Dodged an artillery shell – latest online dating adventure

[Anonymous 12]

Ok online dating is f~~~ed but then so is real life dating.

Anyway, I had been chatting to this woman for a few days she had actually messaged me which was different. I thought she was a little different and seemed nice although towards the end her being different started to appear more and more as weird. She is a couple of years older than me and although I consider myself socially awkward she seemed more like totally inept.

She told me how most of her friends are male and how she respects men and hates feminism and how she hates how men are humiliated and degraded in society etc etc. So most of her friends being male is a red flag to me but everything else at the time seemed ok so I continued on.

Anyway she messages me today and tells me that due to her social naivety she showed our messages to a close friend who has advised her not to continue chatting with me. This blows me away for a few reasons, she mentioned not humiliating men, well I feel humiliated by her breach of trust as we were chatting quite openly and honestly (or at least I was) to each other and now she has breached trust by showing my messages to someone else. Secondly the inability to make your own decision at her age is just incredible even for a woman.

I just needed to vent, not expecting anything from this really, just amused more than anything.

I messaged her back telling her that I was nothing but open and honest to her and that I agree it is best we don’t meet as I like women who can make their own decisions.

And women wonder why they are single!

[SMADParticipant 651]

Anonymous wrote:

she showed our messages to a close friend who has advised her not to continue chatting with me

I think a lot of women do this, BUT, at such an early stage I wouldn’t accept this because it’s not like you are meeting up yet, etc.  I would show my friends messages if they were HILARIOUS or trying to show what a complete pudding someone was.  But for “general” chatting and having an “advisor” I mean, imagine going on a date with this woman.  Would this “advisor” be sat as a third wheel somewhere?  Maybe this advisor has his own agenda.  You may never know.  Whatever the reason, waste no energy trying to decipher it – you have done the correct thing by bringing it to OUR attention for us to mock this woman, MUAHHAHH!

 

 

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[experiencedParticipant]

Sorry to hear about your negative experience. Good of you to admit it. Ya wanna vent, vent! It gives other guys a chance to vent about similar situations. Never tried online dating and your experience is valuable, thank you.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[leobez84Participant 124]

Well that is certainly a crappy experience to go through. Usually much younger women do that but it comes to show you that many women never make that transition past being a girl. A note to the younger folks in our community, keep in mind that your privacy will never be respected by women.

[StandUpGuyParticipant 334]

So here is the way to do online dating. I am not writing about “GAME” as some do because for me that is not my way to go about things. I prefer to be strait-up and honest; for the guys do the “GAME” thing; that is up to them.

1. Make a profile about yourself in simple terms.

2. Do not make the mistake of letting them know your views on the MGTOW world. They are women and can not relate.

3. Exchange a few messages and then suggest coffee or tea in a public place. Prolonging an online relationship is what it is: An online relationship.

3. Do not react to the games they play. At the first sign of CRAZY take three steps back. (Your  last girl is a good example.)

4. Next her, next her and next her until you get something decent.

5. Ask yourself what is her utility; and hold her to it. As soon as she has no or little utility move on to the next one.

 

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Oh come on guys ….. good story about dating … but you know what I’m going to say ….. you know ….. so I’ll just do this 😠

[Anonymous 12]

SMAD wrote:

Morlock wrote:

she showed our messages to a close friend who has advised her not to continue chatting with me

I think a lot of women do this, BUT, at such an early stage I wouldn’t accept this because it’s not like you are meeting up yet, etc. I would show my friends messages if they were HILARIOUS or trying to show what a complete pudding someone was. But for “general” chatting and having an “advisor” I mean, imagine going on a date with this woman. Would this “advisor” be sat as a third wheel somewhere? Maybe this advisor has his own agenda. You may never know. Whatever the reason, waste no energy trying to decipher it – you have done the correct thing by bringing it to OUR attention for us to mock this woman, MUAHHAHH!

I get that we all would chat with a friend a bit about someone we might be thinking of meeting. But to show entire message histories is a bit much, unless of course the person is just a complete loony tunes etc. Yeah I thought the same about this adviser person, would he/she be advising on all dates, is this person who is most likely male more inclined to give biased advice because he likes her? Huge bullet dodged anyway.

StandUpGuy wrote:

2. Do not make the mistake of letting them know your views on the MGTOW world. They are women and can not relate.  

That’s the odd thing. I never mentioned MGTOW, she just started coming out with all this Pro Male stuff, made me think she was different and she ended up being worse than the rest!

 

Anyway a bit of an update, she messaged me back all apologetically, I told her that despite her claims of not wanting to humiliate men she did just that by sharing my messages. She apologized again and told me that had she of known she would have just blocked me as it might have been kinder! I reminded her that she initiated contact with me!

What a f~~~ed up c~~~.

 

 

 

 

[SMADParticipant 651]

Anonymous wrote:

That’s the odd thing. I never mentioned MGTOW, she just started coming out with all this Pro Male stuff, made me think she was different and she ended up being worse than the rest!

Personally, I avoid “political” women.  By my own confession, I am quite preachy and very opinionated, so I would NOT want to go out with a woman like this.  Same with hardcore vegans, etc.  Everything you do then becomes a dig / moan!

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Yep, one of my XGFs did the same thing to me. One of her GFs told her to dump me and she did. I see yet another outcome that was for the best as I review my blue pill days.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 12]

SMAD wrote:

Morlock wrote:

That’s the odd thing. I never mentioned MGTOW, she just started coming out with all this Pro Male stuff, made me think she was different and she ended up being worse than the rest!

Personally, I avoid “political” women. By my own confession, I am quite preachy and very opinionated, so I would NOT want to go out with a woman like this. Same with hardcore vegans, etc. Everything you do then becomes a dig / moan!

 

For sure and not just political women but also ones like this who kept saying how “Objective” she is, Objective is great for many things but in a relationship you want passion and you don’t expect perfection. She approaches interaction like some kind of sociology experiment and seemed distant a lot of the time because of it. In fact I think that is what added to her wanting someone to advise her on the messages.

[SMADParticipant 651]

Anonymous wrote:

For sure and not just political women but also ones like this who kept saying how “Objective” she is, Objective is great for many things but in a relationship you want passion and you don’t expect perfection. She approaches interaction like some kind of sociology experiment and seemed distant a lot of the time because of it. In fact I think that is what added to her wanting someone to advise her on the messages.

When I was younger, I thought my ideal woman would have a PhD in Mathematics and enjoy learning / study like I do, but also know how to let their hair down.  I dated women like that and now I have absolutely NO intention of doing that again.  The best times and fun I ever had were with women who might not be the sharpest tool in the box, but had a decent amount of common sense and didn’t analyse every single little thing – they just got on with life and enjoyed themselves!  When people meet me, they don’t always believe I did my PhD in Space Engineering – I leave “that” side of me to the professional working life.  When I socialise, I am probably the goofiest guy going.

In fact, last week, to honour the late Sir Christopher Lee, I went out with my friend and I dressed up as Saruman (and my friend as Gandalf) – we played Lord of the Rings drinking games, watched Fellowship of the Ring (extended) and THEN we went out into town on a Saturday night, p~~~ed as anything and got SO many photos and cheers.  We even attempted to stop a bus with “YOU SHALL NOT PASS”.  We had a great night and the best women who danced with us were just happy go lucky party girls.  The ones that came up and told me that my Saruman staff “was 2 inches too short to the real thing” were openly mocked and told to get a grip.

“Very” intelligent women are, from my experience, more of a nightmare than many other types of women.  Except cave trolls, goblins and fat hobbits.

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[Ned TrentParticipant 4894]

Anonymous wrote:

She told me how most of her friends are male and how she respects men and hates feminism and how she hates how men are humiliated and degraded in society etc etc.

Actually it’s a good thing you didn’t know her very well. I mean, for all you know she could’ve come/stumbled across some red pill knowledge and just wanted to find out whether or not people who follow that are for real and you Morlock impressively proofed to her, that you are for real and that you do have your valid reasons as for why. Furthermore this seems to be a walking proof of “new” tactics of women, who happen to come across the trend to leave them standing in the rain like we do, hence (thinking their pattern): “Let’s give him the impression that I care about his issues (as in displaying NAWALT/UNICORN qualities) and then if there’s any little doubt coming up, be it originating from within myself or from outside, I can still back off and go back to my old ways (as in back to AWALT stance) at my own free will …”

So this a great example for us to not trust a woman, no matter what she may say, if only to demonstrate just how untrustworthy they are in the end. The manclusion being: Far more women are AWALTs than men are (supposed to be!) rapists. Or like Einstein used to say: “Everything is relative.”

Anonymous wrote:

She approaches interaction like some kind of sociology experiment and seemed distant a lot of the time because of it.

You know rumors say (I read it somewhere): “Like men do have object based hobbies, women’s hobbies are mostly driven towards people and (their) psychology in general and probably the “c~~~ carousel” would be just one tiny aspect of it, whilst the analytical process of every woman aimed at everyone she meets presumably starts kicking in at full force, once she enters her teenage years and from that point forward never tends to wear off.”

Other than that, although we should certainly bear all of this in mind at all times, guys still: don’t care too much about it.

– my modest 2 cents –

 

I'd rather die a natual death with a clear MGTOW conscience somewhere off the grid than one within "modern" civilisation with a big stress mark on my forehead and a couple of dozen tubes plugged into my body. Back to the plantation..? Me..? Hey, literally: I won't ever fucking kid myself...YZERLMNTSIC

[Anonymous 12]

Thanks SMAD & Ned and everyone else for the feedback. I won’t do the quote thing as it takes up a lot of space. So will just respond this way.

SMAD – I have noticed that especially on OKCupid where women tend to be of the University/Leftie nature. They may be intelligent but they lack common sense and an ability to have fun. Their profiles read like text books most of the time and they regurgitate PC Mantra. I’m much the same as you, at work I am very serious and no one would suspect I love heavy metal and bad jokes and everything else that is great fun. It seems women have only one speed and they have to be that all the time. The part about some girls saying your outfit was 2 inches too long was funny as well you always get people like that sadly enough.

Ned Trent – I actually found her caring about men’s issues and hating feminism as kind of odd more than endearing. And as it turned out she humiliated me more by sharing my messages than any other woman has, so what she proclaimed to be her standards were unreachable even by her. I avoided the topic really, I’m not that interested in talking about gender politics with women, women don’t get us, I don’t expect them to and just leave it at that.

Yeah women love to get in men’s heads, some are very upfront about it and will ask to know more, then others will play games and see how you react to things. I think most men don’t care about it because they have a get in get what you want and get out mentality, or in other words pump and dump. The psychosis of the woman matters little.

 

 

[ThomasQuinnParticipant 50]

I wouldn’t worry about her. Yes you dodged a bullet. I have noticed a lot of bats~~~ crazy girls online.

The best advise is. Get them on the phone asap, Get them to send a random selfie withint 48hrs of phone numebr exchange. Meet up within 2weeks of first message. If not delete them and forget them.

No use in wasting time/effort on an “online relationship” girl who never wants to meet.

I would imagine all girls show their friends what new guy that are talking to. Just to show off and compete with their other single friends etc. But the fact that she actually followed her friends advise is big red flad. And who knows.. maybe there was no “friend” involved anyways and she just told you that to let you down easy. Who the f~~~ knows.  Remember men are logical and women are not.

1 online girl I met turned total psycho on me after 1 good date and after 2 weeks I thought I was in the clear ignoring her. Then she randomly messages me tells me that her “friend” told her that she needs to f~~~ me to save the relationship……… WTF????????? relationship?? Total psycho . Dodged a missle with that one.

Once you realize their is no logic involved on the female end then things are easier to deal with.

A lot of these women are 4s or 5s and are desperate. A few are 7/10 and the 8/9s are either fake profiles or gold digger whores .

Glad I am not in any rush or need to find a girl.  The opposite is there clocks are ticking as they age and they MUST find a MAN to save them, to marry, to have a kid and then suck them dry.

 

 

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