Classic Stood Ups

[RebalancedParticipant 346]

Never been stood up by a woman, manginas will let you down also though. Had one ‘friend’ who I’d talked down from killing himself over some dumb bitch who had broken up with him. He’d even said to others that I saved his life yet still cancelled a meet with the excuse: ‘I’ve just met some new girl and she comes first’. Haven’t spoke to him since.

I don't need pussy

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

Yep, the definition of blue-pill insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results from women.

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

I guess you were more optimistic than I was… I just doubted that very many girls were reliable. I adapted my strategy, and I’ve not often been surprised since then, thankfully.

[narwhalParticipant]

In HS had planned to take this girl out. I was the new guy at school and she actually asked me. Found out from her two best friends that she was only asked me to my her BF (or maybe it was who she was pining for) jealous. She was going to stand me up, and they thought that was pretty lousy..

So, I did I decide I was going to stand her up, then since I was now free Friday night, I asked her two friends if they had plans. Turns out they were both available…had a pretty good time.

The last woman I actually pursued at all stood me up…however, I’ve learned. We agreed, on a Friday, to meet for a Sunday night dinner, but did not set a place or time. I texted her Sunday morning to set the details…no response. I texted ounce or twice more without response, so I never ever left to go anywhere. Finally heard from her late Sunday with an apology, but no explanation. When I asked for one, she got all defensive and starting acting like I was a jerk for asking. I just was looking for some reason to possible reschedule, because other then her great t~~~, I had none at that point. She was likely with some other guy, which wouldn’t have bothered me really.

But yes, in this day and age, I would follow that formula. Agree to the night, but don’t set a place and time till a few hours beforehand. Besides sending the message that she’s not important to plan ahead, she is unlikely to respond to a text if she doesn’t plan on meeting, thus you aren’t going to waste your evening.

Ok. Then do it.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Knew this girl for more than 2 years.
She contacts and says “Haven’t seen you in a while! We should hang out! It would be fun”.
Let’s meet for a bite after work next week.
“Awesome!”

I email the afternoon before “Tomorrow at 6 for happy hour.”

“Awesome! Will be great to see you.”

“Flake and die.” ( I actually said that )

“Are you kidding? I would NEVER!! See you tomorrow!”

I email the next afternoon. “I’m taking off work early. So I’ll be there before 6.”

at 5PM “OMG!! I’m really sorry but I have to take care of my dog. My mom blah blah blah…..”

No s~~~. I could have bet $1MILLION on it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Keymaster wrote:

Knew this girl for more than 2 years.
She contacts and says “Haven’t seen you in a while! We should hang out! It would be fun”.
Let’s meet for a bite after work next week.
“Awesome!”
I email the afternoon before “Tomorrow at 6 for happy hour.”
“Awesome! Will be great to see you.”
“Flake and die.” ( I actually said that )
“Are you kidding? I would NEVER!! See you tomorrow!”
I email the next afternoon. “I’m taking off work early. So I’ll be there before 6.”
at 5PM “OMG!! I’m really sorry but I have to take care of my dog. My mom blah blah blah…..”
No s~~~. I could have bet $1MILLION on it.

I’ve used the following strategy to address the above (s~~~ test) scenario:

1. After she contacts you with “we should get together sometime”,
respond with a “meet at <location> at <time>” for the next WEDNESDAY or THURSDAY.

2. DO NOT CONTACT HER AGAIN!
2a. She never responds. 50% odds
2b. She attempts to change location/time/day. 25% odds
2c. She will “agree” to meet. 25% odds
None of the above need any additional response from you!

3. On the day/time, be “in the area” of the location, but do not go there.
3a. If she texts “can’t make it, sorry”, no need to respond or contact her ever again. 95% odds
3b. If she texts “I’m here, where are you?”, respond with “be there in 10”, and arrive at the location to meet her. 5% odds

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