Friendship With Women – Imaginary, Unattainable, Impossible, Unprofitable

[BONEParticipant 448]

MadScientist wrote:

I have to restate, I don’t share some of your guys’ opinions on being friends with women. I totally disagree that you can’t be friends with a woman, and that they are only useful for sex. If you have any self control and discipline, its possible to be around even very attractive women and not go off the reservation. You just have to set hard boundaries, and make sure they understand those boundaries exist. Once they actually understand you are ‘off the table’ as a mating partner, but are an actual ‘male friend’, and they have earned your respect by not doing some of the things you guys mention above, some of them actually come around, drop the bulls~~~, and act like a friend. It helps if you have interests in common, for real. Philosophy, Art, whatever. I’m not a sports guy, I’ll admit, though I do watch MMA. But I know my female friends are not into that stuff, so I do it on my own, or with guy friends. Easy peasy. Im telling you guys, its a whole ‘nuther level to get to this point, when females are actually revealing to you the bulls~~~ around you, helping you to get dates, and actually NOT judging you by the basic female standards that they apply to ‘regular guys’. The trick is.. they are not common to find, and you have to be able to sniff them out a bit. If they are reading books that speak to real topics, that’s a good clue. If they like going out to places other than dance clubs, thats another one. Hiking, for example.. or camping are interests I have that some of my female friends have. Part of my journey to becoming MGTOW was having female friends who revealed Red Pill stuff to me, before I ever found any men who were doing it. So, if you cannot imagine having any interests in common with women, then maybe it’s not for you. If you can, then maybe you should carefully proceed, non sexually, and try it out. This is how I choose to go my own way.

See, this is what I don’t understand, when people say “they’re out there, just look for em” I don’t believe that anymore, where are they? in caves? tell me, if I told you to walk across a minefield barefooted and told you the ones that won’t explode when you step on it “are not common to find but they’re out there” would you still do it? In my opinion, getting into friendships with women is like stepping onto a minefield.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Peter Griffin learns about friendships with women.

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[BONEParticipant 448]

Lol f~~~ I need to catch back up on family guy.

[Wandering MGHOWParticipant 551]

I might as well add my situation into this topic and get some advice. I currently have 1 female in my life who I would consider a “friend”. She is cool to text, and is even a good lunch buddy (she often pays!). She is willing to learn about good movies, sports, video games, etc. and even impresses me sometimes with her knowledge. She is very different from many other girls to say the least. It is possible that she could even be classified as a NAWALT unicorn.

So with that said, here’s the interesting part about all of this. First off, we had sex a very long time ago. I feel this could be a key factor in our current “relationship”. Secondly, she is in her late 20’s, single, unattractive (5/10 at best), and doesn’t make much money. Before we go any further, I would like to point out that when we had sex, she was more attractive lol. Time hasn’t been kind to her, to say the least.

So now that you have the details, what do you make of this situation? Is she a possible chameleon (/forums/topic/women-and-chameleons/) trying to sneak her way into my life? Does she view me as a potential last resort to save herself from the embarrassment of being 30+ and single/childless? Or is she a legit “friend”. I have set the ground rules for her and she knows that we are just friends, and that I have no interest in anything more. But I still feel suspicious about her at times. I just can’t see her getting into a relationship any time soon, and I think she knows it as well. Because of her limited options, is THAT the reason she is always nice and friendly to me?

 

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Wandering MGHOW wrote:

So now that you have the details, what do you make of this situation? Is she a possible chameleon (/forums/topic/women-and-chameleons/) trying to sneak her way into my life? Does she view me as a potential last resort to save herself from the embarrassment of being 30+ and single/childless? Or is she a legit “friend”. I have set the ground rules for her and she knows that we are just friends, and that I have no interest in anything more.

I think she believes she is “just friends” with you, but given the opportunity she will try to sink her claws into your wallet.

So don’t give her that opportunity.

[Mover1799Participant 58]

It is rare, but possible…..I have had 2 friends that I consider true and yes we have had sex from time to time.  Does anyone have information or research on this particular issue?  Would like to know more about it.

[Mover1799Participant 58]

Kudos!  Very good example

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