Did that make you feel better?

[DocParticipant]

Some fantastic posts here.
Many thanks for the input.
I am at work presently so can only have a cursory read. I will read more thoroughly at some point over next 24-36 hours and reply to what I can.

I agree that we need to process our emotions and particularly when grieving.

Anger and rage I think is healthy and needs expressing if safe to do so.
Pick the right environment and all that.

Tower – a similar technique of rapid exhilation is used in some martial arts during impacts or when completing explosive moves.

Thanks again for the posts guys.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[DocParticipant]

OldBill wrote:

g-mow wrote:

The focus is on progress, not on the outburst.

Bingo. You summarize in one sentence what I couldn’t in two paragraphs.

Sadly, too many here prefer the outburst to the progress and thus never really go their own way.

Yes I like that too Old Bill. The progress is imperative.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[Anonymous 54]

Just beware of dissociation.

[GrumpyParticipant]

I believe the problem is that people in general express major negative emotional outbursts when faced with a minor annoyance. This in turn, reduces the significance of any type of “outburst” when a major incident occurs.
Personally, I held everything in check for most of my life. I didn’t bitch and moan, whine, complain, or voice my opinion. Until it was too damn late, then I would explode with built up rage, and actually end up tearing the muscles in my back and shoulders due to tension build up.
I learned very late in my life, to the detriment of my physical well being, that sometimes it is better to let the small s~~~ pass with just a minor comment and forget about it, rather than just store it up for later rage.

So yes, for me personally. A quick outburst of anger or rage actually does make me feel better as I dont suffer for days, weeks, or months with real physical pain.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[HermitParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

g-mow wrote:

“Does one need an audience”?

Some clearly do.
Ive have zero respect for that.

Some take this for a theatre gig.

See how hard it is to get a real theater gig.
Forceing it on a captive audience is just cheap.

I don’t want anyone to see me responding emotionally. I practice being in control of my emotions, especially when around a person or people. Yes, emotions are natural, but I don’t want them to control me. Children and women can’t control their emotions and they certainly like to have an audience.

I view emotional reactions as weakness and when someone sees that you are losing control of your emotions even for a brief moment, they definitely see that weakness in you. We all get mad. We all get sad. Let anyone see those emotions in you and you will have made a mistake.

When I moved into my brand new house after the divorce, I was putting some eggs into the refrigerator. The egg carton became unbalanced and 2 or 3 eggs hit the floor, splattering everywhere. I went into a screaming cussing fit. Even though no one was around, that was stupid. Since then I have gained more control. A couple months ago, I spilled this large container of chili on the floor. Even though I was standing in a pile of wasted chili, I maintained my composer. For a split second, I felt an emotion inside me, but then I just laughed and dipped a few crackers in the chili pile and cleaned up the mess.

If someone can say or do something to get you to show emotion, they have control over you. When someone says something I may not like, the best thing I’ve found to do is say nothing at all and maybe even smile a little. Give them nothing.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 3]

Great subject Doc!
I am dealing in the last few days with a depressed daughter with emotions running amok. It is a downward spiral.

I used this metaphor: if I was to slap once you would get stunned.
A second slap would make you angry.
A third slap would make furious.
At each following slaps your emotions would get progressively worst.

So, if something happens we have a specific emotion. Remembering again and again the experience just makes everything worst. It enhances all the emotions to exponential levels.

The way I see the stoic position, it is to deal with what happened in the real world, and not creating more from our head.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

[Anonymous 54]

Beleive it or not, in real life I am very well controlled.
Great resrtaint.
I dont yell or smash things.
It surpises me sometimes, the amount I can endure.
My critters are never afraid of me.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

It’sallbs wrote:

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I’ll give Trump one thing! He put four torpedoes down the port side of Political Correctness!

(((BOOM))) (((BOOM))) (((BOOM))) (((BOOM)))

Indeed, I like that about him and some of his put downs amuse me.

Still say he’s a charlatan though.

They really should make Uncle It’sallbs president you know.

I’d not fcuk about with a wall-just put up a fence with watch towers every few miles (manned 24 hours a day) with patrols -they will just dig under the wall anyway like they do now.

I’d fcuk off that Monsanto and you’d all have a job building cars in Detroit or running your own small holdingsi f self subsistance was your bag.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

It’s all bulls~~~, emotions, feelings, is all a pointless bunch of crap, someone made up that s~~~.

Emotions are useless I want to be as cold as possible. Why keep stupid s~~~?

Happiness? Just a mind state, don’t obsesed over it.

It doesn’t matter at all. Feelings are not real, the red pill rage is just rage, it has its function for a time but is bulls~~~.

I don’t know why we create this emotions, but I’m trying to eliminate them from my brain.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 42]

Grumpy wrote:

I held everything in check for most of my life. I didn’t bitch and moan, whine, complain, or voice my opinion. Until it was too damn late, then I would explode with built up rage, and actually end up tearing the muscles in my back and shoulders due to tension build up.

It’s always BEST to nip discord in the bud before it has time to flower, for instance, someone on the telephone giving me a hard time, I’ll ask them to please calm down and talk rational like a human being, if the anger and abuse persists I will warn them that I’ll hang up the phone on them unless they chill out and come back to earth. It’s worked every time, screaming back is no way to defuse the anger and end the drama. I don’t yell, scream, or contort my face when confronted with the same, I always look for a way to defuse the situation. Unless I’m feeling “f~~~-it” and fed up, then I’ll turn up the flames, but that’s usually almost never.

Grumpy wrote:

I learned very late in my life, to the detriment of my physical well being, that sometimes it is better to let the small s~~~ pass with just a minor comment and forget about it, rather than just store it up for later rage.

Resentment burns a hole through the mind, body, and soul! I tend to forgive when asked and shun when burned.

Grumpy wrote:

So yes, for me personally. A quick outburst of anger or rage actually does make me feel better as I dont suffer for days, weeks, or months with real physical pain.

I’ll admit that when I approach a simple project that morfs into several hours and a whole box of tools along with all the tricks, eventually it gets to me and a loud primeval roar can be heard then I drop it and take a break, I can go for hours on a 10 minute job that went south as nuts, bolts, and plastic starts to break! But eventually fatigue and frustration takes it’s toll and it’s time to walk away.

[Anonymous 54]

Carnage wrote:

It’s all bulls~~~, emotions, feelings, is all a pointless bunch of crap, someone made up that s~~~.

Emotions are useless I want to be as cold as possible. Why keep stupid s~~~?

Happiness? Just a mind state, don’t obsesed over it.

It doesn’t matter at all. Feelings are not real, the red pill rage is just rage, it has its function for a time but is bulls~~~.

I don’t know why we create this emotions, but I’m trying to eliminate them from my brain.

Why do you need to work so hard at it.

[Anonymous 42]

It’sallbs wrote:

I’d not fcuk about with a wall-just put up a fence with watch towers every few miles (manned 24 hours a day) with patrols -they will just dig under the wall anyway like they do now.

Fkn A! One .50cal. sniper is good for a mile in each direction! Two if he’s lucky! That’s only 1 man every 2 to 4 miles and machine gun nests where the crossings are more frequent, and use sonar for detecting any tunneling then pile drive the tunnel flat while they’re still digging!

[HitmanParticipant]

some people enjoy wallowing in misery.
it’s all they really know.
.
one takes a loss and it hurts.
the faster you rebuild your life,
the quicker the anger and misery pass.
.
it takes different amounts of time for each person.
unique circumstances make it difficult to give precision advise.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Carnage wrote:

It’s all bulls~~~

Correct, all of it.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Very good points throughout this thread.

People get angry for many reasons, often just because they are drama queens and like the attention.

Old Bill’s more serious note that red-pill rage is a process akin to grieving is very insightful and developing a more objective perspective and perhaps a NFG philosophy is important for mental (and physical) health.

There’s f~~~ all we can do about most of the bulls~~~ so we should just enjoy our freedom and laugh at the idiocy of it all and point out faults for entertainment purposes or for education purposes for the newly red-pilled.

I’m not there yet, and still get angry at stuff, but I’d like to think that I’ll get to that point eventually, and will be much happier for it.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[Anonymous 42]

Hitman wrote:

some people enjoy wallowing in misery.
it’s all they really know.

^^^^Not to be confused with puking up misery and getting it out of your system!

Even after all my financial devastation from things beyond my control, my perseverance and desperation to reconstitute my income is finally starting to pay off! The years of effort and self educating are finally putting something tangible in my pocket, and not just my c~~~ for a change!

I’m building a laboratory now with the surplus in income! I’m buying the things I need but couldn’t afford to further my business. I’m slowly getting off my knees from being laid out flat since 2012 and that’s after years of economic disintegration!

I’m on top of my game! I’m kicking ass!

[FragmentedParticipant 2758]

Balance is important. Too much emotion can send you into mania. A complete lack of emotion can send you into a depressive zombie state. Balance is the key.

http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Anonymous wrote:

Carnage wrote:

It’s all bulls~~~, emotions, feelings, is all a pointless bunch of crap, someone made up that s~~~.

Emotions are useless I want to be as cold as possible. Why keep stupid s~~~?

Happiness? Just a mind state, don’t obsesed over it.

It doesn’t matter at all. Feelings are not real, the red pill rage is just rage, it has its function for a time but is bulls~~~.

I don’t know why we create this emotions, but I’m trying to eliminate them from my brain.

Why do you need to work so hard at it.

Why not?

Unfortunately I will never become devoid of all emotions, but at least I will learn to take the ones I can stand, although non at all wold be prefered.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 54]

Carnage wrote:

Old Heyoka wrote:

Carnage wrote:

It’s all bulls~~~, emotions, feelings, is all a pointless bunch of crap, someone made up that s~~~.

Emotions are useless I want to be as cold as possible. Why keep stupid s~~~?

Happiness? Just a mind state, don’t obsesed over it.

It doesn’t matter at all. Feelings are not real, the red pill rage is just rage, it has its function for a time but is bulls~~~.

I don’t know why we create this emotions, but I’m trying to eliminate them from my brain.

Why do you need to work so hard at it.

Why not?

Unfortunately I will never become devoid of all emotions, but at least I will learn to take the ones I can stand, although non at all wold be prefered.

I guess my point is, that you must be a very emotional guy for it to require such effort. Just an observation.
Im the same way underneath it all.
I have endured much loss in life.

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

Doc wrote:I have always preferred emotional composure but see it as not something a person can necessarily master in totality and permanently.

Stoicism was at one time a religion.

I battled with my own emotions in private while doing
the hard labor I chose as an occupation.
After slaving the entire year of 2016 I was feeling
blessed and in control of my destiny.

In 2017 all the compensation for that hard work was
taken from me and I was tossed in jail.
deemed mentally incompetent. denied bail until
evaluated. Was locked up from Feb until Aug 2017.

This is not to be considered me crying.
I gained more understanding by this adventure
than what I considered my losses were.

Sure I realized no compensation for the last
two years but I gained invaluable knowledge
concerning my own emotions.

The only emotion that cannot be totally and completely
enslaved is “SORROW”
The only emotion that you do not want enslaved is “LOVE”

Combined They create compassion for the ones who
are not asking for help, but only an ear..

Hear the cries of those who are being tortured
and ignore the cries of those torturing themselves.

I have no juice buttons left after my ordeal.
I am the one and only agent assigned to control
my emotions.

Still I cannot enslave my sorrow nor my love.

I see those who are in emotional pain with compassion,
yet all I can do is hear their cries and determine
for myself if their pain is caused by outside sources
or from their own lack of understanding.

Love and respect to all

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

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