Anyway, I had been chatting to this woman for a few days she had actually messaged me which was different. I thought she was a little different and seemed nice although towards the end her being different started to appear more and more as weird. She is a couple of years older than me and although I consider myself socially awkward she seemed more like totally inept.

She told me how most of her friends are male and how she respects men and hates feminism and how she hates how men are humiliated and degraded in society etc etc. So most of her friends being male is a red flag to me but everything else at the time seemed ok so I continued on.

Anyway she messages me today and tells me that due to her social naivety she showed our messages to a close friend who has advised her not to continue chatting with me. This blows me away for a few reasons, she mentioned not humiliating men, well I feel humiliated by her breach of trust as we were chatting quite openly and honestly (or at least I was) to each other and now she has breached trust by showing my messages to someone else. Secondly the inability to make your own decision at her age is just incredible even for a woman.

I just needed to vent, not expecting anything from this really, just amused more than anything.

I messaged her back telling her that I was nothing but open and honest to her and that I agree it is best we don’t meet as I like women who can make their own decisions.

And women wonder why they are single!

she showed our messages to a close friend who has advised her not to continue chatting with me

I think a lot of women do this, BUT, at such an early stage I wouldn’t accept this because it’s not like you are meeting up yet, etc.  I would show my friends messages if they were HILARIOUS or trying to show what a complete pudding someone was.  But for “general” chatting and having an “advisor” I mean, imagine going on a date with this woman.  Would this “advisor” be sat as a third wheel somewhere?  Maybe this advisor has his own agenda.  You may never know.  Whatever the reason, waste no energy trying to decipher it – you have done the correct thing by bringing it to OUR attention for us to mock this woman, MUAHHAHH!

1. Make a profile about yourself in simple terms.

2. Do not make the mistake of letting them know your views on the MGTOW world. They are women and can not relate.

3. Exchange a few messages and then suggest coffee or tea in a public place. Prolonging an online relationship is what it is: An online relationship.

3. Do not react to the games they play. At the first sign of CRAZY take three steps back. (Your  last girl is a good example.)

4. Next her, next her and next her until you get something decent.

5. Ask yourself what is her utility; and hold her to it. As soon as she has no or little utility move on to the next one.

Morlock wrote:

she showed our messages to a close friend who has advised her not to continue chatting with me

I think a lot of women do this, BUT, at such an early stage I wouldn’t accept this because it’s not like you are meeting up yet, etc. I would show my friends messages if they were HILARIOUS or trying to show what a complete pudding someone was. But for “general” chatting and having an “advisor” I mean, imagine going on a date with this woman. Would this “advisor” be sat as a third wheel somewhere? Maybe this advisor has his own agenda. You may never know. Whatever the reason, waste no energy trying to decipher it – you have done the correct thing by bringing it to OUR attention for us to mock this woman, MUAHHAHH!

I get that we all would chat with a friend a bit about someone we might be thinking of meeting. But to show entire message histories is a bit much, unless of course the person is just a complete loony tunes etc. Yeah I thought the same about this adviser person, would he/she be advising on all dates, is this person who is most likely male more inclined to give biased advice because he likes her? Huge bullet dodged anyway.

StandUpGuy wrote:

2. Do not make the mistake of letting them know your views on the MGTOW world. They are women and can not relate.  

That’s the odd thing. I never mentioned MGTOW, she just started coming out with all this Pro Male stuff, made me think she was different and she ended up being worse than the rest!

Anyway a bit of an update, she messaged me back all apologetically, I told her that despite her claims of not wanting to humiliate men she did just that by sharing my messages. She apologized again and told me that had she of known she would have just blocked me as it might have been kinder! I reminded her that she initiated contact with me!

What a f~~~ed up c~~~.

That’s the odd thing. I never mentioned MGTOW, she just started coming out with all this Pro Male stuff, made me think she was different and she ended up being worse than the rest!

Personally, I avoid “political” women.  By my own confession, I am quite preachy and very opinionated, so I would NOT want to go out with a woman like this.  Same with hardcore vegans, etc.  Everything you do then becomes a dig / moan!

Morlock wrote:

That’s the odd thing. I never mentioned MGTOW, she just started coming out with all this Pro Male stuff, made me think she was different and she ended up being worse than the rest!

Personally, I avoid “political” women. By my own confession, I am quite preachy and very opinionated, so I would NOT want to go out with a woman like this. Same with hardcore vegans, etc. Everything you do then becomes a dig / moan!

For sure and not just political women but also ones like this who kept saying how “Objective” she is, Objective is great for many things but in a relationship you want passion and you don’t expect perfection. She approaches interaction like some kind of sociology experiment and seemed distant a lot of the time because of it. In fact I think that is what added to her wanting someone to advise her on the messages.