"Climax" issue driving my crazy…

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Truth be told, I’ve only had sex with four women in my life. I was always too afraid of STDs and it took/takes me a few dates in order to get comfortable and trustworthy enough to have sex with the woman. I was able to have three of the women shake and cum without much issues. The second woman, went on some hormone RX and couldn’t get wet, thus lost interest in sex because it hurt. Third one came multiple times and was squirting several of them. Then they changed her meds and then was RX’d Prozac and lost all interest in sex. I got rid of her two weeks after that. The last one, who only had two other sex partners was also on two RX’s. I think one was Effexor and Klonopin. She made me wait six weeks for sex. Said she and her sister are both on meds and cannot climax. In fact, she has never experienced climaxing due to these meds. She was wet as hell, so I couldn’t get her to climax at all. I even bought her a viberator, no luck. Oral, finger, reg. sex, etc. Nothing worked. After the second time we had sex, she just disappeared. My other post goes into it more, but still, bothers me I wasn’t able to get her to climax. I feel less of a man since then.

I just don’t know. If it is the meds, it seems many of them have some really strange side-effects. If one has “anxiety” or “drepression”, I am told medical weed is good for that. Not a doc, but again, I just feel less of a man.

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

How do you make a woman orgasm? Who gives a s~~~?

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Duke Togo wrote:

How do you make a woman orgasm? Who gives a s~~~?

Lol. I guess.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

WTF? How old are you? The women? Are all people your generation on meds and if so why? Harden the f~~~ up and face life head on sober I say!

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

PuniShredder wrote:

WTF? How old are you? The women? Are all people your generation on meds and if so why? Harden the f~~~ up and face life head on sober I say!

Still processing things and bad decisions in life… But no, I am not on meds.

[OldBillParticipant]

ForeverDone wrote:

I just feel less of a man.

Wait a minute here. Let me see if I got this right…

You’re basing your self worth, either whole or in part, on the responses of women? You’re opinion of yourself depends, again either whole or in part, on whether you can make a women orgasm?

Did I get that right?

You’ve got a lot of work to do, brother. A LOT of work.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

No no no. Not basing my self-worth on it, it just bothers me a bit. Just that I wasn’t able to get her to climax. Kinda something important.. It just doesn’t sit right with me… It’s an internal struggle.

[Anonymous 6]

ForeverDone wrote:

No no no. Not basing my self-worth on it, it just bothers me a bit. Just that I wasn’t able to get her to climax. Kinda something important.. It just doesn’t sit right with me… It’s an internal struggle.

If I’m reading you correctly here you’re feeling like you just we’re able to achieve what you had at one time, it sticks with you, and you’re feeling a bit disheartened or insecure about the situation(s)… like maybe you could have done better but didn’t? Like I should have just….(fill in the blank). Why couldn’t I have just….?

Right?

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Anonymous wrote:

ForeverDone wrote:

No no no. Not basing my self-worth on it, it just bothers me a bit. Just that I wasn’t able to get her to climax. Kinda something important.. It just doesn’t sit right with me… It’s an internal struggle.

If I’m reading you correctly here you’re feeling like you just we’re able to achieve what you had at one time, it sticks with you, and you’re feeling a bit disheartened or insecure about the situation(s)… like maybe you could have done better but didn’t? Like I should have just….(fill in the blank). Right?

Yes, the old woulda, coulda, shoulda feelings.

[Anonymous 6]

ForeverDone wrote:

Travis3000 wrote:

ForeverDone wrote:

No no no. Not basing my self-worth on it, it just bothers me a bit. Just that I wasn’t able to get her to climax. Kinda something important.. It just doesn’t sit right with me… It’s an internal struggle.

If I’m reading you correctly here you’re feeling like you just we’re able to achieve what you had at one time, it sticks with you, and you’re feeling a bit disheartened or insecure about the situation(s)… like maybe you could have done better but didn’t? Like I should have just….(fill in the blank). Right?

Yes, the old woulda, coulda, shoulda feelings.

That’s life my friend. Your past will still have those thing in it tomorrow and then the day after that. Pain, self consciousness, failure, all of these things show your humanity. Accept the fact that you’re good enough as you are, that means your past too.

[rightturnclydeParticipant 705]

ForeverDone wrote:

My other post goes into it more, but still, bothers me I wasn’t able to get her to climax. I feel less of a man since then

OldBill wrote:

You’ve got a lot of work to do, brother. A LOT of work.

This goes far beyond orgasms – trying to make a woman happy in any form is chasing a moving target that will be forever out of your grasp. You won’t be able to earn enough money, do enough chores, give enough time, provide enough emotional support, please her enough physically. EVER. Trust me, many of us have tried. You need to read, and reread these forums until you realize that feeling like a real man is never, ever a byproduct of trying to make a woman happy. This is an impossible notion and many of us have been been emotionally and financially devastated because we felt exactly like you do. If you want to feel more like a man the answer is simple – work on what makes you happy.

[OldBillParticipant]

ForeverDone wrote:

No no no. Not basing my self-worth on it, it just bothers me a bit. Just that I wasn’t able to get her to climax. Kinda something important.. It just doesn’t sit right with me… It’s an internal struggle.

You contradict yourself at least three times in those 6 sentences.

Not basing my self worth on it…
Bothers me a bit…
Kinda something important…
Doesn’t sit right…

Seeing as you can’t even express what you’re may or may not be thinking, our ability to help you is going to be rather limited.

First, let’s tackle the gross conceptual error you’re laboring under. You’re not responsible for a woman’s orgasm. You don’t make her cum. You don’t get her to cum. While you can help or assist up to a certain point, the job is hers and hers alone.

I’ve got a pretty goddamn low opinion of women but, unlike you, even I don’t think they’re nothing more than machines. I don’t think all I need to do is flip switches, turns dials, and push buttons in the correct order to make them orgasm like they’re some sort of cable remote. Your “thinking” sounds like something out of the PUA pussy beggar playbook; “These 4 simple tricks are guaranteed to make her cum buckets…”

Second, the more of your posts I read, the more suspicious I am of you. You may have found your way here, but I don’t think you’re truly ready to be here.

There’s a lot of Blue Pill bulls~~~ in your thinking and you show little ability, let alone understanding, in getting beyond it.

While every man comes to MGTOW in his own way, every man must be ready for it. There’s no Cliff Notes to crib from, no study guides to memorize, and, most importantly, no shortcuts. You have to be ready to take the MGTOW plunge and, if you’re not, you can’t fake it.

You need to sit down and do some hard thinking. Are you truly ready for this? Or are you just faking it?

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[AkanbiParticipant 2120]

Dump the laydees who take those pills.

Then take your time to take in more Red Pills.

My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

It’s just like a million things going on in my head. My mind just replays videos like an armchair quarterback. I’d be lying if I didn’t say emotions and control are fighting within myself. I found myself here because, with all I’ve stated, I’ve learned you just cannot trust women on a relationship level anymore (if ever). Tom led me to this new type of thinking and it makes sense on in a logical way. Marriage and long term relationships will not happen again with me. The costs are just too high. Sex on the other hand… Pretty hard to give up. I don’t like to feel inadequate. The last one does make me second guess myself. That is all. Perhaps, I am the only one who thinks this way, but as Popeye always said, I ams what I ams. I can re-mold myself in certain ways, however, I do have some Achilles heals that even I cannot build defenses on… Yet. However, I am working on ironing these kinks out.

[Anonymous 13]

ForeverDone wrote:

bothers me I wasn’t able to get her to climax. I feel less of a man since then.

Seriously!?

F~~~ING SERIOUSLY??

Oh man, you got this so back to f~~~ing front it’s not even funny.

It is NOT your job to get her to climax.

I’ll say it AGAIN.

It is NOT your job to get her to climax.

Her climax is her OWN affair.

If she’s f~~~ed up on pills and mental issues and can’t climax,

Guess what?

NOT YOUR F~~~ING PROBLEM.

AND on top of thinking it’s your problem,

You actually let this bother you?

Oh man.

Your penance is to read MGTOW CENTRAL posts from Day one.

Come back in a year.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Working on it. On the site several times a day.

[Anonymous 13]

ForeverDone wrote:

Working on it. On the site several times a day.

I’m sorry man, I don’t mean to jump down your throat like that.

Call it tough love?

It sounds like you still got far too much blue pill residing in your system.

You’ve been burned but you’re still idealistic and have the mindset of wanting to do ‘right’ by women.

You can’t do right by women.

Nothing you say or do makes a modern woman haappyy.

Her default nature is ‘miserable c~~~’

Your default nature is ‘feeling chipper’

She has to feed on that and suck you dry until you’re just as miserable as she is.
When you got nothing left to give, guess what?

You get the old chestnut ‘I’m not HAAAPPY’

In fact if ever you hear the words ‘I’m not haaapppyy’ from a woman,

Smile and say ‘Oh that old chestnut’

Then walk away FOREVER.

NFG.

[bladeParticipant]

DOCTOR BLADE EXAMINATION

How old are you ?

Do you have a strong urge to f~~~ ?

Are you concerned that you couldn’t please a woman sexualy ?

Did you beleave that chick that said she had only f~~~ed two dude’s before you ?

Do you comb hospitals and mental health facilities for woman ?

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 0]

I’m great at sex, I cum almost every time.

[bladeParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

I’m great at sex, “I” cum almost every time.

He is hetro bro . He ain’t into dudes

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

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