Here’s a great post. It’s kinda long but it gives good evidence of how horrible the experience of being falsely accused is. This fellow is still totally blue pilled. He thinks that military justice is fair and that his ex girlfriend will save him. I fear he is going to jail.
Recently, I was falsely accused of sexual assault.
I am a member of the US Military and the girl who filed the sexual assault accusation was in the fast lane to getting in A LOT of trouble. What she had done was against more than a few rules and would have resulted in her getting kicked out of the military. When I was first informed I was horrified, upset, and angry. After speaking with counselors and a defense attorney I came to terms with it. If law enforcement did their jobs they’ll figure out pretty quickly she’s lying to deflect from her own behavior and I can move on with my life. Unfortunately, this couldn’t be further from the truth.
For those unfamiliar with military justice system, when a member is accused of wrong doing that particular branches law enforcement agency investigates. Their job is not to prove or disprove the accusation, just collect the facts. The results of investigation are handed to the JAG office, and from there it is decided if they want to pursue charges. In the civilian world this is the equivalent of someone reporting a crime to the police, and the police investigating. Unless there is overwhelming evidence a civilian is not usually immediately charged with the crime. While law enforcement conducts the investigation the accused goes on with their daily life. Not so in the military.
I was placed on an administrative hold. What does this mean? It means my career is at an absolute standstill until the investigation is completed. I was supposed to promote six months ago, but still haven’t. Having to explain to friends and family why I wasn’t promoted was a real treat. The admin hold also means no TDY’s, no formal training schools, nothing to help or advance my career or my job proficiency. This ordeal has cost me no less than 15k in pay. To say that my mental state is an absolute f~~~ing disaster is an understatement. Crippling depression, weight loss / weight gain, PTSD, anxiety and a whole host of other issues. My girlfriend is a therapist and she gave me a list of her professional observations of what I’ve gone through and what will be needed in the future to help me get over this. It’s going to take a long time.
I have been put through hell over this. The “investigation” has been going on for more than 8 months. My life has been on hold for 8 months and NOBODY GIVES A S~~~. Here are the following things I have heard:
The female will suffer ZERO repercussions for lying. NONE! I can literally prove she stated multiple lies in her initial statement. As of right now they PCS’d her to a new duty station of her choice “to protect her”. We weren’t even at the same f~~~ing base and have different career fields! There was zero chance of us ever interacting. Before this accusation she was on the fast track to discharge. Now, nobody cares what she did before. Only that some evil man raped her and she needs to be protected. Now that she’s under a different chain of command they have decided she has a “clean slate” and all her previous issues are gone. Her new command is not going to pursue charges against her, even though her former command requested they do so. She got exactly what she wanted. She was even promoted … ya know … the same thing I’ve been denied. hy accuser has actually committed multiple crimes under the UCMJ which I could file charges against her for. I’ve been told they wont pursue charges because anything I claim, regardless of how truthful it is or how much evidence I can show, will be seen as a retaliation and not taken seriously.
Nobody is going to be held accountable for how I’ve been treated, the damage to my mental state, career, or financial well being. I’ve already lost 15k in pay, and that number gets higher with every passing day. I have suffered greatly and I haven’t even been charged with a crime. The best I can do is go after her in civil court for defamation of character, which would more than likely loose me money even if I won the case. My attorney even stated I’d be paying thousands of dollars just to make a point on principle. I have been told by multiple high ranking parties that when this is over that I am just supposed to BE GRATEFUL that its done with and move on with my life. Apparently, people can lie and f~~~ up your life and I’m just supposed to smile and be thankful I’m not being sent to prison over a crime I didn’t commit.
I held off for 6 months before finally admitting I had massive mental health concerns and started counseling. I have been having suicidal thoughts and am smart enough to know I need to nip that s~~~ in the bud now. My Commander told me that JAG and Law enforcement see this as me trying to garner sympathy, or that I have a guilty conscience. They literally told my commander this when they spoke! The US Military has a suicide epidemic right now and when a member seeks out help it seen negatively. Unbelievable.
Several friends have been interviewed by law enforcement. They are required to sign NDA’s before leaving so they couldn’t specifically discuss anything with me. However, two of those members contacted my defense attorney to request to testify in my defense if this goes to court martial. Not just because they know the truth, but more so because of how disgusted with law enforcement they were. As stated, specifics couldn’t be discussed, but they told my attorney that law enforcement was incredibly biased against me to a remarkable degree. One friend even said the interviewer said my name “with disgust in her voice”. The questions they were asked were not open ended, or the kind you would ask if you wanted someones side of the story/perspective. They were all leading and an obvious attempt to say anything to incriminate me. One even said when they attempted to tell what they knew about the situation, which was in my defense, investigators tried to cut her off and accused her of lying for me. It was not collecting facts in the least. My First Sergeant told me investigators got angry with him because he advised me of my rights and not to speak to them without my attorney present. They actually cursed him out when they interviewed him simply because he told me what my rights were. For context of how bad this must have been, one of the girls requesting to testify on my behalf is an ex, and before this she hated my guts. I know she still dislikes me, but even she couldn’t sit idly by while my life is torn to shreds. I don’t deserve that.
I’m sorry for the rant, but I can’t talk to anyone about this. Anything I say to anyone can be used against me, regardless of what I say or the context. Any time I reach out for help I’m told it looks bad. More than anything I’m angry about the injustice of it all. I haven’t even been charged with a crime and I feel crippled. I’m scared to death. I just want this nightmare over. What’s sad is they’ve won. When this is all over, I’ll be so happy I can go back to my life that I won’t care that this whole ordeal has been biased and left me with crippling anxiety and PTSD. Its crushed my soul and I haven’t felt any kind of happiness in months. It’s destroyed my career, friendship, and relationships. I have no faith whatsoever in the US Military anymore after this, but can’t leave or I’d forgo all retirement benefits. This is the military “Justice System” that is totally, definitely not biased.
Branched off 2 weeks, 4 days ago.
