Changes in me after breakup

[Razor92Participant 41]

Hey fellas,
I joined this forum back in jan 2016 when I was 23 years old. Avid reader of the forum, just wanted to tell you what I did after my breakup, mistakes I did and lessons I learnt.

I was first time in a serious relationship back then and ex wasn’t ready to commit because she was still missing that guy she had a relationship. I was a blue pull back then. I searched net how to get back her and somehow landed over here. Started a topic and fellas suggested to end the relations~~~ once and for all. I listened and agreed but eventually get back with her although peeps here told me that it wont last more than a couple of months but I thought she was NAWALT (After her, I realized there is only AWALT just different faces). Eventually we broke up and this time she ended it because I was too clingy. Well there was a post break up, some foolish message and things like that. My friend even told me not to message if she wanna come back she will if not then it’s confirmed that shes holding someone else dick. Long story short 2 months passed by, some education related s~~~ happens and forgot about. Started an internship, hit the gym and eventually start earning handsome amount of money and she didn’t come back. I was a nice guy before the break up then I turned into jerk and start dating multiple girl then I had for the first time had sex and I realized that is this what majority of people are after just a couple of minutes of excitement after going through stress filled relationship

Its been an year since we last talked and 1.5 yrs since we last meet each other and now as I reflect back on my life. I realized that girl was holding me back I wasnt happy in the relationship, wasting my nights chatting with here and dating in which I try to please here and help her.

That breakup was an eye opener for me. I started observing the girls I dated after her and they were showing same signs of being drama queen, attention seeker and life sucking parasites. I realized that dating multiple girls isnt the answer. Living your own life and improving yourself is the answer. I used to think that how naive these people are who are talking about being in a relationship or marriage and everything will eventually fall into its place but now I think that everyone has to go through ordeal to become a mature man. Rarely, guys learn from others but eventually they learn from their experience.

There is nothing new in here just my experience in last two years.

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

Thanks for sharing that update. Its interesting to see the progression you went thru.

Of course men are conditioned from a very early age to adopt the notion that a lady must be won by gift and fidelity and daring exploits. Early conditioning is very hard to over come and in many cases only painful events can break through the layers of BS we been force fed since early childhood. For me it was my divorce. I hurt a lot right afterwards. Now, I’ve been through the crucible and I wouldn’t give up that experience and the awakening I gained for anything.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Thanks for sharing Razor.
There’s a lot of self-reflection in your post and experience which is admirable, especially for a guy as young as you.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[BubParticipant 1403]

Razor92 wrote:

life sucking parasites.

You have figured women out my friend.
Now always look forward and enjoy your life….

Just rolling down the road

[53ClicksUpParticipant 1345]

All women will hold you back from evolving into a higher form of “man”. F~~~ women! They are a waste of time, money and energy, essentially all the important resources you hold dear. In other words they are a waste of your life!

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

Wise words for a young man Razor92. You have figured it out. Younger guys can gain from your wisdom. Do not be afraid to help brother

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

[Anonymous 0]

Stick around, Razor
You will probably never know it but a few words of encouragement posted here will help some guy you will probably never meet; but nonetheless you will have helped another guy in his journey.

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

You figured out who and what they really are. Your evolution starts now!

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[Anonymous 12]

There is nothing new in here just my experience in last two years.

and that one is new.
And now others read and learn, maybe question their own “life setup”.
I am glad that you know how to take care of yourself now, and are not running after a pussy.

stay sharp, Razor!

[Razor92Participant 41]

Thank you everyone for your responses. I was kinda busy with my work. I realized way long back that if I was still running after girls, I wouldn’t be improving myself and excelling in my own life.

Heave-Ho Mgtow wrote:

Wise words for a young man Razor92. You have figured it out. Younger guys can gain from your wisdom. Do not be afraid to help brother

Anonymous wrote:

Stick around, Razor
You will probably never know it but a few words of encouragement posted here will help some guy you will probably never meet; but nonetheless you will have helped another guy in his journey.

I am ready to help but guys at my age don’t want to learn from it. Instead they run after girls. I once had a chat with my friend and business partner that majority of people in 20s are chasing after girls and not taking their life seriously eventually they face the hardships and reality of life after mid 30s whereas few try to establish themselves in 20s so that they can enjoy their life later on.

Before earning and that bulls~~~ relationship I was like what clothes to wear to impress girls. After realizing the truth, I learnt that only one lady matters in your life and that is your own mother other than that no women deserves respect and What matters in life is how you think about yourself and believe I am much more relaxed and satisfied with my life now.

To all my age fellow and guys who haven’t accepted reality:

The earlier you realize the truth about girls and life, the earlier you will become successful and content with your life.

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