Finding a new direction in life

[BrujahParticipant 579]

I don’t want to to include too much details because wall of texts are not easy to digest so I’ll keep it as brief and detailed as possible.

I’ve been sort of directionless after discovering MGTOW last year. Like most other men, alot of my motivation and drive was for female affection, sex, the works. My weight at that point was spiraling out of control and was affecting my ability to work and support myself so I made the decision to undergo weight loss surgery. I wanted to not only ensure I could remain independent but also increase my attractiveness.

Prior I already had my share of heartbreaks, blind dates and whatnots so I was already wary of the game. What I was not expecting at all was despite shedding the pounds something slightly more “respectable” and having my confidence boosted thousand fold, I still had strong feelings of unwillingness and apathy. For the longest time I felt absolutely worthless because I felt I had become a “lost cause”. Beyond all hope.

What egged those feelings on was when I asked friends and family, they all harped the same tune of getting a partner as that would not only drive to me work harder but also open up new experiences and opportunities.

It was then I discovered MGTOW. I was already listening to alot of anti-feminist YouTubers and I stumbled upon MGTOW.

Good lord. I am so thankful for my sanity that I found MGTOW. It instantly confirmed and validated what I had been feeling all this while. I was made to believe I was broken, a useless shell of a man for being unwilling to play the game after seeing all the instances of blue pills around me.

On the flip side, I feel very devoid of direction. I admit that I am not ambitious. In addition I am not social, preferring my own company. I don’t plan on living to an old age because there isn’t alot in life that gets me excited so the motivation to climb the work ladder to earn more to spend on myself or squirrel for retirement isn’t there either.

Video games and food were my comfort. Now with the surgery, food can no longer be a source of comfort but I still take joy in playing games. So I know it’s not depression otherwise I wouldn’t be having fun with that. I’m just… lost.

I’m sorry if it’s vague because I don’t really know what I want either. My ideal scenario is to simply work to survive while trying to be as ghost as possible but it’s the motivation that’s eluding me.

Thank you for your time.

[WallyParticipant]

Welcome brother, I see a lot of your story in mine particarly with the weight loss. I lost 80 LBs myself and had to change how I ate because I used it as a comfort as well. Don’t give up on viewing food as a joy of life, I have found the key is to finding foods that are good for you that you can enjoy in moderation.

Try to find a hobby you can use as your focus, perhaps losing all this weight will open up other avenues to explore. For me I was able to scuba dive more and do my photography and go places I couldn’t when I was overweight. You only get one life brother, find what is your passion and focus on it. Glad you found your way here.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[GreekDragoonParticipant 460]

I am an amateur military historian and I am fidling with PC building when I have the time.

Men are the creative sex, no matter what feminists say we are the ones who build and create while women are the sex who implant strife and the destruction that follows.

Find something creative to occupy yourself, try different things until something click. You will have plenty of time without a time wasting female around.

[BrujahParticipant 579]

I’m so afraid of spending. One of the things I take great pleasure in is drumming. I splashed a thousand or so bucks on a decent electronic kit and not even a year later, it died on me. A replacement module would set me back several hundred.

I’m so tried and frustrated at having to spend on something non essential. It’s what keeping me from investing in anything else.

[GreekDragoonParticipant 460]

Brujah wrote:

I’m so afraid of spending. One of the things I take great pleasure in is drumming. I splashed a thousand or so bucks on a decent electronic kit and not even a year later, it died on me. A replacement module would set me back several hundred.

I’m so tried and frustrated at having to spend on something non essential. It’s what keeping me from investing in anything else.

Don’t know anything about drumming so I can’t help you there, what I can say is to start with something cheap in order to get a feel for everything that you may want to try.

It’s like wanting to try cycling and buying the most expensive bike in order to start. If you end up not liking cycling then you wasted your money on a bike that you only used a handful of times, if you end up liking cycling then you may end up irreparably damaging the bike because you don’t know how to properly handle it.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Brujah wrote:

Video games and food were my comfort.

Find a service profession. There is NO better therapy than providing a useful skill to help someone who’s in worse shape [physical/mental/spiritual] than you. You will eat, sleep, play, and work better than you ever thought possible.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[VarunParticipant 2981]

I know how you feel. This is exactly what I’m feeling too right now. The only difference is that there is a lot of pressure upon me to find a direction.

I have wasted almost 3 years since I graduated high school. I wanted to go to college, but we are a poor lot. There are government grants, but as we are General Caste, I have very little chance of securing one. Also, my family is buried in loans netting over 10k so I can’t secure a student loan too. On top of that, my brother who’s the only earner in our household, haven’t got a salary since February as he’s working on contract; it’s very hard to find permanent employment in India. I’ve been working my ass off to earn whatever tit-bits I can earn online and offline to help.

The point is that life is always a big struggle. Its our perspective that matters. Even though I have so many problems, I do not forget to make time for myself… I listen to music.. I play video games.. I cook (love to cook) and help around the house as much as I can. There are constant rows in my house but my MGTOW education has taught me to grow a thick skin and endure all without losing hope.

Just try reading some books or look up pictures and documentaries of the beautiful places on earth. That can refresh your mind and make you happy in unimaginable ways. I try it whenever I’m down; always rejuvenates my eagerness to live my life and make the most of every moment.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[treelville..miamiParticipant 893]

Yea man, welcome. I feel the same way, I go back and forth with my beliefs but I’m generally leaning towards MGTOW. On that note I’ve become addicted to educating myself, the strongest muscle is the brain. I also try to stay active hunting, fishing shooting and exercise.

"The wounds of honor are self inflicted"

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