Can you change your sexuality?

[lee2222Participant 14]

I’m into bdsm and am attracted to dominatrix type women

It’s kind of the worst sexuality to have imho

What are people’s opinions on this? Is it like gay people, were as far as I’m aware they have to accept it and they can’t change or could I learn to lose the sexual submissiveness?

I was raised in a very matriarchal household so I think that’s where it comes from, do I just accept it and go along with it so I’m not bored or lonely or should I try to be more masculine and get it out of me?

On the plus side I did have ptsd when I last posted and i I’ve mostly beaten that now but I just wanted to know what people thought about this really?

Thanks

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

Wow, very interesting question. Currently BDSM is defined as “paraphilia” (def’n a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities) but not homosexuality, which used to be defined as paraphilia.

The reason I mention this is that as you point out being gay is considered, now, to be unchangeable.

So if BDSM is like homosexuality I would guess that you could stop the activity but not the attraction. That is my guess or answer. Like an alcoholic I bet you will always crave those pursuits but may develop the will power not to act on them.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

lee2222 wrote:

I’m into bdsm and am attracted to dominatrix type women

Condolences. But WHY?

Some men are perfectly content to allow women to walk all over them, and a marriage very similar to that. Who is anyone to stop them?

lee2222 wrote:

What are people’s opinions on this?

It’s really not an “opinion”. Attraction is not a choice. So you’re attracted to women (which you can’t change)… but you like to be the “bitch”?

Do you LIKE that about yourself?

lee2222 wrote:

Is it like gay people, were as far as I’m aware they have to accept it and they can’t change or could I learn to lose the sexual submissiveness?

Do you LIKE that about yourself?
Why are you asking others?

lee2222 wrote:

I was raised in a very matriarchal household so I think that’s where it comes from, do I just accept it and go along with it?

That question is womanly, and totally UN-“mgtow”.

AGAIN: Do you LIKE that about yourself?

Clearly, your self esteem is in the s~~~ter if you get some personal satisfaction out of being some woman’s bitch. But asking others to help you understand and find yourSELF is not a very manly characteristic.

Men CREATE themselves.

If you don’t like something about yourself. CHANGE IT.
That’s not up to anyone else. It’s up to YOU.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 6]

Yes you can. I plan on turning into a MACK truck!!

[lee2222Participant 14]

I don’t know too much about gay people, as far as I’m aware they can’t change it, but I wonder is bdsm the same

With me it’s because of how I was raised 100%

I don’t believe for one second I was born this way so I kind of hope it can change but I’m not all that hopeful

It’s kind of a bit s~~~, every time I have sex I feel depressed because of it

[lee2222Participant 14]

Anonymous wrote:

Yes you can. I plan on turning into a MACK truck!!

Anonymous wrote:

Yes you can. I plan on turning into a MACK truck!!

Fair enough

Obv I can change myself, but can I change my sexuality?

Hopefully yes but not possibly no

[Anonymous 42]

Trollgladite!

[Anonymous 42]

Trollgate!

[Anonymous 42]

Trollography!

[Anonymous 42]

Trollism!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

lee2222 wrote:

With me it’s because of how I was raised 100%

So what? People are also “raised” to be mormon, KKK, or believe in Santa or the Easter bunny. Eventually even a 6 year old can start to question that s~~~, and eventually they decide it’s silly or childish.

lee2222 wrote:

Every time I have sex I feel depressed because of it

That’s hardly surprising. So you have established that you DON’T like that about yourself. Progress.

You have some figuring-out to do.
Right now, you’re accepting something you don’t like about yourself.

You gotta start liking yourself. And if you don’t…. CHANGE it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Trollism!

Very probably. This really isn’t a line of questioning for MGTOW – AT ALL. Would be better to take it over to a BDSM site. This is deffintely the wrong place for it.

lee2222 wrote:

Obv I can change myself, but can I change my sexuality?

“BSDM” is not a “sexuality”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

Keymaster wrote:

Very probably. This really isn’t a line of questioning for MGTOW – AT ALL. Would be better to take it over to a BDSM site. This is deffintely the wrong place for it.

+1!

[Anonymous 11]

I believe being raised in a household with a dominating mother predisposed you to this also. You never had the gift of a strong masculine role model. These one-sided relationships are not healthy for you.

I’d go monk for a while to get my head clear and redefine myself. You say you beat PTSD which shows you have perseverance so I think you can do it. I’m not so much concerned about the S&M part as long as it’s for play and not for real which is probably how you roll.

Women who are dominatrices tend to be man haters. Why do you want to be with someone who hates you?

Troll was my initial thought too, but I responded only on the chance I could be wrong.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

lee2222 wrote:

but can I change my sexuality?
Hopefully yes but not possibly no

/Sigh/ Here we go……..

[lee2222Participant 14]

MarketWatcher wrote:

lee2222 wrote:

but can I change my sexuality?
Hopefully yes but not possibly no

/Sigh/ Here we go……..

I don’t

I hate those types of women but I just find them attractive, it’s a s~~~ fetish to have

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

Only 1% of people are truly sexually manifested in BDSM according to the DSM. Basically it is considered a “problem” if it interferes with other aspects of your life, which does include the ability for form normal healthy relationships. I dated a girl like that, instead of finding another BDSM freak she tried deceive a “vanilla” guy into thinking she was normal. The creep used a slow manipulative “grooming” process like pedophiles use, even trying to get me in a good mood by having me play a new video game with her the night she decided to “come out” to me. It’s sociopaths like her, that make the other 99% of us want to send those BDSM freaks to the Gulag.

Sovereignty above all else.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

lee2222 wrote:

I hate those types of women but I just find them attractive

Well there you go. Thank you for making the point. Attraction is not a choice.

You don’t need to LIKE a woman to be sexually attracted to her. And vice versa. that’s why women say things like “I don’t get it! I can’t believe I slept with that complete asshole!”. This is the same kind of moron who dumps her boyfriend for being “too nice”.

She doesn’t even understand herSELF or her own attraction mechanism.
That’s what’s going on here.

I would expect this thread from a woman.

lee2222 wrote:

it’s a s~~~ fetish to have

You said you were raised in a “matriarchy”. Either you’re content to resign yourself to this fate… or you’re not. You have a lot of figuring yourself out to do.

I refuse to feel sorry for any woman who gets off on being mistreated, so you’ll understand if I extend you the same courtesy.

Some men are happy to give her exactly what she wants. But a MGHOW would not be interested in placing himself in a position where she can demonize him. That satisfies her too much.

A very pleasant day to you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Anonymous wrote:

Yes you can. I plan on turning into a MACK truck!!

Hahahaha

Good one.

I never talk about it but intense acute pain makes me laugh.

Yes, something is wrong with my brain, when I was a kid injections caused me to laugh, I broke my wrist once, that was funny like hell, painful as f~~~, but I laugh, nothing to do.

I’m also a bit of a masochist, but I don’t think this is the right place for this.

However I only enjoy pain, not humiliation or domination, just pain.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Now I think about it must be frustrating fighting against a guy who is smiling when you hurt him bad.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

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