Decision on Planned Trip with Ex

[HReardenParticipant 86]

Hello everyone – I recently swallowed the red pill, and am starting to understand this unbelievable power. I also really appreciate all of the shared wisdom that’s being expressed on here and in this community. I have a father who has been a part of my life for the last 27 years (he’s married to my mom, and I do appreciate everything they have done for me). However, I am faced with a predicament.

This past January (before I broke it off with my girlfriend of 2 years this past month), we purchased tickets to Thailand together. We are going to be on the flight there and coming back only (I haven’t finalized my itinerary for the entire trip there). This past month/year has been a challenging one with growing my business and I still want to go on the trip – its really the only reward I created for myself. My main concern though is temptation.

I haven’t seen her in a few weeks and I was very attracted to her. I am vowing to not have sex with another woman until I get my business going and have achieved everything I want. I did want to hear some other people’s thoughts on my situation and would be grateful to hear any wisdom from those who may have been in similar situations.

Thank you again gentlemen – your advice is much appreciated.

[KolaxisParticipant 668]

Do not let this woman derail you! The best way to resist temptation is to RUN!

Listen, a trip to Thailand sounds awesome, just not with your ex. If you can get a buddy to go along with you instead then that’s cool. But if it’s with her? NO WAY! Don’t give her ANY opportunity to take you down. If you can’t arrange a different traveling partner than cancel.

You can always reward yourself in another way. If Thailand is a dream, make it happen. Again, find another traveling partner or just flat out reschedule at the very worst. But under NO CIRCUMSTANCES do you give this woman a chance to wreck you. RUN FAR, FAR AWAY. NEVER RETURN, NEVER LOOK BACK. The grass is greener where you’re standing right now. Do not cave in. Be strong. KEEP GOING YOUR OWN WAY!

Edit: Besides, why should she benefit from you rewarding yourself? Screw that.

Jackie: How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall: I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.

[KevinStylesParticipant 2580]

Well you do deserve a reward once in a while. If you’re plane tickets are the only things purchased, go. You can maybe call the airlines to see if you can get a different seat so you don’t need to sit together. Then once you get there, nothing says you need to stay together you can both go on your separate ways.

[JVBParticipant]

If the only time you gonna see her is the flight there and back, what’s the problem? Do your own thing bro. I guarantee you she has her plans made and they don’t include you. F~~~ing some other bitch could just be what you need.

Peace is > piece.

[MonkParticipant 16988]

Is the temptation the ex, or local c~~~-for-hire? If it’s the ex, then the solution is simple, stay away from her. How hard can that be?

Has she made any attempt to persuade you to get back together? Why did you break up in the first place?

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Kolaxis wrote:

Do not let this woman derail you! The best way to resist temptation is to RUN!

Listen, a trip to Thailand sounds awesome, just not with your ex. If you can get a buddy to go along with you instead then that’s cool. But if it’s with her? NO WAY! Don’t give her ANY opportunity to take you down. If you can’t arrange a different traveling partner than cancel.

You can always reward yourself in another way. If Thailand is a dream, make it happen. Again, find another traveling partner or just flat out reschedule at the very worst. But under NO CIRCUMSTANCES do you give this woman a chance to wreck you. RUN FAR, FAR AWAY. NEVER RETURN, NEVER LOOK BACK. The grass is greener where you’re standing right now. Do not cave in. Be strong. KEEP GOING YOUR OWN WAY!

Edit: Besides, why should she benefit from you rewarding yourself? Screw that.

This is right on. Do not put yourself in a bad situation, and do not give up your dreams for someone that only wants to live them in your place.

[PrincekieParticipant 1042]

I’ve been in this situation myself.

Let me give you some advice. First of all, you know and I know that the feelings for her are going to be there, right? So the whole “holiday” will entail you focusing on your ex, whether you like it or not. Failing that, she will be focusing on you.

They’ll be tears. They’ll be manipulation. There’s a good chance there will be break up and make up sex, followed by more heartache/manipulation. Is that the sort of holiday you want?

A holiday is where you focus on relaxation, getting to know different people and different customs/cultures. Enforced misery is where you’re forced to be in the company of someone you’re trying to break away from.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

HRearden wrote:

we purchased tickets to Thailand together.

Based on my own personal experience,DO NOT FLY TO THAILAND WITH HER!!!

Did she pay for her own ticket?
Check with the airline about their refund policy on your ticket.
If you cannot get a refund, check into “exchanging” your ticket for a new one a month (or more) later.

Or did you pay for both tickets?
Tell her that you cannot make the trip because of work issues.
Offer to sell both tickets to her, or even one.
If she doesn’t want to, try the refund/exchange ideas above.
NOTE:
She’ll attempt to guilt/shame/sex you into giving her the ticket(s), DO NOT FALL FOR THIS!!!

[ghostParticipant]

HRearden wrote:

I recently swallowed the red pill

This will be a good test to see if you have really swallowed the red pill or not. Challenge yourself and see that you CAN resist. It will make you feel POWERFUL. Don’t be afraid.

hey I have a question

sorry, I don’t have any more answers

DISABLE her at the source.

[BeachBumParticipant 813]

She might not even be on the flight. What woman go on vacation to a foreign country on their own?

her only hope is if she still likes you as a provider and thinks she can patch things up while on the plane to get you to pay for her sh**t while you’re on vacation. (keep this thought in mind and you’ll proly escape the emotional clutches)

[Anonymous 12]

So the business is painful, a lot of effort for little money, and you are in the process of f~~~ing up your mental Zen state by spending time with your ex.

And that Trip is what you call a reward.
It is the final nail to your business before it even gets off the ground.
because after you return you will not think straight any more and she will be messing with your mind a lot.

Silently cancel the trip, get a Fleshlight.
Your Mind is the Tool for your Business, which is the Tool for your future.

Sleeping in the same hotel (room???) as your ex is Retarded.

Say it with me:
I am in the process of f~~~ing up my life.
And i even consider this trip to be a treat for myself.
Mmmmkay?
Re.Tar.ded.

[HReardenParticipant 86]

G-Mow I actually laughed out loud – I really appreciate your honesty and response. Thank you for that.

Princekie – that was a great response, I really appreciate your insight.

Thank you men – I think I have a trip to cancel.

[Anonymous 12]

Is there something else you would like to have, some other area of your life that can use an improvement?
Putting the money you just saved towards a second hand motorbike for cheap transport, to help you move about?
Are there tools you want to buy for the business, but you held off on it because $$$?
Is there some other experience on your bucket list like an advanced driving course/drifting course/defensive driving techniques you are interested in?
Or how about Jumping out of a Plane strapped to an experienced skydiver? Just for s~~~s and giggles?

All those things are more useful and safer than spending time with your ex.

I am vowing to not have sex with another woman until I get my business going and have achieved everything I want.

And In your mind, you KNEW this would be “tricky” – else you would not have asked the question.

What i am saying here is this:
Your gut told you this would be a bad idea. Listen to your gut.
Additionally: Think with the BIG brain, and not the small one.
That´s what builds your business, and that´s what keeps you alive.

Stay strong Brother!

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