Gray divorces -valid grievances or she selling off a matured asset?

[Anonymous 0]

This article finds several stated causes of long-marriage divorces but draws no conclusions, despite the misleading Drudge link title of “Porn addiction causing Boomers’ record divorce rate?”. They expected “lack of fulfillment” type vague reasons, but they got several specific reasons:
Infidelity
Mental health issues
Money management [men complained more of this]
Parenting [men complained more of this]
Addictions [women complained more of this]
Emotional/verbal abuse [women complained more of this]

Notice they ignore her financial incentives to divorce. Notice they assume equal responsibility to avoid these stated maladies, and equal distribution of these maladies. Just speculating, but had they scientifically separated the factors and investigated the facts behind each claim, here’s what I would expect they’d find in most cases:

1. women expected more money and dumped him for that reason more than any other
2. women spent money he earned without agreement, and confrontations over money is where her claims of “verbal abuse” and “mental health issues” and “addictions” surfaced
3. confrontation over “parenting” where she defends the kids against his harsh demands for accountability are re-cast as “verbal abuse” and she uses that as a pretext for split
4. she plans to take the windfall divorce winnings and re-invest in world travel and/or overhauling her faded beauty to win a bigger sugar daddy

In other words, this aint “growing apart”, or “seeking fulfillment”, it’s upgrading the lifestyle. Women are increasingly seeing men like bond investments to be bought on installments and either held until maturity then cashed in, or sold at a premium before the yield rate goes too high. When a man’s earning potential is seemingly maxed out, then often his assets are worth more to her split now than waiting either for gains which may never come or they both have to draw off the savings. DIVORCE RAPE INCENTIVE: SHE GETS HALF THE MONEY NOW INSTEAD OF DRIBBLED OUT OVER 20 YEARS OF RETIREMENT…plus an opportunity to take the windfall and party with young chads or sweet talk a richer sugar daddy.
Incentives matter, romantics.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

She’s cashing out before she becomes responsible for his health care costs. While expecting her own health care costs to be covered for her. By him. Because muh alimony.

Divorce is always a case of her cashing out the money he invested into the marriage.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22503]

sidecar wrote:

She’s cashing out before she becomes responsible for his health care costs. While expecting her own health care costs to be covered for her. By him. Because muh alimony.

Divorce is always a case of her cashing out the money he invested into the marriage.

Men, remember, women get married to be taken care of by you, they dont get married to be the provider and take care of you when you need it.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

sidecar wrote:

She’s cashing out before she becomes responsible for his health care costs. While expecting her own health care costs to be covered for her. By him. Because muh alimony.

Divorce is always a case of her cashing out the money he invested into the marriage.

Not only that she will become responsible for his health care costs, but she will also become responsible for his CARE. Guys get sick and die first on average. That means that she would most likely be spending some of her golden years taking care of the plow mule now. You know, the worthless one that doesn’t pull the plow anymore? Doesn’t sound like much fun.

Plus, now that he is retired, he’s home EVERY DAY! IN HER house! I know, I know, he paid for it, but she’s been “taking care” of it every day. And now he’s home every day, in her way. She already has a routine of getting up late, having a cup of coffee while looking up old boyfriends on Facebook, then hitting the gym for a yoga class, coming home to shower, having a late lunch with one of her friends and talking about old boyfriends on Facebook, followed by stopping at the store to get a bottle of wine for the evening. The last thing she needs is the old plow mule looking for a goddamn sandwich! She’s been retired for the last 30 years, she’s got it down pat! You’re just in the way.

But yeah Coach, using logic to explain something to a woman is verbal abuse. And it isn’t “growing apart”, she’s already “grown apart” it just isn’t magnified until he’s home every day. He’s looking for a chance to reconnect and spend time with the love of his life and she wants him the f~~~ away. That’s got to be a pretty hard pill to swallow, knowing you slaved for 40 years to provide a great life for an ungrateful bitch. I suppose a little verbal abuse might come out of that rage.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 1]

Women are the ultimate of nature’s parasites – never has something been designed so perfectly.

You f~~~ it and then it latches on and sucks you dry.

At least the black widow has the decency to kill her partner outright.

A Chad buddy of mine used to go out with black T-shirt that said “swallow my pride”

The amount of married women that obliged him…

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Men’s most productive years stop at age 55. Do you think it’s a coincidence that grey divorces start picking up speed at age 55?

She wants a slave to help her raise her kids. With the kids in college there is nothing keeping her in the relationship.

She stopped loving you the minute the first child was born.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Meh
Just another bit of drama and financial loss I wont have to endure.
My last divorce was at age 32, my last “relationship” was age 42. I actively avoid the s~~~ show. What is mine is mine, I dont “share” or play well with others by my choice.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

She will say “I love you”,….until that day she finds and takes your bank statement to her lawyer and figures out how much she can get. Even old married guys need separate secure secret money stash only he has access.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[BeerParticipant 11832]

My mom spent most of her 50s threatening my dad with divorce. She had the attitude of “I’ll take half your money.” That’s exactly what it was to her…cashing out. When he was finally like f~~~ it, let’s do it c~~~, she changed her mind. I think she knew deep down inside she didn’t want to be alone, she wasn’t going to do any better at her age, and she was too young to be on medicare and would get bent over in health insurance costs or have to go back to work if she wasn’t on my dad’s insurance anymore.

One of my aunts tried the same with my uncle in their early 60s. The divorce lawyer she went to talk to told her “You are in debt, there is nothing to split.” She also worked most her life as well, so if she thought she was going to push for alimony I doubt she’d have gotten anything worthwhile as my uncle probably would have just stopped working and said ok c~~~, we’ll split the difference between our SS checks. I know family courts hate men, but I really don’t see how hard she could hope for them to crack the whip on a dude who’s old enough to collect social security already who has nothing in the bank because they lived beyond their means their entire life. It was the same thing here though…she thought walking out of the marriage would put her in a spot where she had more money at her disposal than she’d have otherwise and backed down when she realized things post divorce wouldn’t leave her off better financially at his expense.

Our system’s a complete f~~~ing joke. Don’t ever f~~~ing get married. Some stupid c~~~ can literally destroy decades of working and planning on a whim. Marriage is literally like climbing up on a stool and placing a noose around your neck, then begging her for the rest of your life not to kick the stool out. Nobody would do that…but…idiots still get married…it just blows my mind how dumb some people can be. Maybe she wouldn’t kick the still out today, or next week, or next year…but here we are talking about gray divorces…can you be so sure she won’t change over the next 30 years, and would you be willing to work til you drop dead if you are wrong?

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

It’s comical how porn is always blamed for every f~~~-up of women

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Russky wrote:

It’s comical how porn is always blamed for every f~~~-up of women

It’s comical how women can’t compete with porn.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22503]

Beer wrote:

My mom spent most of her 50s threatening my dad with divorce. She had the attitude of “I’ll take half your money.” That’s exactly what it was to her…cashing out. When he was finally like f~~~ it, let’s do it c~~~, she changed her mind. I think she knew deep down inside she didn’t want to be alone, she wasn’t going to do any better at her age, and she was too young to be on medicare and would get bent over in health insurance costs or have to go back to work if she wasn’t on my dad’s insurance anymore.

One of my aunts tried the same with my uncle in their early 60s. The divorce lawyer she went to talk to told her “You are in debt, there is nothing to split.” She also worked most her life as well, so if she thought she was going to push for alimony I doubt she’d have gotten anything worthwhile as my uncle probably would have just stopped working and said ok c~~~, we’ll split the difference between our SS checks. I know family courts hate men, but I really don’t see how hard she could hope for them to crack the whip on a dude who’s old enough to collect social security already who has nothing in the bank because they lived beyond their means their entire life. It was the same thing here though…she thought walking out of the marriage would put her in a spot where she had more money at her disposal than she’d have otherwise and backed down when she realized things post divorce wouldn’t leave her off better financially at his expense.

Our system’s a complete f~~~ing joke. Don’t ever f~~~ing get married. Some stupid c~~~ can literally destroy decades of working and planning on a whim. Marriage is literally like climbing up on a stool and placing a noose around your neck, then begging her for the rest of your life not to kick the stool out. Nobody would do that…but…idiots still get married…it just blows my mind how dumb some people can be. Maybe she wouldn’t kick the still out today, or next week, or next year…but here we are talking about gray divorces…can you be so sure she won’t change over the next 30 years, and would you be willing to work til you drop dead if you are wrong?

Marriage is like russian roulette. First marriage, 3 of 6 bullets are in the revolver. Second marriage, 4 of 6 bullets are loaded. Third marriage, 5 of 6 chambered rounds. Go beyond that and you havent learned anything, just eat a bullet.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

Beer wrote:

Marriage is literally like climbing up on a stool and placing a noose around your neck, then begging her for the rest of your life not to kick the stool out.

Oh man that is gold!

[Handsome VicParticipant 1613]

Any “study” that doesn’t even mention alimony and child support in the context of divorce should be ignored. Everyone knows the reason, but the author is afraid to say it — middle aged bitches are cashing out when his earnings are at their peak.

I'm going my own way. Maybe I'll see you there.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Regardless, of who files for divorce, or the reason(s) why.

The reality is that Many of the Men will probably go on to live enjoyable MGTOW lifestyles while Many of the Women will quickly become “lonely” advertising for their soul mates on every dating site, and most will settle for boxes of wine and a heard of cats.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Beer wrote:

she thought walking out of the marriage would put her in a spot where she had more money at her disposal than she’d have otherwise

My ex. Right there. She thought she’d cash out and find a new guy with even more money. Then she’d have her money, my money, and his money. The only thing better than two people’s money is three people’s money. Didn’t work out for her though. Poor thing.

Order the good wine

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