to my best advantage.

Eventually the uncontrolled s~~~ started sorting itself out and the light started shining again.

Just like a sail boat in a storm. Pull down the sail, close all hatches and ride it out.

I’ve found it’s the only sensible way.

oh yeah, put that cigarette down, it will only create problems down the road (smoked/dipped 10 years…quit last dec)

If you don’t have your health, nothing really matters, so guard it with your life

Sebastian

There was a time in my life when it seemed everything and everyone was out to crush me. Cancer, broken back, wife fking another guy etc. I chose the easy way out …. and even failed at that Then a strange thing happened. My mind went in ‘limp home mode’ just like some cars have. It literally shut out all non essential functions. I became numb to anything I had no control over. What was the point in even thinking about those things if they were out of my hands. What I could control … I steered to my best advantage. Eventually the uncontrolled s~~~ started sorting itself out and the light started shining again. Just like a sail boat in a storm. Pull down the sail, close all hatches and ride it out. I’ve found it’s the only sensible way.

brother that is rough….you are truly a survivor. Glad you were able to weather the storm

Sebastian

* Realize life has this ups and downs.  Either you get hit all at once with a bunch, or they come in regular intervals.  They will happen.

* Go watch some comedy and get some laughs.

* Take a nap.  With that, do what you need to, to keep your life on track.

* Have something else to get your mind off the problems, even for a little while.

* Try to find some good things to think about, and focus on.

Pretty much, you want to snap the spiral of negativity, which can compound.

How do you deal, rather “get out”, of this sort of emotional well one falls into?

Well the thing i got better without even realizing it.Give it some time ,sleep a lot ,try to meet with friends as much as you can, and maybe one morning you’ll have a “wait a second” moment and you’ll be better.

Just expect to be like this for a while, it’s not going to go away in one go.

My take is this. All things pass. All emotions dissolve into other emotions. All material world situations change into other situations. “This too shall pass.”

The only thing you have control over is your internal state of mind. The external world is out of your control; the best you can do is influence some parts of it, but control is out of the question. Work with what you can control. Leave the rest to whatever forces are in charge of it.

yeah, so, need to ask a question to you brothers. All of you have seen your fair share of trials and obstacles, and in a previous post I asked if it gets better. Well, for a while now, things haven’t been easy. Not diving into much detail, but 3 very close relatives, have been fighting cancer for years, all got through, now it metastasized, and they all have been diagnosed terminal, few years each. Then, some stupid f~~~ing problems at the UNI got my parents on my ass (they probably lashed out due to the same feelings caused by the news), checks I delivered to pay my tuition, “have gotten mixed up” and have not yet been found, and I cannot attend classes till they are. Been lost for almost a month. Today I sat down and smoked, wanting to clear my head. Realized, a voice saying “This is as good as it’s ever going to get motherf~~~er”. Finally got out of a valley, to find the mountain range got higher. F~~~, as I’m writing this I’m craving another cigarette. So, back to the question. How do you deal, rather “get out”, of this sort of emotional well one falls into?

When I realised how much I’d been f~~~ed and that 80% of the s~~~ that fell on my head wasn’t because I was wrong but because I’d been playing a tricked pocker game with liars and c~~~s, my emotional state got worst, at first. I could not believe how much of a sucker and an idiot I’d been taken for. Then I informed myself and as I dug deeper and deeper into the plot, finding just how devilish our adversaries are, my emotional state go so well that I’m now healthier than I was 15years ago.

If you want to feel good emotionally, stop taking crap from people and be ready, at all times, for a fight. When you respect yourself others will too.

“Broadcast me a joyful noise into the times, Lord. Count your blessings, we’re sick of being jerked around, we all fall down” – R.E.M