Get number, get texts, get pic, then she goes cold

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

ZZZZ…online dating sure is trying and random. got a bunch of girls numbers, including one I didn’t really care about because her face looked weird, we texted and I called her ‘cutie’ just to escalate and ask about a tattoo.

She tells me about tattoo then sends an unsolicated suggestive pic of her bending over a motorcycle in tight pants, pretty hot truthfully. I text back and she goes silent. I call her in morning to set up a small date, no answer no response.

Hop online with fake profile see she is online.

Clearly over, but man, woman are so random. Why send a pic like that only to bail immediatly after? (Or, entirely likely she is just back up orbiting me and will come around in a day or two)

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

LightBringer wrote:

ZZZZ…online dating sure is trying and random.

Do you look for your groceries in a dumpster??

YES: Then continue the online dating roulette.
NO: Then why are you looking for companionship in the dumpster??

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

Your time was wasted by a woman, that is what matters. Why she went cold is a question not worth asking.

You want sex, pay for it by the hour or get a fleshlight as is regularly recommended here. Women will make you lose money one way or another, so make sure if you do, it is on your terms.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Attention…why bother wasting your time on there when you get nothing and they get what they want?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

LightBringer wrote:

Clearly over, but man, woman are so random. Why send a pic like that only to bail immediatly after?

Because she’s not interested in YOU.
She is interested in you validating HER.

Assume that about EVERY woman who is “online dating”.
And once you validate her, that’s it.

She sends you a pic bending over and you say “NICE!”, you should expect not to hear from her again. Because right there, she is thinking “what do I need this guy for? I can do MUCH better than him”.

Now if you reply with “time to hit the gym”….
Or even better…

“You could be a 7 if you really wanted to be”.

You’ll DEFINITELY hear from her again. Guaranteed.

She is “online dating” and sexting pics of herself for male approval, and if she’s hott, she gets far too much of it. Don’t ever give yours away. Make her WORK for it. The only reason to participate in “online dating” is to get her into the real world RIGHT NOW. There will be no more “liking” her pictures.

She can grab her purse and come and meet you to bend over IN PERSON – RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, or she can hit the road. The only “validation” she will receive is your glob across her t~~~. That’s the inner dialogue you have to have to put an end to these online attention whores.

What are you even doing there?
Women aren’t even there to meet a great guy(!!!)
They are there to see how MANY guys will retweet a photo of her t~~~.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

LightBringer wrote:

ZZZZ…online dating sure is trying and random. got a bunch of girls numbers, including one I didn’t really care about because her face looked weird, we texted and I called her ‘cutie’ just to escalate and ask about a tattoo.
She tells me about tattoo then sends an unsolicated suggestive pic of her bending over a motorcycle in tight pants, pretty hot truthfully. I text back and she goes silent. I call her in morning to set up a small date, no answer no response.
Hop online with fake profile see she is online.
Clearly over, but man, woman are so random. Why send a pic like that only to bail immediatly after? (Or, entirely likely she is just back up orbiting me and will come around in a day or two)

Hey HB, I think I know how your efforts are going to turn out.

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

Time to send her the dick pic, whatever her response she looked at your dick, who gives a f~~~, f~~~ em, no f~~~s given, f~~~in dumpster divin bro

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

C~~~s just need to feel wanted, that’s why online is available. Because nobody hits on them anymore.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[chirParticipant]

As Keymaster said, it had nothing to do with you. She simply wanted the validation that she was smoking hot. Once she had that she moved on to other guys for more validation. For all you know that photo has been sent to hundreds of guys as she seeks validation.
Its a drug for them. Social validation or {Praise} gives them the same chemical reaction as chocolate. Women seek validation and social praise which is why Facebook and twitter blew up. Delete their Facebook or twitter accounts and take away their smartphones, might as well run them over with a truck. Would hurt less for them.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

LightBringer wrote:

She tells me about tattoo then sends an unsolicated suggestive pic of her bending over a motorcycle in tight pants, pretty hot truthfully. I text back and she goes silent.

Of course she did.

You should have complimented the motorcycle, not her.

Then she’d be the one texting you begging for a date.

That being said, stay the f~~~ out of online dating.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Sbe sent the pic, and my response was ‘I’d ride that’. Idk, was that too much of a compliment or something to her?

But yeah, crazy to me, she’ll give me number, text etc then get her validation and boom gone.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Keymaster wrote:

Because she’s not interested in YOU.
She is interested in you validating HER.

Dammit you guys beat me to all the good replies. Yup this the truth

sidecar wrote:

You should have complimented the motorcycle, not her.

and this was the correct response.

Take it as learning experience. Selfies = self-absorbed-ies
She didn’t want you to see her ass, she wanted to show you her ass. Big difference.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 43]

online dating is sifting the sludge at the treatment plant looking for a pearl

[JuehueParticipant 1316]

My personal experience was the same as KM described. This girl sent pics fairly early, I tried to not complimenting her. As soon as I do it, friend zoned.

[RedRojasParticipant 559]

This same thing happened to me years ago. A good looking latina coworker gave me her number and sat down with me one day while i was eating lunch. After we basically texted each other a couple times she goes totally cold. Experience opened my eyes to exactly what you guys speak of in this thread!

Consistency is victory - Ultra Magnus

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Yeah, literally EVERY TIME I am thinking ‘wow this is going great…maybe I should bail to keep interest high…nah keep pushing!” It always, ALWAYS blows up. When you feel that pull to bail, always do it. You can come back from it, you cant come back from too much though.

[Anonymous 54]

I know im old. This dateing on line s~~~ is just bizzar to me.We sruggle on this site to determine if we are Men or women. How would you not think that anything on there is not pure disimformatiin. You may as well stick your dick in a wood chipper.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

Because she’s not interested in YOU.
She is interested in you validating HER.

Exactly this.
I combat this type of BS with the attitude of,

If she wants validation/attention/anything from me, she has to work for it. She has to prove she is worthy of me. Because I am the real prize, not her.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Keymaster wrote:

Because she’s not interested in YOU.
She is interested in you validating HER.

In my experience, if a woman sends you pictures like that soon after chatting to you then there is no chance of you ever meeting her. I just talk dirty to them and encourage them to send me dirtier and dirtier pictures as this seems to be what they get off on. If you are good you can encourage them to have phone sex with them, but once you have cum you will never hear from them again.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Keymaster is, as usual, 100% right. She’s there for validation, not to meet men. If she were there to meet men, she would’ve engaged with you more.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

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