Emotional Support

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Didn’t know where to post this in Relations~~~s, Blue-Pill Hell or here but settled here. I have a lenghty introduction so my story is there. Was reading about women and their need for emotional support in Blue Pill Hell and wondered if other men need emotional support at times.

My wife is telling friends that five years ago I abandoned the marriage and started drinking heavily.(Quit drinking last Sept. and haven’t had one since) That is true. Here are my reasons:

In late 2010 I was diagnosed with throat cancer, (stage three). Met with the radiologist and oncologist and they told me I had a 75% chance of survival. Before beginning treatment I had a conversation about the cancer with my wife. I told her I felt the cancer was unfair, that I was a decent person and lived a moral life. She replied the cancer was my own fault due to lifestyle (tobacco and liquor use). I then told her about my fear of dying and needed her to walk this path with me. Don’t remember the exact words but the gist was that I should suck it up and be a man. Wife did not take me to any of the nine chemotherapy or forty radiation treatments. Had to call my dad or a friend for a ride to and from the chemotherapy, was too sick afterward to drive.

In 2012 I was diagnosed with lung cancer, told so by five different doctors and several tests. It turned out to be a fungal infection that required removal of the lower lobe of my right lung. I thought it was lung cancer for two months. Again talked to my wife and told her I was at peace with dying, but had many regrets in my life due to mistakes and poor decisions. And I wished my life had been different. I compared it to a cousin, more like a sister, and how her life had turned out great due to her good decisions. She told me I was just envious and blew me off.

I finally woke up and realized that I am only a meal ticket to her. She is controlling and narcissistic and doesn’t care about me.The world revolves around her. She was my only close friend (I thought) and I needed her support, but she wouldn’t give it. I’m sure other men in MGTOW have gone similar trials. Did you need the same type of emotional support as I did?

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

TTW, you won’t find emotional support from a woman. I could not get number two to take me home after a wisdom tooth extraction. Heartless c~~~. There will be no number 3.

You figured out she’s not your friend. Congratulations. Now you can choose you path. AWALT

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

First things first! You have a new lease on life. You need to make sure you aren’t smoking or chewing – not drinking. Sounds like you already have that part whipped. Congrats!

Women are c~~~s – only care about themselves (you know that now).

Drop kick her uncaring ass to the f~~~ing curb!

I can give you 100 examples of how my wife has literally stepped over my body when I was post ACL surgery or sick – not giving a damn.

It is physically sickening to realize that your spouse doesn’t give a rats ass about your health, well-being, etc. It is a kick in the gut when you have that realization.

Only buddies or the guys here have a genuine concern for you. Don’t ever think a woman does. I’ve been with O N E woman that did. She was a Unicorn. Lightening doesn’t strike twice.

Grab life by the b~~~~ and LIVE IT.

You have been given a death sentence only to have the stay of execution granted. Buy that boat, Harley you’ve always wanted – or take that trip to Patagonia. Whatever floats your boat.

DO IT

[Anonymous 54]

A woman will never have your back.
Unfortunatly we learn this at the worst time in life.

At my worst times in life, they were no where to be found.

She is a cold hearted c–t ( its your wife, you say it) who does not care if you live or die. Depending on your life insurence.

A Dog and other Men is our support network.

[Anonymous 43]

welcome brother

you kicked cancer in the b~~~~, cut out the fungus, now time to work on the 200 pound estrogen laden tumor you carry around.

Good luck.

[ABParticipant 762]

Two Time Winner wrote:

She is controlling and narcissistic and doesn’t care about me.

This realisation alone is an achievement. AWALT.

The moment your value to a woman is questionable, she begins distancing herself and identifying her options of how to ensure her continued existence “after you”; such is Briffault’s Law.

Congratulations on overcoming your trials thus far; never forget, to be here today you have a 100% success rate for clearing life’s obstacles. Do not let up. You are a survivor.

It can be hard to look beyond the rut you are stuck in, but only when you begin to accept every relations~~~ has a shelf life, and that you are disposable to her, can you begin to look toward a future where your priority is what it should be; yourself.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[Anonymous 18]

Emotional support for single women goes like this: You are such a nice guy, I keep getting wet and f~~~ed hard (omg) by Chads. You’d make such a great bf to a lucky girl. The man nods and smiles.

For married women (provided the husband has some spine): He doesn’t put up with my s~~~ tests, I try to control him emotionally but he acts like he’ll just find someone else for sex. I hate it when the manipulations don’t get the results out of him as I expect them to be. Figuring him out for my own benefit is extremely hard.

Emotional support for single/married/divorced men: Keeping one’s word.

[No Ma’amParticipant 212]

I lived a very similar experience with my soon-to-be ex wife while going through a very difficult career transition. Please see my post at the top of this form entitled “An Email to My Wife”. “In sickness and in health. For richer or poorer”? My ass!!!

Most women see us an en expendable utility, a life support system for a paycheck. Nothing more.

Go enjoy your life brother. You earned it. Put her in your rearview mirror. Pursue your bucket list before it’s too late!

"Nobody loves me, but my mother, And she could be jivin` too." - B. B. King

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

No Ma’am wrote:

Please see my post at the top of this form entitled “An Email to My Wife”.

I have read your email several times and wince in pain reading your story. Saddest part is that the experience is all too common.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

“In Sickness and In Health….Till Death do us Part”

These women don’t take vows seriously. If they did, she would have taken you to the treatment and would be 100% by your side. She broke her vow. PERIOD. She LIED.

You don’t need anything more to Go Your Own Way!!!

[OldBillParticipant]

Two Time Winner wrote:

I finally woke up…

Have you filed for divorce yet?

You’ve already beat cancer and a nasty fungal infection. Cutting that two-legged tumor out of your life should be child’s play.

Dump her and reclaim your life.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 6]

Hey welcome brother. You’ve been through so much. You’ve overcome so much too. I don’t have a lot to add, just know that you can share on these forums. It helps!

[Oldsmobileman73Participant 11]

You wont get it! I never did! Taught me a good lesson about having more respect for myself though. However, women expect loads of emotional support! Dont fall into that trap, it’s exhausting and nonreciprocal! If my x-wife ever complains of some bulls~~~ pain, be it physical, or psychosomatic, I offer an immediate, flat response; a solution if you will; without guilt or shame. Such as…”Take some ibuprofen for your alleged sciatica!” Or…”Go talk it over with your sister!”
Hang in there man, you’ll be fine!

"Women are cosidered deep-why? Because one can never discover any bottom to them. Women are not even shallow.

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

Females aren’t the nurturing loving gender we all were taught growing up. In fact, a huge majority of them lack the empathy for “the nurturing sex”.

I’m glad you’re still here, alive and kicking!. F~~~ Cancer, and what it does to good people. you’re eyes are now open and the scales have fallen from them. now go forth into the world and have a new lease on life!.

Cheers!.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[Anonymous 1]

Yup – as far as emotional and moral support goes, its often a one way street, I’ve found.

If you have some problem or want support – you’re told to ‘man up’.

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