Divorce Settlement Negotiations

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Only treat her as you know she would treat you. Then walk away with a clear conscience.

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[Clint EastwoodParticipant 323]

Your children are adults so they won’t figure in the legal side of the divorce process. You won’t have to pay maintenance or child support for them and you won’t need to fight for visitation rights or custody. They’re adults, so they’re free to do as they please.

Just look after number one and take all you can. You can bet your ass she’ll be trying to do the same.

Stay vigilant. They're everywhere.

[OldBillParticipant]

If she had the whip hand, you can be sure she’d be beating you bloody. Remember, she chose when to initiate the divorce. The choice was hers which make the consequences hers.

You hesitation over how magnanimous you should be is little more than the death throes of your social indoctrination. Even your illogical “reason” for treating her better than she is due points to this. Your children are adults and, if they need help, you help them just as easily as your wife.

Settling money on her to cover the possibility that she might have to help them in the future is like handing a drunk a bottle to cover the possibility that someone might need a drink in the future. You know she’ll p~~~ through it instead and then still come begging to you when or if the adult children need help.

Standing firm and showing no favor will also drive home the fact to her that you two will be divorced. I know too many men who still emotional tampons and piggy banks for the women who left them. Don’t let her do that to you by parading fantasies of the past and using your children.

Get her signature on the paperwork as rapidly as possible. If you need to bend a little on the money issue, do so if it results in an earlier signature.

Once the final paperwork is entirely complete, cut her out of your life as you would a tumor. Block all calls, tweets, and texts. Block emails and “de-friend” her on Facebook is you haven’t left that site yet. Return all her snail mail unopened.

Remember, she chose this life. Make sure she lives it good and hard.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

Heh Marathon,

Yeah, think it is all in the details. I like you am trying to just have a conversation with her about how to solve her problem, while keeping all my cards to my chest. She gets angry and acts aggressively whenever the conversation comes up. We have decided to do the sell and split, really there was no other option. The issue is how can she afford to have a place to serve the needs of my kids as well as her needs. She gives me the costs of the places she is looking at but I just say nothing. I will let the lawyers arrive at a tightly negotiated position. I do not think they have to reach an agreement before i act, but just have the issues clearly identified and the differences. Then I will decide how much to give her and how. I am free soon and I am so incredible happy about it. I have some moral issues that I feel are legitimate, and it is really a moral decision for me. But if it does go off the rials i will certainly offer nothing and just fight it out. I appreciate all the feedback given here as it gives me both alternatives and I wanted to hear what people would say about going for every possible dollar and/or going in a way that is more giving and forgiving. Either way I will have the life I dream off. That is already in the books.

Let the good times roll

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

Your children are adults so they won’t figure in the legal side of the divorce process.

Where I live child support is paid till 22, or till 25 if they stay in school. So there are some dollars there but not that huge.

Let the good times roll

[NeroParticipant 1466]

BlakeGuy wrote:

Your children are adults so they won’t figure in the legal side of the divorce process.

Where I live child support is paid till 22, or till 25 if they stay in school. So there are some dollars there but not that huge.

BlakeGuy wrote:

are some dollars there but not that huge.
Let the good times roll

What?!!! Where in the f~~~ is that?

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