Ex gf – idiot friend sent a pic

[Anonymous 1]

TattooDave wrote:

I used to think that I dated borderline personality disorder women then I realized they’re all borderline personality disorder. I’m sorry my friend but they really are all the same. Such a sad State of Affairs. Escape and never look back

Ive me some crazy women and I’ve met some CRAZY women.

BPD’s are a special kind of crazy.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

She is BPD and he doesn’t stand a god damn chance.

Better him than you.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

joller984-

Sorry your “friend” sent you the picture.
I would be feeling everything you describe.
I don’t know your friend, but he should have known better.

My last girlfriend was BPD. I actually liked her, but the drama drove me nuts. In weaker moments, I sometimes think about contacting her, but luckily my brain kicks in. If you had stayed with her, the drama might have made you into a basket case.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

I’d cut the friend off too. Don’t hesitate to cut the negative, destructive s~~~ from your life. So far as all the memories? Time heals it all, so does distance. If you can put some miles between you and your ex then all the better. Just remain secure in the fact that you’re infinitely better off than him.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Anonymous wrote:

@dancingmgtow: All women are crazy. BPDs just move the crazy knob to 11 and take you along for the ride. They are for real.

To the OP;

I could write a god damn book about BPD/ Narcissistic disorder. Trust me; stay strong – your lucky. You don’t end a relationship with one you survive it.

Almost 3 years since my marriage ended and I still get little scraps of knowledge about the ex, in passing, from mutual friends. Her and her Chads are doing well – but I know what waits for the poor sucker(s). She could not break me; it is doubtful he will be as strong.

That being said, it still hurts at times if I dwell on it. I am familiar with the flood of memories and emotions. It passes with time – trust me. When the break first happened I would wake up disoriented and still think I was in my marriage…only have to re-live the trauma again and again. It will pass.

Better times are ahead; now I screw 22 year old on vacations. ?

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Dude, if she is a c~~~ rejoice that she is no longer in your life. You are not missing out on anything other than misery.

[RhettParticipant 637]

The new bf will be mgtow before you know it.

Single guys come home, look at what’s in the fridge, and go to bed. Married guys come home, look at what’s in bed, and go to the fridge.......But the best representative of MGTOW is…………… an empty chair,.

[505vikingoParticipant 521]

He is not a friend. Fire him, and do not look back. That was done to be rotten.

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Going through my divorce talking to my best friend about it, he suggested my ex had NPD. His own mother had been NPD so he had some experience with it. I talked to him and did some research and she did have a lot of the characteristics. But in the last few years I’ve come to believe that nearly all women these days have NPD.

[StentorianParticipant 1690]

Anonymous wrote:

One friend after all this time decided he’d send me a pic he’s seen of her and her new bf on fb.

That was kind of a dick move. Especially if you made the request not get any info on her.

Anonymous wrote:

Hard to take, she still looks like a C~~~ and I feel sorry for him. She is BPD and he doesn’t stand a god damn chance.

You’re the only winner in this scenario.

It can sometimes get us down, when we see our ex’s. Moving on, and “seemingly” happy. But as you described, BPD is no joke.

You’re the only clear winner in this scenario. Celebrate your freedom and that you free as a bird, to f~~~, pump and dump, or do whatever suits you best.

Leave the past, in the past. She will go through guys like a storm. And the plastic happy state you may see in the pics, is short f~~~ing lived.

Cheers to you mate.

“He who takes an eel by the tail, or a woman at her word, soon finds he holds nothing.”

[xenonParticipant 2007]

This is the action of someone who is not a friend. People actually like to tell you things that will hurt. Cut them out of your life and it will improve.

[~BSParticipant 3266]

not all bpd or narcissistic, but a very high percentage of younger to middle aged women are nowadays. Large part is due to the culture we live in nowadays. And because of the internet and globalization, there is no 1st world country or even most 3rd world countries that are immune to it.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Anonymous 1]

I’ll do my best:
The c~~~ paid the “friend”(mostly an enemy at this point) who sent you that picture with a blowjob(without her new cuckfriend knowing about it) to make you suffer more, because you do not escape a c~~~’s trap without paying, do you understand soldier?

Oh and here is another truth, that guy hates to be in pictures with her on fakebook, because it shows what an idiot he is, but the pussy power is strong, and a man will jump into a tiger’s cage for the “right woman of his life”.

You are now free and he is caged, there is no reason to be sad, let them f~~~ each other’s life, and you carry on with yours.
The suffering is also probably a consequence of Oneitis, rationalize that there are no unicorns.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Gargamel wrote:

“You don’t end a relationship with a borderline, you survive one”.

Nailed it brother !

Back in those days that I was with a borderliner, I really start thinking that I have some mental illness, that I getting nuts/mad or something, but my problem was just her, just her insane behaviour that was f~~~ing my mind.

You words describe it perfectly, I survived ! It’s harder to survive to this than in a jungle, alone, without water or food.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

DanceMyOwnWay wrote:

I’m pretty convinced most women have some kind of mental health issues or emotionally damaged in some way. Giving it a label almost excuses their behaviours.

Agreed.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[finallyfreeParticipant 341]

I asked my family to do the same thing when me and my ex called it quits. So what does my sister do? keeps pics of my ex on her refrigerator for over 2 years ( will never forget that crap). I asked them to not tell me anything about her about her new victim/chad. They just couldn’t resist. I even kind of yelled at my mother once during one her stupid updates. If your friend did this on purpose – make him an EX friend fast. Whats so screwed up in my case is my ex is on the actual f~~~ing NEWS sometimes these days. Even had a girl I was screwing tell me ” your ex was on channel 7 news last night”. Can you imagine the horror. Lol

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Solid wrote:

Back in those days that I was with a borderliner, I really start thinking that I have some mental illness, that I getting nuts/mad or something, but my problem was just her, just her insane behaviour that was f~~~ing my mind.

Because they tell you and almost prove to you that “you are their problem”. It takes a lot of mental power and intelligence to escape that programming. I grew up with a heavily violent borderline princess sister that didn’t stop at anything. When I saw her struggling in school while I had no problem at all, I knew which one of us was “the stupid one”.

But I saw and experienced her crooked ways in all AWALT’s…

My eyes were opened and women felt that I didn’t take their s~~~. And so AWALT’s pulled out all of their s~~~ on me at a very young age. At age 9, it was clear: Never get married!

“Me and women” is like putting Plutonium and Graphite close together. I make them boil.

finallyfree wrote:

So what does my sister do? keeps pics of my ex on her refrigerator for over 2 years ( will never forget that crap). I asked them to not tell me anything about her about her new victim/chad. They just couldn’t resist. I even kind of yelled at my mother once during one her stupid updates.

And my mother plasters her whole house with pictures of my sister but not one of them by me.

Although my sister left in 1979 and never helped her in any way. And she only talks about my sister.

But I am the fool to take care of her when she needs help. But I pressured her to take “lazy ass princess” out of her will and give her a limited sum of my money instead. So she cannot f~~~ with me.
But that shows how tight pussy bonds or “pussy conections” are.

And it shows how disgusting, disloyal and unfaithful women are.

Having one like that as a mother makes it eeasier to forget about them all.

Taking care of her does not count as much as being the “elbow c~~~” of the family.

No family = happy life!

And women are to blame.

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[indigoParticipant 16]

Like many others here, I’ve also encountered the BPD woman. It’s difficult to underestimate the mental damage they do to you. They switch between two states, and for no apparent reason.

Their lives are a rollercoaster with dramatic highs of passionate love, and terrible lows with rages and physical and verbal abuse. They are exiting creatures with a deadly secret core.

It took me years to re-calibrate my head, after the end of the relationship with my BPD. The part of you that’s in pain, wants the exciting loving affectionate creature back in your life, and your angst is that the new boyfriend is able to have the good stuff, without invoking the ugly stuff. Trust me,.. he’s got 4 to 6 months of bliss, followed by 18 months of ” What the f~~~ just happened..?”

I came across a book called ‘Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason & Randi Kreger’. No ifs, no buts,..that book saved my life. By around page 15, I was in tears, because I realised several things :

1. I was not crazy, and what was happening to me, was not normal.
2. It’s simply not possible to have any viable long term functioning relationship with a Borderline.
3. An absolute sense of loss and grief, at the realisation that this wonderful loving creature was in fact not real, but a deeply broken person, merely performing an act using a menu of well rehearsed behavioural techniques, to ensnare my love.

One distant day you’ll feel sorry for her. That alluring outer shell, is a cover for a deeply unhappy person. I went back several times, in the hope I could help, understand and ‘fix’ the problem. Nothing worked. They simply cannot be fixed.

Another layer of complexity that you will have to deal with, is that many of your friends have very likely, only seen the beautiful creature, and have never encountered the horrors behind the mask. They don’t know what you know about the other creature.?

Take your time to grieve the loss, and use the experience to learn to spot the ‘red flags’, so you don’t get lured by the ‘siren song’,.. of the next beautiful but deadly Borderline creature.? I believe there is also a website to help with the letting go process, called ‘BPD Central’. Kind of like a support group, to get you safely past the dangerous days when the gravity pull of your BPD becomes too strong to bear.
Good luck my friend.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Gargamel wrote:

Because they tell you and almost prove to you that “you are their problem”. It takes a lot of mental power and intelligence to escape that programming. I grew up with a heavily violent borderline princess sister that didn’t stop at anything. When I saw her struggling in school while I had no problem at all, I knew which one of us was “the stupid one”.

But I saw and experienced her crooked ways in all AWALT’s…

My eyes were opened and women felt that I didn’t take their s~~~. And so AWALT’s pulled out all of their s~~~ on me at a very young age. At age 9, it was clear: Never get married!

“Me and women” is like putting Plutonium and Graphite close together. I make them boil.

Exactly brother !! They nag, bitch, yell, about anything, and men is always the “problem”.

[QuellParticipant 2538]

Wow! Dick move by your friend.

Man, I know how much the “what ifs” hurt when you come across an ex.

The brain is so powerful that it looks for patterns and creates possible future scenarios based upon your current experiences.

What you need to realize is that those internal thoughts are not reality. The reality is your ex for XYZ reason broke up because of things you can’t control. Your brain wishes to control and create but what your brain fails to understand is that you can’t control other people’s behavior.

The biggest challenge I believe we all have in life is letting go of control. I once had a teacher in college tell us to “Never go by your old home again once you move” The new memories will sadden you and cheapen the old ones. Accept what is. There is no success or failure just outcomes. The good news is that we all have time to move, grow and create new scenarios for ourselves.

I hope you feel better brother.

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